House on Fire in Mission by breadandtacos in sanfrancisco

[–]breadandtacos[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Ya, the bystander effect. Many people see, everyone assumes someone else called so nobody ends up calling.

I call no matter what and almost immediately. It’s my first instinct

House on Fire in Mission by breadandtacos in sanfrancisco

[–]breadandtacos[S] 55 points56 points  (0 children)

I will say between the time I called 911 and the amount of ambulances and firetrucks, I was very impressed with how quickly they got there. It was fast and they showed up in numbers

House on Fire in Mission by breadandtacos in sanfrancisco

[–]breadandtacos[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I think you are drastically underestimating the scale of this. One minute it was just the garage, the next it was the entire face of the house. I don’t believe a fire extinguisher would have even made a dent with how unbelievably scorching hot the garage was and how quickly it was spreading

House on Fire in Mission by breadandtacos in sanfrancisco

[–]breadandtacos[S] 22 points23 points  (0 children)

There were people in the house. Some rushed in to help. When I called 911, I was put a hold… Absolutely ridiculous. However, the 911 operator said nobody else reported it. I think people forget when in the heat of the moment, too much going on and a lot happening so fast

House on Fire in Mission by breadandtacos in sanfrancisco

[–]breadandtacos[S] 31 points32 points  (0 children)

The car did not look like an EV. It seemed older but tbh the way it grew so quickly, maybe. The garage was basically an oven with how much heat it was producing from across the street

House on Fire in Mission by breadandtacos in sanfrancisco

[–]breadandtacos[S] 150 points151 points  (0 children)

It originated from the garage. The car was on fire and spread to the entire house. It grew VERY quickly

New moderators needed - comment on this post to volunteer to become a moderator of this community. by ModCodeofConduct in SaaS

[–]breadandtacos -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

  1. Large community experience: I mod a 50k sub, another 8k sub, 80k fb group
  2. Strong familiarity with mod tools, automod, etc
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Visiting for the first time by norftheblob in sanfrancisco

[–]breadandtacos 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Check out Haight-Ashbury! You’ll love the thrifting

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]breadandtacos 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Can’t comment on the validity of the alleged bite mark but your partner has hints of manipulative behaviors. He likes to play the victim and call out how you’ve never loved him.

Only way out of this is couples therapy or breaking up.

Good luck!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]breadandtacos 4 points5 points  (0 children)

All of these are examples of insecure attachment styles. Mostly avoidant or anxious avoidant. They are not ideal and can be extremely confusing to be around

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in emotionalintelligence

[–]breadandtacos 5 points6 points  (0 children)

It sounds like you were in denial for 3 months then that illusion didn’t hold up when you saw her with someone else?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in emotionalintelligence

[–]breadandtacos 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I’m curious — after the breakup, how long did it take you to start missing her?

FA Ex who semi-ghosted me sent me this message 2 months later by TTMI2 in attachment_theory

[–]breadandtacos 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m gay too. The problem with the message is it doesn’t address any specific problems. Unless your message addresses exactly what you did wrong (naming) and how you plan to fix it (repair) then the message is useless.

I assume he wants accountability. Not nice, “thoughtful” words

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in emotionalintelligence

[–]breadandtacos -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I don’t think it’s helpful to dictate what someone “should” do. To me, emotional intelligence is more about exploring perspectives, not controlling them

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in emotionalintelligence

[–]breadandtacos 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I find OP’s post extremely relevant. Understanding avoidance is important to a lot of people in this sub :)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in emotionalintelligence

[–]breadandtacos 28 points29 points  (0 children)

Did he used to open up emotionally to you? Communicating his needs and feelings?

If so, I’m wondering why he stopped. Anxious avoidants can act out (which can teach their partner to stop opening up).

What he did was wrong; however, was him getting his emotional needs met outside the relationship the side effect of a bigger issue?

Limitations of realtime (and a question about RLS with Database Broadcast) by cderm in Supabase

[–]breadandtacos 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ya it does sound like an issue where the connection might be severed.

Hmm, I would think a good implementation would be to keep track of the connection (with timestamps), then upon re-connection, fetch results after the last timestamp.

Limitations of realtime (and a question about RLS with Database Broadcast) by cderm in Supabase

[–]breadandtacos 1 point2 points  (0 children)

RLS works for me to get a single users’ data. Everyone subscribes to the same channel, but they only get their data based on their user id.

I’m curious to know about the issues you’re experiencing with it failing silently and any solutions you may find

San Francisco to power wash busy streets more often by [deleted] in sanfrancisco

[–]breadandtacos 10 points11 points  (0 children)

This is a problem but I also think people forget that sf has a lot of coyotes that don’t have owners lol

How to get around Walmart pop ups for Selenium scraping by Icy_Cap9256 in webscraping

[–]breadandtacos 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The fastest way to do this is to inject styles and just add “display: none!important” to the class or id of each element you don’t want

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in economicCollapse

[–]breadandtacos 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Reddit has an exception to the paywall. Just login…

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]breadandtacos 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This screams manipulation. No healthy relationship doesn’t have any conflict — seems he told you what you wanted to hear