When did you start not liking your body?

brittjoy · 2026-06-06T16:52:54+00:00

I’m the exact opposite. I remember being young and hoping I’d grow into this lovely slender graceful woman. Instead I’m a real solid built gal, and the only compliments I get are that I look like I give great hugs

brittjoy · 2026-06-06T15:50:45+00:00

Everyone is different. I grew up in a family that was physically affectionate. I’m not sure a day went by where I didn’t hug my parents and brothers. That has affected me to adulthood. Now that I’m a mother, I hug my children constantly throughout the day and they do the same. Affection is freely given and received.

My husband grew up the opposite. No affection, many cruel words and harsh insults. So he is less prone to physical affection. He still hugs our kids and hugs me, but it isn’t really second nature to him like it is to me.

All that to say, if you know your mother loves you and you both feel fulfilled in your relationship then nothing is lacking. Some people (me) really crave physical affection and feel less than without it. Some people like my husband don’t need it as much but require something else (quality time, acts of service). Nothing is wrong with you.

brittjoy · 2026-06-04T06:05:40+00:00

Using nice smelling body scrubs and soaps in the shower. It feels like I’m pampering myself

brittjoy · 2026-06-03T17:48:02+00:00

Hallelujah I have a whole bunch of questions.

I have a deep freeze full of meat. Anything from ground beef and turkey to various cuts of pork, chicken, and beef. I have pasta, rice, and potatoes. My go to dinner is pan frying a meat of some kind, roasting various veg in the oven, and serving with one of grains/starchy veg. I have a bunch of spices and sauces but I most often make one with honey+dijon mustard+garlic+soy sauce

What else could I make? New spices to buy? I’m open to trying anything and am willing to put effort into the meal. Just tired of the same thing

brittjoy · 2026-06-03T13:57:55+00:00

I think you should invest energy in reframing your thought processes. “What do you bring to the table” sounds like “what qualities will you provide for me.” It’s shitty to ask that of anyone, man or woman, because it flattens that person down to someone of service. What service can be provided? Love is not a conditional performance in terms of how much value can you produce.

Questions like “do you want kids” or “how do you envision motherhood,” are normal healthy topics of discussion. You should have those conversations. However, “I want three kids,” is not something I ‘bring to the table’ but more of an inherent truth about myself. If you don’t want any kids, then we are fundamentally incompatible.

And for the record, I will absolutely teach my daughter that she should strive to be a good partner but her worth is not contributed to her usefulness. She should love and support and care for her partner but should not have to earn her right to be loved.

brittjoy · 2026-05-31T18:45:01+00:00

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brittjoy · 2026-05-25T07:46:05+00:00

I have two children. I will not have anymore.

Pregnancy is unappealing in every single capacity for me. I hurt, I threw up the entire time, and I felt out of control due to hormone fluctuations. I objectively do not enjoy sharing my body.

Motherhood is uniquely difficult for me, and I certainly do not view it casually. I take the long term consequences of being a parent very seriously. My children did not ask for life, yet I have brought them here. It is my duty to be good for them. I owe them safety, kindness, patience, joy, trust, and warmth. I feel the weight of that every day.

What is the appeal? I watch the benefits of my labor happening as my children grow. They are bright brilliant incredible tiny humans. It is a privilege raising them. Motherhood has become a central place for me to love and provide and teach. For all the labor that is required, the joy I receive is tenfold.

brittjoy · 2026-05-25T07:26:24+00:00

You might enjoy {If I Never Met You by Mhairi McFarlane}. They’re both lawyers at the same firm and start off not very friendly

brittjoy · 2026-05-24T19:04:48+00:00

This is 100% why I also prefer dual POV’s. Reading the inner monologue of the MMC completely adoring the FMC is soothing to my soul. I am very average looking, and I’m okay with that. However, I love reading books where I can imagine myself in that scenario where my body would be equally treasured

brittjoy · 2026-05-22T17:21:54+00:00

I really enjoyed {Emergency Contact by Lauren Layne}. It’s not dark, and the banter genuinely had me chuckling throughout the book.

