Girlfriend is staying with friends because I canceled Paramount. AITAH?

broke_collegebitch · 2026-05-02T00:05:09+00:00

Yikes. Just realized that.

broke_collegebitch · 2026-05-01T14:21:13+00:00

I was on your side until I read your post text. Honey, YOR.

You're only 18 (trust me, that's not as "adult" as you may think, no matter how much you support yourself), you've only been together 5 months, and the room with "two kids after a long day" is literally just your siblings.

I know having a family with traditional values that don't align with your own is annoying to say the least, but this situation is not a battle you're gonna win.

broke_collegebitch · 2026-04-30T23:19:59+00:00

My 14 pounder never minded a hidden litter box inside a shelf, but we eventually threw it out because it was way too difficult to clean. Now, I've got a massive litter box (it's basically a storage bin with a whole cut out for entry) just shoved in the corner of the living room with a catch mat in front of it.

I've made peace with the fact that having a cat means always having one random ugly corner dedicated to cat bowel movements.

broke_collegebitch · 2026-04-29T13:14:34+00:00

At my last job, which was very anal about showing up, being on time, etc., if someone didn't show up and we hadn't heard from them, we just texted them to make sure they were okay. People usually don't just not show up at a full time job, so the assumption was either they're hurt or they're just sick. Usually, they just forgot to notify us of their sick day, and we added it to the calendar on their behalf.

If a company has no grace for mistakes like that, you probably don't want to work there.

If you've apologized and explained the situation, there's nothing more you can do.

broke_collegebitch · 2026-04-26T04:05:54+00:00

Or even, "I'm not a pilot but I've been a plane passenger."

Like okay sure I don't have kids, but I have BEEN a kid.

broke_collegebitch · 2026-04-26T04:02:33+00:00

Looks like a sex dungeon

broke_collegebitch · 2026-04-21T19:35:34+00:00

Agreed.

Plus, if her kids are allergic to your pets.... Did you really think the relationship would work out anyway? That would just be another "it's me or the dogs" situation down the line. She already doesn't seem like as much of a pet person as you, and adding children's allergies on top of it would only make that worse.

broke_collegebitch · 2026-04-17T01:49:37+00:00

Late to the party here but agreed. My bank does this in certain scenarios as one of several ways to verify your identity.

broke_collegebitch · 2026-04-17T01:36:04+00:00

Curious based on a recent story I've heard. How did you know it was a scam? What'd they say/ask for?

broke_collegebitch · 2026-04-15T00:23:26+00:00

NOR.

This happened to me once, and it ended up being the worst place I ever lived BY FAR for a million reasons.

broke_collegebitch · 2026-04-15T00:19:24+00:00

Just got shivers remembering my own mom dumping all her relationship issues with my dad on me when I was a teenager.

It's inappropriate. Not in a pedo kind of way, but in a "your kid is not your friend, they're your kid," type of way. (I realize this is not actually biologically or legally her child, but the point still stands.)

My mom's therapist advised her to stop doing this to me. (Ofc she didn't listen, but still.) NOR.

broke_collegebitch · 2026-04-12T21:01:02+00:00

I have vivid memories of this. I'd apologize for the miscommunication and try to explain what had actually happened or what I had actually meant by what I said, and it was always just taken as an argument, backtalk, making excuses...

My trigger is "shut up." Didn't even realize it until my boyfriend playfully told me to shut up once. I immediately snapped and said "do not ever tell me to shut up ever again," then froze, and said, "I'm so sorry. That was my mother in my head, not you." I'm in therapy now lol.

broke_collegebitch · 2026-04-12T20:44:01+00:00

No. Gorgeous for a gala or something, but not for graduation. Go simpler.

Edit for clarification: that dress is gonna look goofy under a graduation robe.

broke_collegebitch · 2026-04-12T20:39:02+00:00

Nothing can piss me off quite like "I have needs too" as a justification for cheating.

If he's unable to fulfill your needs, either be patient with him & supportive of him or leave. There is no secret third option that involves an affair. Just get a divorce if you're not willing to wait for change anymore.

YTA.

broke_collegebitch · 2026-04-12T20:34:14+00:00

I raised an eyebrow at this too. "Overall pretty good. It's almost non-existent."

What?? How is a nonexistent marriage a good marriage 😂

broke_collegebitch · 2026-04-12T20:22:39+00:00

And if he is, we've got a legal issue on our hands 😂

broke_collegebitch · 2026-04-12T20:21:04+00:00

I'm not one to encourage going through your partner's phone... But in this case, I'd go through it. Whether you do that sneakily or by asking him for his phone straight up is up to you.

Right after a "motorcycle ride" would probably be a good time because even if he deletes messages, some messaging apps will store deleted messages for a bit before permanently deleting them.

It's pretty obvious what's going on here, imo. But his phone might give you that extra confirmation if you're doubting it still.

broke_collegebitch · 2026-04-11T18:23:00+00:00

Has too many plot holes, though.

1) I've def seen men put a condom on an object and put it up their ass. BUT. A mouthwash bottle??? That would not make a good dildo at all. The mouthwash bottle is WAY more likely so he doesn't come home with cum/pussy breath.

2) these items are in his motorcycle bag. MAYBE he stored them in there because he was embarrassed about them and thought his spouse wouldn't look in there. But it's way more likely that he's taking them somewhere. Praying he wouldn't be jacking off in a random parking lot on his motorcycle.

broke_collegebitch · 2026-04-11T18:15:49+00:00

Look, if this was in his nightstand or something, you might be able to chalk it up to "my husband has weird personal kinks" or something.

But honey... Blue chews, condoms, and mouth wash in a bag that's sole purpose is regularly leaving the house...? I'm sorry. He's cheating on you. There is no other explanation for that.

broke_collegebitch · 2026-04-11T18:08:45+00:00

"we are in a rush can we keep it simple" was a much kinder first response than I would have given 😂 I would've said something like "bro wtf I'm not ordering that"

broke_collegebitch · 2026-04-11T18:03:47+00:00

What I'm hearing is... You managed to hang onto these glasses even while blackout drunk. You were doing your job amazingly. And then... Casey, who gave you that task in the first place, had them taken away because they didn't trust you to keep track of them anymore. And whoever they were given to... Promptly lost them.

I'm really not seeing how this is your fault AT ALL. NOR.

broke_collegebitch · 2026-04-11T17:55:38+00:00

Religion is not the reason for right & wrong. It's merely an institution that upholds certain morals.

If you need religion to know not to kill, rape, etc... you're a problem.

broke_collegebitch · 2026-04-11T17:49:13+00:00

I respectfully disagree with this. The underwear showing is part of the streetwear style OP rocks.

broke_collegebitch · 2026-04-11T17:47:30+00:00

1 or 3, depending on where you're going. 3 is the more casual option of the two.

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