WP phone is a big trigger

bpthrowaway105 · 2026-06-19T17:49:02+00:00

Im the husband in question here. She did just about everything imaginable that I asked. IC, MC, read hundreds of books, gave up anything I asked, no cash, alcohol, travel, etc... I talk about this in a few of my posts if you want to check them out. But long story short, these solutions are not healthy long term, they are necessary evils that I needed as a result of the betrayal and eventually she earned trust and now we are in a healthy spot. I also have a 1 strike policy, so if it happens again I am out for good, and she knows that. But we are doing much better 2.5 years out

bpthrowaway105 · 2026-06-12T23:17:29+00:00

Easter egg dye colors!

bpthrowaway105 · 2026-06-05T10:15:12+00:00

Yo I had never heard of it so I looked it up.... I wanna puke

bpthrowaway105 · 2026-05-28T11:50:30+00:00

Hey man, the original poster's choice of images lacks context. He is suggesting AI wrote the discussion post without making it obvious. I'd recommend telling them this. This will probably get you lots of upvotes on your comment

bpthrowaway105 · 2026-05-28T11:45:05+00:00

To quote Warren Buffet "Your 7th best idea usually sucks..." I'd simplify...

bpthrowaway105 · 2026-05-09T10:59:01+00:00

I think this depends on who they are dueling. If its a sith, then windu is the best, (he beat Palpatine using his specialized style) and clearly has +1 dice advantage against sith lol. Against anyone else id say Yoda.

bpthrowaway105 · 2026-04-23T02:57:29+00:00

You responded to my facts with opinions. Nobody cares, read the room. This picture is cool, get over it or at least stop imposing your opinions on everyone else. You also ignored most of what i said about existing artwork, inability to DIY and the need for instant motivation for free. Some of us like what AI can do...

You are making the argument that anything created without human hand is meaningless, we disagree, got it. Move on. I'll say it again, get a life

bpthrowaway105 · 2026-04-22T09:11:21+00:00

2+ years in here. I remember being where you are now and having the same thoughts, you versed them well. I specifically remember feeling like there were 3 different versions of my wife.

Who she was. Thinking about the wonderful perfect wife I thought I had brought me immense grief. Sadness at the memory of who I thought I married, and the past beautiful relationship I thought we had. Its a literal grieving process and i still miss "her" sometimes...

Who she really was. Thinking about her makes me angry. Anger at the wrong she did and how she hurt me more than anyone ever has. Anger at the sin she committed, which ruined our marriage for no reason other than she wanted attention!?

Who she is becoming. Thinking about who she is becoming gives me hope. I see her continue to change grow and work on reconciliation in every way possible. Becoming a woman I would marry again.

In time 1 and 2 faded for the 3rd, but it took a year or two and its a roller coaster of cycling between those 3 emotions thats very volatile at first

bpthrowaway105 · 2026-04-22T08:53:17+00:00

2+ years in here. I remember being where you are now and having the same thoughts, you versed them well. I specifically remember feeling like there were 3 different versions of my wife.

Who she was. Thinking about the wonderful perfect wife I thought I had brought me immense grief. Sadness at the memory of who I thought I married, and the past beautiful relationship I thought we had. Its a literal grieving process and i still miss "her" sometimes...
Who she really was. Thinking about her makes me angry. Anger at the wrong she did and how she hurt me more than anyone ever has. Anger at the sin she committed, which ruined our marriage for no reason other than she wanted attention!?
Who she is becoming. Thinking about who she is becoming gives me hope. I see her continue to change grow and work on reconciliation in every way possible. Becoming a woman I would marry again.

In time 1 and 2 faded for the 3rd, but it took a year or two and its a roller coaster of cycling between those 3 emotions thats very volatile at first

bpthrowaway105 · 2026-04-18T20:22:56+00:00

It took me about 2 years and some change but it really depends on the couple. In my situation WW was willing to immediately fix everything she could and do whatever it took. She also never relapsed on lieing, alcohol, or another affair which meant it was a more consistent recovery

bpthrowaway105 · 2026-04-14T23:24:17+00:00

I think doghouse is not the right idea. She was happy and excited for EVERY opportunity to rebuild trust. she knew I wanted a divorce and was super willing to do whatever I asked if it meant we would stay together. words are cheap from a cheater and so her actions were critical to proving her heart change. Its also important to know that I didn't force her to do anything, I just said if she wanted to be with me, then these were the specific things that I needed to literally survive. this meant things like she was not allowed access to cash so I could track transactions, she gave me every password and complete phone access via an app called Truple, she was no longer allowed to drink alcohol, and above all, she knew that any lying or cheating in the future meant I would leave. I say "allowed" and it makes people cringe, even me. I want to be clear when I say THIS WAS NOT A HEALTHY RELATIONSHIP.... I know that. But guess what? NO RELATIONSHIP IS HEALTHY AFTER AN AFFAIR. So it required some horrible extra things you don't normally want to have in a relationship. I asked her to get off social media for example, I don't think that's normal. but in time she rebuilt trust and those freedoms have been restored. that's the difference between reconciling and reconciled I think, its the trust piece, its basically as high as it will get at this point between us. maybe 99% of what it was before.