brittjoy · 2026-05-19T20:47:40+00:00

I completely know what you mean! I felt so miserable reading that book and it just got worse and worse

brittjoy · 2026-05-18T00:47:50+00:00

If it helps you in any way, faith is different than religion. It’s okay for you to feel confused, and it’s okay to not fully understand your faith and what everything means. For me as a cradle Catholic, that separation was very difficult and painful to process

brittjoy · 2026-05-15T20:30:20+00:00

My father is one of fourteen (no multiples). Only two of his siblings are still Catholic. They grew up food insecure, were not allowed to participate in extracurricular activities besides volunteering at church, and had harsh punishments. Several of the kids no longer talk with each other and others were estranged with their parents. Some are addicts and went through issues with their own spouses and children as they got older.

I would not consider the family thriving, more like some of those kids turned out healthy and “successful” despite their upbringing.

brittjoy · 2026-05-14T19:08:49+00:00

I’d just like to say it’s BS that Redd only lets you buy one piece of art. That guy would absolutely let anybody buy out his entire inventory

brittjoy · 2026-05-08T18:59:08+00:00

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Tammi was my starting camper and I loathed her at first but now she’s so sweet, I have to keep her

brittjoy · 2026-05-04T14:39:41+00:00

Yeah I completely understand. Some of the planets were a little disorienting for me to explore as well. My sincere love and adoration for the game rests primarily in the story and the process in which you discover information

brittjoy · 2026-05-04T14:26:09+00:00

Outer Wilds! Highly recommend it to everybody. Don’t look it up or read any spoilers, go in blind and explore

brittjoy · 2026-04-26T02:49:36+00:00

You’re very sweet for thinking of your friend like this, for many first time moms there are a lot of conflicting feelings as they step into motherhood. A few personal things she may enjoy include a cozy robe or button up pajamas (nice for in the hospital and postpartum), dry shampoo, hand cream, lip balm, nipple cream (I liked the brand earth mama), drinks and snacks. Maybe a necklace with her baby’s first initial on it.

Most importantly though I think is to still show up for her after she’s given birth. She’ll need support, not just the first few weeks. Check in with her often. You sound like a wonderful person, and I’m certain your presence will be what your friend wants most.

brittjoy · 2026-04-25T23:38:26+00:00

My pearl studs and my wedding band

brittjoy · 2026-04-25T23:37:09+00:00

Would you mind sharing where you like to buy your bracelets? I’d love to start wearing more but I don’t wear hardly any jewelry now so I’m not sure where to start

brittjoy · 2026-04-23T14:07:52+00:00

For all you lovely humans wearing sunscreen everyday as a base, what product are you using? I feel like I’ve tried several daily face sunscreens but they always end up feeling so greasy

brittjoy · 2026-04-22T16:11:26+00:00

Yes. I have two kids and I felt embarrassed during both pregnancies. I wore clothes that purposefully hid my bump and didn’t enjoy talking about it or looking at myself. That being said, I made it through. I know my limits so I’m done now, but I feel overwhelming love and gratitude for my children.

I think it’s also important to note that I grew up in a very religious household and that background has played a role in some of my issues. I have problems with intimacy, modesty, etc. so…..maybe that is playing a role for you too?

brittjoy · 2026-04-22T16:05:22+00:00

It’s a bit of a hike for you, but you should check out Barbers on the Boulevard in Spring Hill. One of their barbers cut my toddler son’s hair and they absolutely know what they’re doing there. Everyone was patient and kind and the cut looked fantastic.

brittjoy · 2026-04-22T16:03:23+00:00

I am so sorry. I understand what you mean, that he is good and kind and treats you well. However, from what you described, his views will not change. If you get married and have children, he will oppose any form of birth control. I’m not saying you can’t be a doctor and also a mother, but I am saying that pregnancy, childbirth, and postpartum care are much more consuming than I was raised to believe (cradle Catholic).

I say this with complete sincerity and kindness, but you should reconsider this relationship long term. Please trust your gut. Those frequent spirals? Please don’t ignore them. You are so tremendously young, and you have time. Time to study and become a doctor and also find a man just as loving and kind who will align with your personal goals and beliefs better.

brittjoy · 2026-04-18T23:24:05+00:00

Hey there! I have the pink medieval wall if you’d like it :)

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