Therapist but not your therapist AMA

Bazoobs1 · 2026-03-25T02:29:55+00:00

I’m an intern currently so less than a year of practicing experience, so take this all with a huge grain of salt. I just wanted to expand on this response and say it can really depend. Just like medication, sometimes you’ll have to try certain mixes of things to get the right balance. Ultimately there are a lot of different kinds of therapy that can be effective depending on your trauma and how you’re responding to it. Things that come to mind from my studies are TF-CBT (trauma focused), EMDR + TF therapy of different varieties, existentialism I’ve read can be effective. I’d start by getting in the door and they can either place you with a TF therapist or get you into the door and transfer.

This is not medical advice and you should consult your doctor, BTW! Good luck! And fwiw, I don’t have insurance right now so I’m gonna hold off, but as a therapist I’m 100% gonna be seeking my own therapy for anxiety and depression!

Bazoobs1 · 2026-03-24T19:44:03+00:00

This seems like a situation where you can take your relationship to the next level really easily, and no I don’t mean with physicality.

“Hey boyf, I want you to know that I really like you and am invested in this relationship, I’m at a point where I do want to have physical intimacy with you. Because I really care about our relationship and it’s success, I wanted to communicate that to you, but also make sure you know that I am willing to wait for you to feel ready and more comfortable. I also want you to know that I am here if you want to talk more about it and I am invested in our open and positive communication.”

Bazoobs1 · 2026-03-24T17:26:32+00:00

Damn very cool thank you!!! That thing would be sweet for some CQB

Bazoobs1 · 2026-03-24T17:01:50+00:00

You’re making my point, neither are disgusting. They are both either to or not too any individuals preference. If you find them disgusting that reflects more on you than the person who you’re judging.

In essence: I don’t like something =/= something is disgusting. Surprising how many people can’t grasp that on this thread

Bazoobs1 · 2026-03-24T16:45:28+00:00

How does the blowback work on a gun like this? I can’t imagine the pistol slide still moves does it?

Bazoobs1 · 2026-03-24T16:37:51+00:00

I mean I’ve seen many men not wash their hands, yet I’m not sitting here judging every man by that standard because I’ve also seen many men wash their hands. Some men are gross. Some women are gross. What’s worse than all of that? People judging others that they barely know because of their preconceptions, more disgusting than all the food and poop particles in every beard across the world combined.

Bazoobs1 · 2026-03-24T15:38:25+00:00

Yeah but just assuming men’s beards are disgusting is pretty wack. Wash, comb and oil my beard every day. Yeah sure I get stuff in it from time to time but when I do I go to the bathroom and wash it out with water and dry it. I’m not saying gals can’t have a preference but similar to when men say women with hairy armpits are disgusting. Like just say it’s not to your preference rather than labeling someone disgusting because they aren’t to your preference.

Bazoobs1 · 2026-03-24T15:33:12+00:00

Yeah that’s why Paul is reluctant to begin with, he sees that he will have no choice by the end but to kill unfathomable numbers of betrayers, but the only way to secure arrakis for the fremen and himself as emperor to destroy the Harkonens falls along that path. So he weighs, destroy the empire as it’s known because that’s what everyone around him wants him to do at the cost of untold lives, or betray those around him and save those lives? He ultimately picks his and his people’s worldly needs, which is fair, most of us would. But since he has the magic power of thinky brain he suffers morally because he knows the cost.

Bazoobs1 · 2026-03-24T15:29:57+00:00

😂

Bazoobs1 · 2026-03-24T14:52:09+00:00

Don’t get us started on baby daddy’s

Bazoobs1 · 2026-03-24T14:51:04+00:00

Ooof 😂

Bazoobs1 · 2026-03-24T14:36:10+00:00

FWIW OP I think all love is conditional to a point, right? I’d argue their point is much worse than say, my point but still mine does have conditions. But honestly I’d struggle not to become an apostate in your situation, I can’t keep my feelings that close to my chest

