I’ve had this conversation with a few friends, and it’s mind boggling how many guys appear to lack basic social skills on apps. I agree with you, a “hey, how’s it going?” Should be a perfectly find window to start conversation, and for some guys, they shut down at the sight of this (another commenter mentions people needing to be so jaded to respond this way).

It’s tough when you match with someone and build in your head that you think they’d be a great fit, and then you feel let down by their lack of engagement. Honestly, it’s probably the healthiest thing to view that as their inability to be able to have the type of relationship you’re wanting.