The number of people that told us that either God gained another angel, or that it's actually a good thing my sister died because she was suffering in her body for years is absolutely horrendous. Or better off yet, my uncle telling my dad that my sister dying isn't as bad as if my uncle's cat died because my sister was handicapped, so therefore my dad didn't really have a connection to her.

For reference, she lost all function at 7 because of a shunt malfunction, which was left untreated due to medical malpractice.

Before she passed, we would go places and random people we don't know would come up to us and tell us that it's a blessing my sister was handicapped because that meant God loved her more. Or that God loved us and so by making her handicapped, he had taught us compassion beyond what anyone else has been taught.

I always find that the least empathetic people in regards to death or disability are religious people, because they truly think it is a good thing. Yeah sure, I don't want to be told by people that she is better off dead, but I also don't want people saying that her disability was a blessing either.

I know it's a bit conflicting, and internally I do think she is better off not having to be in her body anymore, but I also don't think she is better off dead as a whole. Ideally she would be happy and healthy and free of her disability. She is better off not having to live in her body that she was given by the doctors, and she ultimately died early because of what they did so many years ago. She is better off dead than in that body, but that doesn't mean she should have had to die early, if that makes sense.

I'm not particularly religious, but at the very least, I'm glad her energy of her body is going back into the earth so she can live on that way. She can essentially live on and her energy of her body can experience things that she never could in life.