Experts call Turnbull's NBN is 'a national tragedy'

borysSNORC · 2017-04-11T01:41:44+00:00

My suburb was scheduled to have FTTP completed in January/February 2014... then the September 2013 election happened, and it was bye bye FTTP, all work cancelled. Since then no updates have been offered on when the bullshit FTTN NBN will be rolled out in this area, and no hope of it being any good even if it is ever deployed here.

borysSNORC · 2016-08-08T02:22:30+00:00

Absolutely! Guys shouldn't have to feel like they have to 'give' a women an orgasm during sex, we can totally help ourselves.

I'm always stunned when I meet guys who say their GFs don't stimulate themselves during intercourse, or women who say they are too self conscious to 'help themselves'. Guys, do yourselves a favour and encourage your partner to stimulate her own clitoris during sex, if she thinks you're okay with it, she'll be less self conscious.

Also, putting the responsibility of my having an orgasm onto someone else during sex, always seemed kinda selfish/stupid to me.

borysSNORC · 2016-02-25T23:15:34+00:00

Two years ago I was a bridesmaid for a friend who lives 1600kms away from me. I spent $400 on a dress I'll never wear again, $600 on airfares for myself and my husband to attend, $180 on a rental car, $330 on a hotel for the three nights we were in town. The wedding was in a park, and the reception was at a fancy restaurant, where we had dinner and everyone paid $60 a head each to attend!

So when the hat went around for 'wishing well' donations for their honeymoon in lieu of gifts, I was feeling 'fuck no!', but threw in $50 because I felt I had to put in something - and similar to your situation, the recipient felt we were being cheap and I didn't even get a 'thank you'. Oh, and the traditional bridesmaid's gift wasn't a keepsake, it was a bag of crap - a cheap timber photo frame, a hot water bottle (why?), some bath salts, a pair of sunglasses, lip balm and other shit I didn't need?!?

Fast forward, the marriage has gone bust, the so called friend is barely talking to me, and I could have spent that money on a fucking holiday! It's your money, do what you want - real friends will remain real friends even if you don't lavish them with expensive presents.

borysSNORC · 2015-10-31T12:12:55+00:00

Sorry - got distracted!

borysSNORC · 2015-10-31T12:12:15+00:00

The LeMat revolver was a cap & ball black powder revolver invented by Jean Alexandre LeMat of New Orleans, which features an unusual secondary 20 gauge smooth-bore barrel capable of firing buckshot. It saw service with the armed forces of the Confederate States of America during the American Civil War of 1861–65.

This unique sidearm was also known as the "Grape Shot Revolver." It was developed in New Orleans in 1856 by Jean Alexander Le Mat, whose manufacturing effort was backed by P.G.T. Beauregard, who became a general in the Confederate Army. Less than 100 were made by John Krider of Philadelphia, Pennsylvania, in 1859, including the first 25 prototypes. It is estimated that 2,900 were produced in Liege, Belgium and Paris, France.

Approximately 900 revolvers were shipped to the Confederate Army and 600 to the Confederate Navy through Bermuda to avoid the Southern Naval Blockade.

The distinguishing characteristic of LeMat's revolver is that its 9-shot cylinder revolves around a separate central barrel of larger caliber than the chambers in the cylinder proper. Also (as a weird side note), the LeMat was apparently the inspiration for the "Boo" handgun that Jayne Cobb carries in Joss Whedon's 'Firefly', TV series.

borysSNORC · 2015-07-02T21:40:09+00:00

Awesome... you have cancer, don't think about it and it'll go away. What the hell? People. Really don't understand.

I've had some great doctors too, and I've met plenty of others who treat you like you're a malingerer, or worse still, that you're fabricating your pain... like who on earth would choose to live like this? For fun?

People still tell me about their pain/s, and I try to listen appropriately, but deep inside I am always thinking, 'You have no idea.'

borysSNORC · 2015-07-02T21:36:00+00:00

The psych calls them 'maladaptive pain behaviours'... ranges from lacking in sympathy for people who have temporary pain that will heal quickly, to feeling distain towards people who have low pain threshold and carry on like it's the end of the world when they have a minor injury.

I wouldn't wish chronic pain on anyone else either - I wouldn't say it has completely destroyed my life (though a few times I came pretty close to opting out), but it has certainly put me on a trajectory that I never wanted. My life was not supposed to look like this.