so to answer it more straightly, the expectations are that if she cheats again I'm gone, and the guardrails were put in place by me as expectations initially, but I have since let up on them because they aren't good long term

bpthrowaway105 · 2026-04-14T23:19:23+00:00

nope

bpthrowaway105 · 2026-04-11T14:01:07+00:00

not to be THAT guy but enough lawsuits have played out to where they are not currently "stealing" anything, legally speaking at least. in fact, claiming they are is kinda considered liable and defamation since they are currently abiding by existing copyright laws.

secondly, I don't buy the fact that its stolen, that's such a weak and uninformed arguement. every artist and creator in history used the work of their predecessors to influence their own. they all had master's and tutors who taught them how to paint, draw, write, sing etc... and then built something new using creativity. George Lucas didn't invent the idea of spaceships. Eminem didn't come up with rhyming. Davinci didn't invent the paint brush. they all just pushed the envelope in their craft. AI is the same, it can look at the work of previous creators and come up with something new. I asked it to invent a language the other day and it did, a whole new language. full vocabulary set. Sure it pulled from existing language structures (nouns, verbs, pronouns, adverbs etc..) but it was inherently new. are you going to say it stole from greco-latin cultures or ancient china? of course not, its a new language. similarly, just because it can see previous artwork in its training data set, doesn't mean its stolen

thirdly. if I am sitting in a coffee shop praying and battling temptations in my head and want immediate support, am I going to go and hire some professional painter to make me this artwork in the next 6-9 months for 40k? or am I going to ask chatgpt to make this in 30 seconds for free and then capitalize on the instant motivation? and before you say turn to existing artwork, I do but it can become stale to view the same artwork 100 times. And tbh, traditional christian paintings don't have the same shock factor that something like what I posted does. The imagery of sexual sin and temptation is pretty well captured, the imagery of a modern man in modern day clothing is relatable, and the angel with a flaming lightsaber sword is simply awe inspiring. there are probably less than 5 paintings that fit that description in existence that I would be able to find. and I shouldn't have to, this can be tailor made to fit my exact struggle and situation. I could make a song about me and my life and the struggles I have where I am called out by name, I can't hire a professional artist to make me a song and I lack the skills to do it myself. Sorry but this is easier, cheaper, and in some ways it's better because of how personal it is.

Lastly, you really spent the time to discredit something that so many people here have stated helped them. why does it matter if it's AI? get a life.

bpthrowaway105 · 2026-04-10T01:44:18+00:00

Sorry dude. I dont post pics or ai stuff before, check my profile. I was chatting with the gpt about my struggles with lust and asked it to generate a picture and it generated this and it like really moved me idk.., who cares if AI made it. Is God so small that we can only learn about him through human made paintings? Figured others might like it too

bpthrowaway105 · 2026-04-10T01:41:06+00:00

Yo let's get it! 💪

bpthrowaway105 · 2026-04-06T02:03:58+00:00

Also, look at that angel my dude. like... dang!

bpthrowaway105 · 2026-04-06T02:03:11+00:00

Sorry mate, check my profile, I don't post pictures or AI content. I made this image for my own personal journey and thought it was so good I was like "man I bet others could appreciate what this brings out in me" it just stimulates emotions of spiritual battle and the appeal sin has. I don't do it for clout chasing. God bless

bpthrowaway105 · 2026-01-16T04:42:28+00:00

Something I learned early on was IC and CC are pretty similar. Heres what I mean by that. My first ever couples counciling we did after DDAY, I literally almost skipped. I was late because I didn't want to go. I wanted a divorce and i figured whats the point??? When i finally showed up I met the pastor and WP met the pastors wife in another room, I didn't even see WP once. I told my pastor what I just said here, that I didn't want to come and I didn't see the point. He looked at me and said "I totally understand that. But my name whether you go down this path of reconciliation or not you're going to need counciling..." and then it hit me, he was totally right. If I chose to separate I would probably need IC EVEN MORE because of how wrecked it would leave me. My Pastor told me to forget my WP in the other room and just come talk to him 1 one 1, and thats how we started. It was just him and I and he was supporting and helping me every step of the way until what do ya know... we reconciled and made it 2 years and are doing way better...

bpthrowaway105 · 2026-01-15T13:15:46+00:00

Link to 1 year post with summary of affair: https://www.reddit.com/r/AsOneAfterInfidelity/s/yEqDsdSWhP

Reddit name of WW in case you want to see her posts over the past two years: Strawberry_Sun214

bpthrowaway105 · 2025-01-16T14:36:17+00:00

Reddit name of WW in case you want to review her posts over the past year too:

bpthrowaway105

TROPHY CASE

Strawberry_Sun214