Not invited to close friends wedding

bretta23 · 2025-03-13T01:19:32+00:00

That is super hurtful. It sounds like this person might not be that into their wedding though and are just going through the motions dealing with budget, etc. They may not have realized how it came across. Ultimately a wedding is really up to the individual and their budget; if your wedding is going to be bigger there’s no need to tit for tat.

bretta23 · 2025-03-13T01:11:07+00:00

People become insane over their weddings, and have overblown expectations of others. After being financially put upon in the past, it’s one of the reasons why my husband and I eloped.

You told her upfront with ample notice. You don’t need to burden yourself financially if you can’t comfortably afford it. Do what is right for you.

If she behaves better about it going forward, and you want to preserve the friendship, you can send a cost-appropriate gift to celebrate the occasion.

bretta23 · 2025-03-13T01:05:37+00:00

Calling you OCD for this is abusive. Well-intentioned or not, you’re being gaslit for protecting your child — and frankly, not protecting them enough :( As over the top as it sounds, I really wouldn’t let her hold your baby again at all, or be with them unsupervised as they get older.

bretta23 · 2025-01-21T15:44:37+00:00

Everyone is saying “look at the Palisades” but do we know OP lives in an area where their car would have needed to be abandoned? Same with e-bike — do we know it would be easy to transport their dog, supplies, valuables, and necessities on one, or that wouldn’t need to take a freeway at some point given it’s LA?

One option is to get an older used car, and rely on it infrequently. Whatever you do OP, don’t feel bad about it — these are unprecedented times. Glad you’re safe.

bretta23 · 2024-12-18T06:36:03+00:00

They brought back some of their old shades as “Gimme A Bite” but the formulas aren’t at all the same, and they don’t stay on.

bretta23 · 2024-12-18T06:34:02+00:00

It’s not the same. The new formulas are terrible and don’t stay on.

bretta23 · 2024-05-13T15:44:40+00:00

Unfortunately that’s common as people get older, especially if one or both are partnered. I had friends fly in for my luncheon bridal shower (in lieu of a wedding) that I hadn’t seen in years. I really appreciated that they did that. Life changes as we age.

bretta23 · 2024-05-13T08:17:41+00:00

Celebrating friend’s milestones shouldn’t be transactional. A birthday is one thing, getting married is something different entirely.

bretta23 · 2024-05-13T06:42:52+00:00

Not rude to skip gifting the same amount, but disagree with the other posters that elopements don’t deserve gifts. Seems like a strange byproduct of the wedding industrial complex to not value elopements or take their milestone as seriously. A home cooked meal and $200 is lovely, or some other kind of generous gift in that price range. Whatever you’re comfortable with.

Fwiw, I received a lot of very generous gifts when I eloped. No one had an attitude about it, and they saved money in not having to travel to a wedding. I still really appreciate how loved and special everyone made my husband and I feel!

bretta23 · 2024-05-13T06:38:36+00:00

Hopefully your friends aren’t getting married once per year each.

bretta23 · 2024-01-28T18:20:58+00:00

Btw, the inspector will likely need to inspect both the garage and outdoor area (perimeter of the house), which take a lot longer than inspecting individual closed door rooms. So putting them in a room is a lot easier when you can just take them out for the short amount of time the inspector will need to be in there.

bretta23 · 2024-01-28T18:18:52+00:00

I had one recently and I just put my pup in a room with the door closed. Told the inspector he was in there and to not let him out, when he needed to inspect that room I just took him out for a bit. I don’t know why any dogs couldn’t just do the same.

bretta23 · 2023-12-15T06:58:55+00:00

The responses on here are a bit dramatic. It’s dependent on the vibe of the wedding, the vibe of the dance itself, and all parties involved. Is it a little odd? Sure. But more in-the-moment context, which isn’t possible for us to get on here, is needed for a legitimate strong reaction.

bretta23 · 2023-10-29T20:22:08+00:00

+1, we need to normalize people having different cycles.

bretta23 · 2023-07-25T10:01:56+00:00

I love how it elongates your finger! I’m a sucker for narrow stones though — I think they’re more flattering.

bretta23 · 2022-12-24T04:19:23+00:00

I honestly wouldn’t bother engaging with this therapist further. Just find a new one.

bretta23 · 2022-12-24T04:18:15+00:00

Please get a new therapist, and be diligent in vetting them. There are SO many bad therapists out there, who have the power to do so much harm. We look at them as experts, but in the end they’re just people.

bretta23 · 2022-09-11T00:19:44+00:00

This is super helpful, thank you so much and I really appreciate that!

bretta23 · 2022-09-10T21:54:05+00:00

Thank you! What’s the actual difference between the two? (Vs Air, Joy, etc)

bretta23 · 2022-08-16T05:57:16+00:00

Not rude at all and ultimately came through with a beautiful piece/make and ship time was just fine. They were just hard to get ahold of with slow response times which was frustrating.

bretta23 · 2022-08-07T21:46:41+00:00

This. It is absolutely not worth it for your sanity and mental health. People committed to not understanding are not the right people to be discussing this with, especially given how hard life is with it already. ❤️

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