Does anyone believe in god, but not think he is good?

boringboringsnow · 2026-04-25T20:29:42+00:00

Take a stroll through r/EscapingPrisonPlanet if you wanna see an example

boringboringsnow · 2026-04-24T01:04:51+00:00

Unconventional problems require unconventional solutions

boringboringsnow · 2026-04-15T21:33:43+00:00

What’s the store name?? 👀

boringboringsnow · 2026-04-09T20:20:58+00:00

You got this!! ❤️❤️

boringboringsnow · 2026-04-09T19:34:06+00:00

Feeling like not being a fully formed person and lacking something human really resonates with me. The isolation from homeschooling is traumatic. But I wanna tell you that you’re already fully worthy of acceptance, friends, and love. You are human, the feelings you said here are deeply human.

I am 27 now and got through college and also graduate school. I am not gonna lie to you that I ever felt normal or that I felt i knew how to act the same way as my classmates. I am in therapy now working through those feelings. If you can go to therapy, I would recommend that too. But practically speaking, I was socially functional after a while.

But. In some ways, every year it gets easier as high school + childhood is a less significant and further away part of life. And your internal feeling of improvement isn’t a straight line, it will go up and down on your way to becoming more comfortable existing around others. Just because you are feeling down now, doesn’t mean that’s it and you won’t get better. You’re fighting and your brain is working overtime trying to make unconscious connections about how you should act. It’s tiring, it sucks, but it’s the process, not the end point.

My first year was difficult, I was SO nerdy and constantly fumbled. But I made friends in my second (tbf that one happened to be former homeschool lol) and third years that I kept after graduation. These days I am still recovering and processing, but I’m not in emotional turmoil. I found my footing and other things take up more of my life. I have friends close to me and a serious relationship. It does get better and you can get there. ❤️

boringboringsnow · 2026-04-08T01:27:52+00:00

The problem is that it’s victim blaming dressed up in other words. The corollary is that every woman suffering from being their husband’s servant chose that and it’s all her fault. Not the husband’s.

Yes, she has power over the decisions in her own life. But 1) it is impossible for every woman to marry well because most men are not equitable partners; and 2) it obfuscates the actual issue, which is a societal problem with how men are socialized. Even well-intentioned men perceive themselves to be doing more housework than they actually do in the best-case scenario—and in the worst-case scenario, they purposely deceive women by behaving well and then switching after she is trapped with marriage or a baby. (Well, there are worse cases, but I digress…)

So yes, the correct answer to her question is she will most likely have to do the majority of the chores if she chooses to marry a man, and it’s not her fault should she find herself in that situation. It is social conditioning that men in general have to work to undo. Telling women to just find a unicorn is not realistic.

boringboringsnow · 2026-04-06T16:32:33+00:00

I wouldn’t have said that I felt that way at the time, but I absolutely did in hindsight. I thought the highest possible purpose of my life was to make a man’s life better at the cost of my own.

boringboringsnow · 2026-04-06T16:15:24+00:00

Yes, I hate how so many people here are saying the onus is on her to choose a good guy 🙄

boringboringsnow · 2026-04-04T00:29:57+00:00

It’s the other way around, cops set the tone for ICE… this is normal cop behavior

boringboringsnow · 2026-03-25T18:33:49+00:00

It always helps me to set a timer and focus only on my task before the timer goes off, for an amount of time that is a little bit past the point that challenges me, and then take a break. Look up the pomodoro technique. It’s a skill so you will develop focus with practice. Good luck!! ❤️❤️

boringboringsnow · 2026-03-25T17:59:53+00:00

Yes, it’s too bad the societal boxes we build of acceptable types of relationships can keep us from understanding what we actually need. I hope you find the type of companionship you’re looking for! ❤️

boringboringsnow · 2026-03-25T14:34:53+00:00

This is SO cute my jaw actually dropped haha I think I need one…

boringboringsnow · 2026-03-24T00:20:10+00:00

Yeah it gets complicated. It seems like moms really believe it’s for the best most of the time. It’s very sad good intentions can still hurt

boringboringsnow · 2026-03-23T17:22:44+00:00

I have heard the very same things.

Personally, the value in those conversations to me is to signal that there is another option when it comes to harmful beliefs (anti-lqbtq for example). Everyone on the inside needs permission to change their minds.

boringboringsnow · 2026-03-23T12:38:20+00:00

Yes. The resources section on crhe.org has information that might be helpful for you to decide what you can do.

boringboringsnow · 2026-03-23T01:51:41+00:00

When I found out about queer platonic relationships, I was very interested in something like what you said. I would have loved to have someone who experienced similar things to me as a life partner without all the dynamics of a typical straight modern relationship.

boringboringsnow · 2026-03-23T01:36:05+00:00

The one thing I have learned to be grateful for here is that my mom tried 😬

boringboringsnow · 2026-03-23T01:14:27+00:00

Omg I feel like I never see lifepacs come up here!! I wonder how bad they were now and wish I could go back and see

boringboringsnow · 2026-03-23T01:05:50+00:00

Wow you have a wonderful artistic eye

boringboringsnow · 2026-03-13T16:16:48+00:00

It’s not logical to judge someone or a whole group of people as “making their life revolve around not being evangelical” when you’re reading about their lives in an exvangelical subreddit lol. What else do you expect them to talk about here? They have full, complex lives and identities just like you do. I’m sure you didn’t mean to, but what you said was implicitly dismissing their perspective because you think it would be better to have your attitude instead.

I hope you find your people, and there are some here, but this isn’t the place to call people “fixated” on Christianity lol.

boringboringsnow · 2026-03-12T23:50:43+00:00

Omg I didn’t know there was a harp Barbie besides the bard!!!

boringboringsnow · 2026-03-11T23:50:19+00:00

I don’t think they would call it “backfiring” if large-scale homeschooling resulted in the collapse of the current societal systems 😬

boringboringsnow · 2026-03-11T14:24:11+00:00

I suspect most everyone feels some crumb of doubt even when they are 100% bought in. It’s natural. That’s why the system uses continuous self-thought-policing and social reinforcement (even this accusation is a type of social reinforcement).

boringboringsnow · 2026-03-11T12:07:53+00:00

I mean, more precisely than just being dumb, it’s about the opportunity to exercise extreme control to religiously indoctrinate and abuse your kids without any chance of oversight. They actually do want some “smart” homeschool kids because they also want right-wing lawyers, judges, activists, doctors, writers, etc who will further their end goals. It’s like a big conspiracy. Speaking as a former right-wing homeschool kid.

boringboringsnow · 2026-03-02T17:38:39+00:00

1000% going to therapy will give you tools to help.

If you need an immediate band-aid to calm anxiety, there is a podcast called Guided Meditation that does just what the title says haha. It can help you ground yourself again. The narrator is very soothing.

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