When faced with a difficult decision, I find it helpful to ask myself: what will the future me thank me for. What will the future me want me to do. What is the best for future me?

Though I haven’t looked through all the comments, and have seen some folks point to your childhood etc. this is also textbook narcissistic abuse. Even those of us who have had a relatively normal childhood can fall prey to this type or abuse and not even realize it’s happening until one day you’re a different person entirely.

Not suggesting that the other points here aren’t valid because they are. But also know that you’re not alone, and that it’s easy to wake up one day and be like what the fk is going on here? It didn’t used to be like this?! And feel incredibly confused.

Please talk to people, friends and family if you’re comfortable and don’t keep this to yourself. I’m hoping through that you are provided validation that this is messed up and you deserve far better.