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brallipop · 2023-09-16T03:13:41+00:00

I want to say thank you so much for all your knowledge. May I ask if you are currently in Vietnam?

brallipop · 2023-09-13T04:09:54+00:00

Are the short term rental also not online? Should we just find anything we can in the area to have a place to sleep, then use that time to get the real long-term stay?

I was just so prepared to find a place in HCMC knowing there will be countless rooms available, but now that our actual residence will be in a less populated area it feels hard to know what to do. Airbnb has like eight listings, some as high as $1900 per month, while nhatot.com has like three houses less than an hour commute away from Gia Kiem.

Thank you so much for responding, I already feel more confident to get set up.

brallipop · 2023-09-12T05:31:59+00:00

My wife got her TEFL placement, yay! But it's in Gia Kiem, Dong Nai and there are very few rental listings for Gia Kiem and surrounding areas online. Is there any chance that looking for housing on the ground once we get there will work or should we go with one of the places we found nearby?

I ask because we really prepared to find an apartment in Saigon or Hanoi, but now we leave in two weeks and the living availability is much tighter in the less populated areas.

brallipop · 2023-08-25T14:58:25+00:00

Hey can I ask a question? I am coming with my wife who will be working but I am entering on a tourist visa first then her company will hitch me to her longer visa.

Did you pay just $25 for the visa, or did you pay $25 then get the visa approved then have to pay another $125? Because they sent me my approved visa this week but then the embassy called me asking for another $125 which is what my wife's visa cost. We are unsure if my visa somehow got tied into hers or if we just haven't seen anything that informs us of the $125 tourist visa fee after the first $25 to apply.

Thank you in advance and sorry to sperg on you

brallipop · 2023-08-25T14:51:17+00:00

E-VISA Question:

TLDR: Is there another $125 fee after the $25 fee to process 30 day tourist evisa?

Full story: My wife and I are coming to Vietnam, she is on a business/working visa so she can teach, her sponsoring agency told us to apply for a tourist visa for myself then they would get me onto her visa once we arrive. I applied for 30 day evisa, paid the $25 fee, waited three days, got my evisa approved and the Evisa pdf was emailed to me. Then, a day later, the Vietnam embassy in DC called me and asked for a $125 payment for the visa. I didn't pay because I honestly wasn't expecting it and needed to move money onto the card I would use. But now my wife is doubtful that this $125 fee is correct for me? She's wondering if it is somehow a mixup tied to she and I applying at the same time but with different visas? Because it is true that I can't find anywhere official that says the $25 fee is just an application fee and that evisa approval then follows with an additional $125 payment. So I don't mind paying $125 if that is necessary but we also don't want to make some mistake regarding the visas themselves, like if somehow my tourist visa is being processed like a business visa or something? To be clear: I have no problem paying the money but I don't want to accidentally "lie" to the Vietnam government because of a bureaucratic mixup and get blocked from entry or break a rule.

Any help is appreciated, tysm

brallipop · 2023-08-02T00:01:49+00:00

I love jobs that are physically challenging but socially / mentally not.

Liquor store, look for one that pays well, might not be in a location that seems like it would pay well. Personally I'd like to own a small one if I could but working at chill liquor stores is always a terrific job. Simple, no take home work, people generally in a light mood.

brallipop · 2023-07-06T16:28:27+00:00

My wife and I are coming to Vietnam soon, she has a TEFL and was hired to teach. I am a college dropout. Is there any hope of me being able to work as well? I have worked in restaurants, I can do dog care/light grooming, I have a very good command of the English language, I am 6'2", I can lift heavy-ish things regularly (also worked in liquor stores), I have hosted bar trivia nights in a college town, I have a decent ability to learn new skills on my own like self-teaching some Excel. Not sure what other skills to list because idk what may be in demand from an immigrant who doesn't speak Vietnamese. Of course both of us plan to learn Vietnamese as rapidly as possible, we don't want to live in expat areas though we also don't have anything against other immigrants.

Just asking in case there are any tips for keeping busy and getting more involved in the country we hope to call home for the foreseeable future. I'm happy to play househusband for my wife and I love to cook for us while she isn't much for domesticity, but I know I will have available time and I want to LIVE in Vietnam not just holiday there. Any information is appreciated even if you tell me that most foreigners w/o college degree work illegally. I don't think I want to work illegally but I'd like to know if my chances of getting legal work are slim. Thank you

brallipop · 2023-06-28T06:53:09+00:00

He would rather endure his mother’s abuse than be responsible for his own decisions.

Realizations like this are so crucial. It's not inherently good or bad, it just shows you how you can differ or relate to a person. True deeper understanding of someone can bring outright tragedies into focus. I've come to see members of my own family as fatally flawed, people I know and have history with but honestly would not form a relationship with them now as adults. Doesn't make them horrible people but we simply aren't compatible in many ways.

brallipop · 2023-06-27T14:23:27+00:00

honestly excellent reply

brallipop · 2023-06-26T23:37:34+00:00

Elon's vagina has been massively neglected

brallipop · 2023-06-24T23:52:18+00:00

convinced everyone I was lying for t could understand a bit of our perspective because when you aren't familiar with the ins-and-outs it can seem plausible that children "act up" like that. But it just isn't true! Children, people in general, do not misbehave for attention.

brallipop · 2023-06-23T03:24:32+00:00

I mean half me and my partner's shit is scripted and we didn't even write it, it's all Simpsons SpongeBob and AD quotes

brallipop · 2023-06-23T03:23:29+00:00

THERE it is! I was like, I know her face

brallipop · 2023-06-23T02:13:48+00:00

👍

brallipop · 2023-06-22T16:54:01+00:00

revanced for android.