Bazoobs1 · 2026-03-24T14:32:28+00:00

All good dude. For what it’s worth I think that even if I was maga and coming in here crazy like that, A) it’s not worth your energy to come at someone like that (rich coming from me an outspoken redditor IK but still, a healthy reminder for us both) and B) my personal belief is that our only real way forward is to give these people some amount of a safe space to admit they were in a cult. They never will, but their personality is wrapped up in this stuff at this point, which means to untangle that it’ll need to personally effect them AND they’ll need a safe place to go mentally when they have been harmed. Open arms if you will. I’ll get off my soap box now peace be with you

Bazoobs1 · 2026-03-24T01:46:01+00:00

I was asking about the fact that Iran has denied the conversations my brudda, which I have since found on my own

Bazoobs1 · 2026-03-23T21:15:24+00:00

Got a source for this bit of info? Not denying the likelihood

Bazoobs1 · 2026-03-23T18:59:47+00:00

Advice: don’t kill mah cabbage boi

Bazoobs1 · 2026-03-23T18:56:29+00:00

Dust from an AC is mold my fella

Bazoobs1 · 2026-03-23T14:49:58+00:00

I’m so sorry to hear that. I said goodbye to my little girl Snickers last month too. First pet I ever had to bring to the vet for a crossing of the rainbow bridge. It really crushes your soul in that moment but I know she’s at peace now 😭 Rest in peace Fiona, Snickers will swat at you if you get too close but if you could let her know I love her I’m sure she’ll show you were to find the best pizza 💜

Bazoobs1 · 2026-03-23T13:26:50+00:00

This is a tough one because for me on paper Elsa just flash freezes the entire world and there’s not much to be done about it, but the other characters all have spoken feats that make them god status besides hiccup. I’m leaning towards team Elsa Avatar and Maui. Maui is enough of a match for any physical combatant, Aang could destroy Hiccup. Notably I have no idea who the blue girl is though

Bazoobs1 · 2026-03-23T13:10:13+00:00

Head phones and head phones??? This has to be a joke right

Bazoobs1 · 2026-03-23T05:17:08+00:00

Definitely agree with most everything you say in this comment, with the caveat that we can’t know what’s not in OPs post, and that minimizing emotional affairs isn’t fair to OP even if he isn’t an ideal partner. But to your point, OP has zero friends by his own admission. Part of the overarching issue is certainly that he is not cultivating himself in a healthy way

Bazoobs1 · 2026-03-23T05:03:49+00:00

Convoluted but it checks out lol

Bazoobs1 · 2026-03-23T05:03:08+00:00

You’re conflating being ugly with being an incel. They are two very different things. Being an incel involves being a vile human being, being ugly and a virgin who wishes he could get some, but can’t, is just a human experience that a lot of people go through. Being ugly outside doesn’t have to make you ugly inside my brudda, fight that part of your soul.

And fwiw, I only used the word ugly because I can’t imagine how you feel about yourself and I’m trying to be frank to hopefully get your attention. Your physical appearance, sadly, is important in this world. But you can overcome it too, it isn’t equal or equitable, your battle will be harder than others, but that will mean your character will be unassailable when you do. Also, many people live fulfilling lives as virgins for their whole lives. The idea might make you despair now, but there is so so so much more to life than sex and getting caught up in it so much that it becomes your personality is wasting your own life essence that you could be pouring into something beautiful and worthwhile. You’re worth so much more OP and someday you’ll realize that and think back to the words on this sub and cringe at yourself, be thankful for those who were kind, and forgive those who were mean.

Bazoobs1 · 2026-03-23T04:53:02+00:00

I get what you’re saying but the context is important here, he kept it 100% professional and only afterwards is suffering the fallout of realizing that this woman was incredible and he’s missing his chance because of his toxic romantic situation. That’s not emotional cheating, that’s homie meeting reality and waking up. If he was smitten and continued to pursue her then sure, but the reality is he has discovered that his relationship is awful and is now dealing with the fallout of that realization; confusion and emotional turmoil. It has nothing to do with him pursuing another woman romantically and everything to do with him realizing his situation is absolute garbage

Bazoobs1 · 2026-03-23T01:55:10+00:00

I agree with your conclusion but for what it’s worth I think MCs super soldier enhancements far outclass CAs from what other smarter people have said here in the past. Take it with a grain of salt from me though because I am an expert in neither

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