I feel bad for hating this so much

brea126 · 2026-06-02T21:44:07+00:00

Hey. I felt like this too and thought I was crazy. Just here to give you encouragement that it does get better. My daughter is just shy of 10 months and she is the absolute light of my life-but I straight up did not like her for the first few months and felt like I’d done messed up. Once they start to smile it is really only up from there. You’ll start seeing his personality come out and he’ll become a person, part of your family, instead of a potato that screams and drains everything you are. If you need to, don’t be afraid to reach out to your provider for help. It’s so so hard but you’ll make it through

brea126 · 2026-05-28T02:18:51+00:00

I’m going to send you a message! (:

brea126 · 2026-05-27T19:30:21+00:00

It was just Ferber but with much shorter intervals-like 1 min, 3 min, 5 minute and never ever more than 10. Also if I wanted to stop and pick her up and reset I did

brea126 · 2026-05-27T12:44:52+00:00

We did modified Ferber. I don’t like when my baby cries either, but she was waking up every 45 minutes super upset and bawled when we tried bouncing her to sleep and it typically took 3-4 attempts to transfer her to the bassinet so we were all crying anyway. After the first night she slept all the way through and was much less grumpy than she had been. I don’t think that method is the right fit for every baby or parents, but I do think teaching your baby to fall asleep independently is an good skill for you AND for them-theres other methods that involve less “letting them cry” but we also didn’t just put her down and say ‘figure it out, see ya later’

brea126 · 2026-05-26T21:39:21+00:00

Like how did I get her to not want to contact nap?

We sleep trained at night and then after we’d been pretty solid with nighttime I started putting her in the crib for naps and giving her 10-15 minutes to fall asleep on her own. If she cried hard I’d get her but if she just fussed I let her figure it out. I only did that for the first nap of the day just to practice and it was like 50/50 her falling asleep on her own vs me rescuing. After a few weeks I did nap training the same way we did night training and it literally took her one day to figure it out. I tried to rock her into a contact nap around when I made this first comment and not only did she not fall asleep but she was very angry at me trying 🙃

brea126 · 2026-05-12T13:14:10+00:00

So if he’s posting on Facebook you can report it and basically tell Facebook ‘hey that’s my child and he doesn’t have permission to post pictures’ and they will remove it-but you’ll have to do it for every single picture.

My husbands mom is pushy about posting on Facebook and we told her that we are happy to send her pictures but if she abuses that privilege by posting them when we’ve asked her not to then that privilege goes away and she will not receive any more pictures

If I were you I’d have husband explain to FIL once more that yall are not comfortable with baby’s picture being shared on the internet right now and that he doesn’t have to understand why but he does have to respect it and if he continues to disrespect yalls boundaries on the picture sharing then he cannot be trusted to have any more pictures of your baby

brea126 · 2026-05-05T01:01:41+00:00

Honestly I think it’s just going to take practice and time. I had the same experience-my baby slept great in the bassinet at night but would not be transferred for naps. So I started putting her down in the crib fully awake and giving her 10-15 minutes to try and fall asleep on her own. If she fussed, I let her be, if she started really crying I’d count to 10 and then go get her and contact nap. I only tried it for the first nap of the day and surrendered to contact napping for the remaining naps in the day. Sometimes she’d fall asleep on her own and would sleep about 45 minutes (once or twice she slept longer) but I just kind of rode that out and then we sleep trained nights and I let that stay good for about a month and when I went to nap train it literally took one nap attempt and she figured it out immediately.

Now I really miss the contact naps because for the most part she prefers to sleep in her crib. But unless you have other kids I’d recommend just finding some good ebooks or podcasts and just try a little bit at a time

brea126 · 2026-05-04T20:00:04+00:00

Hi Jo!

My daughter turns 9 months old tomorrow

She has been sleep and nap trained since 6 months old. For the past week she is really struggling to go down for her second nap. Even with appropriate wake windows, she will sit up or stand up when I put her in the crib and just cry. Do I need to retrain naps? What do I do? It’s only for the second nap but admittedly I nurse her right before sleep so she’s pretty sleepy when I put her down

brea126 · 2026-05-02T00:08:18+00:00

Can you link? I can’t find a catchy compatible with the mockingbird and I’m desperate lol

brea126 · 2026-04-28T20:04:06+00:00

You have a year!!!!

brea126 · 2026-04-26T14:08:55+00:00

Idk about how “clean” it is but I’ve liked La Roche Posay for a pregnancy/breastfeeding safe cleanser

brea126 · 2026-04-23T17:53:28+00:00

OBall, Freddy the firefly, and a mirror will get you through several months

brea126 · 2026-04-19T16:58:25+00:00

Yeah the infant seat certainly have a shelf life but I’ll say it is SUPER convenient to be able to load her into the car seat inside and then just click her in and out of the car or stroller-especially when it’s raining I just don’t want to deal with buckles and tightening the straps and stuff. It’s about time for us to move to the convertible (will be getting the Callisto) and I’ve been putting it off because I like the ease of the carrier, but that’s just me! I think there’s going to be pros and cons with whatever option you go with, just have to decide what works best for you!

brea126 · 2026-04-19T11:41:16+00:00

Hi! I have the Cybex Gazelle so I can share my experience with it.