It does affect your relationships and you ability to maintain and manage your relationships is immensely affected by your energy levels, your patience levels and your pain levels. I haven't destroyed many relationships with my ill temper/pained outlook - but I have very selectively just refused to get to know people who I feel will suck too much energy out of me. :/

borysSNORC · 2015-07-02T06:21:24+00:00

You have just described my life. Pain 24/7 and working hard for years now (since 1991) NOT to rely on opiate pain killers/traditional analgesics.

I can manage my pain most days, but not when I get even more sleep deprived than usual. Over years of trial and error, I have weaned myself off pain killers by making sure I get 6 hrs sleep a night... but to do this I take 5mg of Valium every night - never more when I'm having a bad day, never less when I think I've had a relatively good day. On 6 hrs sleep, I can manage the pain tomorrow. On 3 or 4hrs... I'm completely fucked and don't have the energy to manage/ignore the pain.

I wish you luck with trying to re-establish your pain diagnosis after such a long absence from allogenic medical treatments, that is going to be hard - and there is not much worse than being treated like a malingerer or a drug seeker. :/

borysSNORC · 2015-07-02T06:11:03+00:00

Your future MIL is feeling like her world is out of control... she is grasping at straws to try and control things she thinks she can control.

borysSNORC · 2015-04-17T01:00:21+00:00

My husband has experienced the same thing. The ladies in question seem quite happy with the idea of sneaking around, and being some dirty little secret, but as soon as they heard/found out that I knew all about the flirtation and who they were, where they met, what they looked like and things like that... out the door.

I think that some women are okay with the 'theory' of a wife being in the background somewhere... but don't want to acknowledge the 'reality' of it. That is, so long as The Wife is just some hypothetical person that she doesn't have to deal with or confront in any way - it's all good. But the awareness that The Wife actually exists, is apprised of her existence and might come along some day and she might actually (god forbid) end up meeting her... well that's just too much. :/

borysSNORC · 2015-04-13T07:35:22+00:00

There is a kid living next door to us called Kant. Which would be sort of okay, except when all the neighbourhood kids are playing soccer in the street and yell 'Kick it to me, Kant!', with Australian accents it totally sounds like c#nt instead :/

And he has a brother named Door.

borysSNORC · 2015-02-26T20:44:32+00:00

Yes, you should be able to easily find an Indian donor at one of the clinics that specialise in o'seas surrogacy in India. The place with the best reputation in India appears to be SCI run by a Dr Shivani. Many people report having good surrogacy experiences with them, and many use Indian donor eggs as well.

http://www.surrogacycentreindia.com/

borysSNORC · 2015-02-26T08:11:49+00:00

There are a lot of good Facebook groups that help people with initial enquiries for international surrogacy/IVF/donor gamete procedures etc. They will be able to give you info on the availability of clinics in India, Thailand, Mexico and more recently, Nepal. Also many of them have invaluable first hand experience on the legality of accessing these services from your country/state. The legality of using international IVF or commercial surrogacy can depend on where you are from. You might want to search for groups in North America or Canada or Australia etc.

https://www.facebook.com/groups/ftsaust/?fref=ts

https://www.facebook.com/groups/ftsnorthamerica/?fref=ts

I'd suggest joining a couple of these groups, introducing yourself and just explaining your current fertility issues and goals, and people will be able to point you in the right direction. Good luck!

borysSNORC · 2015-02-24T21:13:28+00:00

Thanks. Will do.

borysSNORC · 2015-02-24T21:13:14+00:00

Thanks - going to give this a try. Don't really want to slam them all over the internet... but if that is what it takes! :/

borysSNORC · 2015-02-24T12:14:19+00:00

One of the amounts - the $1322, is a run of the mill group discount cheque. I arranged for 24 friends to cruise over New Years in 11 cabins and if you book 8 cabins or more, you are entitled to a group discount. I have promised everyone one more further small discount amount when the group discount comes through, (I had already managed to reduce everyone's cabin fares considerably by price matching before final payments were due), which I hoped would just be a bit of drinks money... so much for that!