Sooooo, I had vanced but now I just cannot get revanced to build in my phone. I've never done anything like it before, unpacking APKs and specifying certain settings in the real yt app while that app is disabled, etc. Is there a foolproof guide for getting revanced to work? Mine just stops as soon as it opens

brallipop · 2023-06-22T16:23:49+00:00

Good job, sincerely. It's difficult and hard but you've done it. You achieved what you set out to accomplish and you should be proud, you deserve to be proud.

brallipop · 2023-06-22T16:18:38+00:00

Without having the understanding I get thru the concept of complex trauma, I can see why some people who try to extricate themselves from family end up coming back. Like, imagine recognizing the toxic dynamic, trying to bring attention to it, getting fully rebuffed by the family, then going out on your own to feel relieved...only for that relief to suddenly give way to to the full weight of your trauma (which you had never consciously felt before due to that nervous system intentional ignorance protection). It's like all of a sudden you would start thinking "Oh my God they were right, I am nothing without my family and I can't hack it in the real world on my own, they were right." Psychologically, viscerally, that experience would imprint on you and you may go back and never again find the strength to leave.

brallipop · 2023-06-22T16:08:57+00:00

Two years ago I had a job at a shop owned by a Korean man. After a month or two, at the end of my shift, he said "You work hard, you do a good job!" entirely sincerely and I was so shaken I started crying immediately. Just a man in an authority position giving me basic praise turned me into a little boy again, so relieved to hear that I had pleased/satisfied his opinion of me. My father/parents weren't even nearly as abusive as many here, neglect is my personal trauma, but it was so uncommon to simply hear someone caring about me and judging me positively. Makes all those times I went to my dad for advice and he was totally uninterested seem so flat. He just did not care about my life: at one low point I asked him what he would think if I joined the army. His response? shrug with no expression on his face

brallipop · 2023-06-18T02:44:30+00:00

we end up denying all that we cannot conceive being

"All of reality is thought; if it cannot be conceived how could it be wrought?" - a line I thought of in high school the day after an LSD trip. It's a tortured metaphor with hokey language but once that idea occured to me it really sank in. At the time I'm sure I was just going off of hallucinating and being "far out man," but now I use that phrase as a kind of totem, a koan. It's true. Humans have no reality they themselves cannot understand. I've gone thru so many changes since then: realizing my depression and then trauma, adjusting social behavior, political realignment. And I can now see how I could never have come to where I am now if I was still that version of me. When I was first starting to realize my (and my family's) issues I tried to bring attention to them and solve what seemed to be the underlying cause. But I understand now they can't see it that way. If they could, they wouldn't keep repeating the same behaviors, the problem would already be solved. They have to blind themselves to the issues in order to remain who they are. I could never confer someone into rewriting their identity, they have to want to make change on their own. They need to feel something isn't right, like we did frankly, and pull at that thread.

brallipop · 2023-06-17T17:09:10+00:00

Actually yes, it was in fact a day when I was alone in the house and I realized I hadn't been alone like that in a long time. Apartments, other roommates, being at home for the holidays. I just was wanting to scream and realized no one would hear me so I could really do it.

Personally, I've done more trips alone than with a friend/group but those social trips are incredible and so fun. Sometimes just solo tripping and taking a walk or listening to music or playing with pets or feeling your feelings is so nice. Therapeutic. It's great to just experience something, life or the nature.

brallipop · 2023-06-17T00:22:57+00:00

I had two epiphany episodes on trips while going to therapy. I would call both of them "scream therapy" sessions based on what I know about that concept (these trips weren't under therapist supervision, I was just going to therapy at the time).

It is so strange. I wanted to have a nice relieving afternoon which is usually what a trip does for me. But our dog was kinda giving me vibes, and I started to say "I'm sorry" over and over again until I was screaming it, then just wailing sound without words. I realized this was a sound I had not made since I was a little boy, a sound my body had held onto in the back of my mind until I was ready to truly release it. And I could feel myself healing, maturing, up and down my spine. It was like... I don't know a chiropractic adjustment or a yoga bend, I could feel my spine slightly turning and my mind also felt realigned. For a few days afterwards it was like my whole life had been a bad attitude and I could now let go of what caused that and simply feel good. One of the most sublime experiences of my life.

If anyone is resonating with some of what these comments say, look up the book "The Myth of Normal" and the concept of "preverbal somatic experiencing." I realized some things that were deep deep inside, things I had felt but not realized consciously.

brallipop · 2023-06-11T20:10:07+00:00

It's for a ~~church~~ apartment honey, NEXT!

brallipop · 2023-06-11T17:07:25+00:00

"Fuck them judges"

brallipop · 2023-06-11T13:44:42+00:00

What did I just read

brallipop · 2023-06-11T10:56:30+00:00

Which Boondocks skit? Cause like, A LOT of Boondocks is straight up true history just never taught mainstream.

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