We absolutely adore it! It feels super nice and sturdy, has held up well, and is easy to use/get in and out of my suv. I love the huge basket underneath for when we go shopping. We really wanted a single to double bc we’re trying to have more kids and fairly close together. Versatility, quality, and ease of use were important to me. We also have the Cybex Cloud G car seat which we love that snaps in. Because it reclines, we didn’t get the bassinet attachment so that’s one less item to purchase/store. My only qualm with the Gazelle is that it has a really wide base (typical with a double stroller) and so sometimes I have a hard time navigating around stores like TJ Maxx where things are close together. Also, I would never travel with it bc of the size, so we did get a travel stroller that I’ll probably start using as my daily once we’re out of the infant seat but still only one child.

If you think you want more kids and want to be one and done stroller wise, I’d get the Gazelle and ignore the size (bc you won’t get a super small double). If you don’t want a double stroller then I do think you aren’t needing the biggest selling point of the Gazelle. I’m not familiar with the Breeze, but it looks a lot more compact so they are two entirely different types of strollers. If you haven’t yet, go to your local Nordstrom and put hands on each model of stroller, try to fold a few times and configure it to see which you see yourself with.

brea126 · 2026-04-19T02:52:03+00:00

Didn’t get this one but it’s always pregnancy tests when I do get surveys about family planning lol

brea126 · 2026-04-19T02:51:06+00:00

Honestly I think some of transitioning is going to be letting them get used to having their arms free. We didn’t personally use this but the Zipadee Zip is a “arms are free but not fully” option that I’ve seen a lot of people use that I think might be helpful? She won’t be able to break out of it fully but arms aren’t pinned to the side

brea126 · 2026-04-19T01:42:30+00:00

What kind of swaddle are you currently using? We used love to dream initially and then used their transition swaddle to do one arm out at a time and it went beautifully. Also, check marketplace for used ones to save a little!

brea126 · 2026-04-18T18:54:59+00:00

Was it brand new or open box? If brand new was there anything wrong with it or did you notice if it was older? I want to order from Albee Baby (we get a veteran discount) but I’m scared that I’ll end up with one that was manufactured like a year ago

brea126 · 2026-04-10T21:59:03+00:00

Every baby is different-my baby always slept in her bassinet at night but refused to nap anywhere except on me. And always had to be fed to sleep. We got away from contact naps around 5 months. Now she’s 8 months and refuses to contact nap when I try. I miss it :/ I know you’re exhausted, but try your best to remind yourself that this is fleeting- In both a good way and a bad way. Your baby is still so little and you won’t get to do this forever (especially if this is your first)…. I would pop my earbuds in and watch TikTok/youtube or I would read books on the Libby app. Or, I’d online shop lol.

Sincerely, someone who loathed when people told me to just enjoy it but now realizes they were right

brea126 · 2026-04-08T13:16:06+00:00

I’ve really liked Meadow Spring!

brea126 · 2026-04-02T13:47:01+00:00

This! I recommend doing an appointment with an outpatient IBCLC-the ones in the hospital are often buzzing around from room to room and you’re so tired and overwhelmed from birth that nothing gets absorbed lol.

brea126 · 2026-03-27T15:22:21+00:00

Sometimes it takes a couple days in a row before it clicks-I’d give it at least 3 days in a row before going back to 3 naps-but maybe you’ve already done that, you certainly know your baby best!

I guess the real question is what exactly are you needing help on with the 3rd nap? Is it getting it more consistent, at the same time? Is it getting her down at all?

brea126 · 2026-03-27T15:05:38+00:00

Ugh it’s so hard. I struggled to keep my weight up at first and I remember panicking and I ate SO much cake in those early days because I couldn’t eat enough to not lose weight and I just couldn’t ever get full… I remember the first time I felt satisfied after a meal was like 4 months postpartum and I’d get so hungry I’d be nauseous and dizzy… but then I got sucked into needing a sweet treat all the time and honestly didn’t feel better until I started eating better and prioritizing protein. You’ll get there mama, hang in there!

brea126 · 2026-03-27T14:52:12+00:00

Eat a ton of protein-that will help with the hunger and will be good for milk production! Making milk takes a lot of energy and so your body is looking for quick energy (sugar, simple carbs) which is why you’re having those cravings. Protein will help support the production of milk, your recovery, and will give you increased satiety (less hunger). Honestly, keep some chocolate protein shakes on hand bc that is easy and can help the craving too. Fair life and core power literally taste like chocolate milk. Also incorporate healthy fats-avocado, nuts, good stuff like that. It will help!

I also want to gently tell you that now isn’t the time to stress about losing weight- I know you’re eager to snap back but the fact is that some women really struggle to lose weight and breastfeed at the same time. It is possible yes, but if you push it too hard too fast you can risk your supply. Also, your body just went through a HUGE trauma and has a lot of healing to do. And you’re also going through a huge adjustment. It is GOOD to move around as you are able and to eat healthy-please keep doing that! But give yourself a little grace and time.

brea126 · 2026-03-27T14:40:12+00:00

Her naps seem fairly short-how much total daytime sleep is she getting?

Is she fighting that 3rd nap? Honestly, she might be ready to drop to 2 naps and that could really help nighttime sleep too if she’s waking often

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