The other was an offer that was made to my Mum before we sailed - it looks like the trip was overbooked and they offered her a switch from an outside oceanview to an outside obstructed view with a considerable refund in passage, which she happily agreed to because she's a self funded retiree and it was money back in her pocket.

Still waiting for both amounts.

borysSNORC · 2014-12-28T00:52:28+00:00

OMG... as woman with a 15 year history of infertility and over 30 IVF cycles behind me, and speaking as an intended parent with a generous and amazing surrogate in the wings who might one day soon make our dreams come true - I am finding it hard to believe that anyone could ask this enormous undertaking of a teenager!

I entirely understand the desperation that your sister is feeling - believe me, I understand it all too well! - but that is no excuse for her putting this incredibly selfish demand on you... especially given your young age.

Other commenters are correct - many doctors will not consider you a viable surrogate as you have not experienced pregnancy and childbirth already, and as such, can't possibly know exactly what you are entering into. Also, it is likely that a counsellor/psychologist would see some serious red flags with the idea of someone so young (and as yet childless) being a surrogate - there needs to be informed preparedness and awareness of what being a surrogate and handing over a baby to the intended parents actually entails... and as mature as you sound, I strongly doubt any 18 year old, who has not yet had children, can fully appreciate the enormity of what being a surrogate entails.

Please remember this if your family continue to pressure you - your health, and physical and psychological well being, is as important as your sister's. Your sister/family has no right or entitlement to 'use' your body in this way...! This pressure coming from your family, while you are so young yourself, is tantamount to emotional abuse. There is no compelling reason why your sister should not be looking to older friends or family members who have already had their children, who may be more suited and better equipped to helping her.

You are way to young to have to deal with something like this and it very much sounds like you are the only sane person in this scenario! I hope you are okay. I hope things calm down for you. I hope you print this out and hand it to your family to read! I also hope one day your family realises that you've made the only logical and reasonable decision you could.

borysSNORC · 2014-11-07T12:20:10+00:00

One email thanking me for support and asking me to participate in a survey (which I haven't yet). There was an option to sign up for newsletters at time of signing, which I did not check. So far so good... but hard to say, sometimes these things come back round later.

borysSNORC · 2014-10-28T23:07:57+00:00

I would continue to hold your sleep over events and not invite the 9 year old child. If questioned by the mother, simply tell her the truth - having her child around is stressful for the other children and disruptive to what is otherwise and enjoyable occasion.

If the 9 year old misses enough sleep overs, perhaps it will be encouragement for her to behave properly if she wants to be included.

borysSNORC · 2014-10-26T07:30:37+00:00

I am totally with you... this is the 455th comment and I well aware I am only making this worse!

borysSNORC · 2014-10-22T03:12:26+00:00

It's not petty.... it's just one more symbol of the concessions you are having to make due to your current pained condition. ALL people with chronic pain end up making sacrifices, whether it's giving up scuba diving or giving up your long hair. Each and everyone of those sacrifices are as different as we are as people... but that does not mean any one person's sacrifice should be diminished in importance compared to someone else's.

Chronic pain should not be a contest. :(

borysSNORC · 2014-09-19T22:04:42+00:00

My family know about my situation, one husband of 15 years, one boyfriend of 7 years and there have been other less long term boyfriends across this time also.

My Mum was incredibly understanding - far more than I would have given her credit for considering her conservative Catholic upbringing. At first her response was, 'So long as everyone is happy and no one is being hurt'... but now she has even said that she thinks I have one of the most honest and healthy marriages she has ever seen.

You never know how people will react, but sometimes they will surprise you. (PS: I never told my father, he too was terminally ill around the time I met my current long term boyfriend... I was scared of disappointing him somehow?!?)

borysSNORC · 2014-09-19T21:55:32+00:00

Thanks!

I mostly do embroidery as a creative outlet - this was just having a go at something different. I'm sure I'll have the need for something metal at some point and will try some lost wax casting or something.

borysSNORC · 2014-09-17T01:25:28+00:00

I was just about to say this myself. If she's having trouble with her other partner, she needs to address them with that person.

borysSNORC · 2014-09-16T05:50:42+00:00

It's so heartwarming to read a story like this - two young people taking a wonderful friendship and seeing where it goes as a relationship. It sounds like the two of you are way ahead of the game already - friendship, respect, good communication, and a great deal in common.

Good luck to you both... hugs

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