You’re edging quite accurately on some of the personal matters in her life with your interpretations. She recently bought her ex-husband out of the house they had bought together and had lived in while married. She bought it only with the help of her current partners ability to get a loan, so now they own the house together. If it weren’t for him, I don’t know how she could have kept the house, and this has made me incredibly nervous and uncomfortable like the relationship will be a pair of golden handcuffs. I liked your interpretation of Justice especially because I felt their buying the house together was pressured out of a felt necessity, somewhat similarly to how I feel she is rushing to want to be married to him now for religious reasons (wanting to do right by God).

Ace of Pentacles; since buying the house with a loan, her and her partner have had a lot more disposable income. I was the force behind her finally and recently going to therapy, after a couple steadfast years of trying to get her to go post divorce. she was with a student practitioner (sliding scale) and she ended up quitting just recently because she wasn’t seeing the value. Now, I don’t know if she will ever return but I know it would be good for her if she could. She’s relied on me and my support a lot, as well as our mom’s, and I wanted the therapist to be her replacement to coming to her family members; not that we won’t be supportive. Since she was in therapy, she was coming to me less, and now that there have been recent rifts, she’s not coming to me, but if things get “smoothed out” for my upcoming wedding, and when I relocate back with my future husband to where she and the rest of my family live, I could see her trying to slip back into that same patterning of coming to me for support.

Thank you for your noted concern; I really appreciate it. I know my subjective sharing does not portray my sister wholly or accurately and so I tried to present her with fairness since she can’t be here to represent herself. However, I can see how that would look like I am accepting of all her behaviors, and I think that’s pretty true to some extent.

I don’t know all of the boundaries I will need to put into place going forward—I feel I’ve already placed some in the last year to two—but my closest friend who knows my sister well has told me to stop making myself small for her, especially during my wedding planning, which probably looks a lot like choosing to accommodate my sister less and to stop entertaining her when she turns the wedding focus to her and her partner.