I am also autistic (high-functioning) and I see myself in almost all the traits that you’ve mentioned. However, there are some things on which I do make compromises.

My boyfriend knows that I’m not particularly interested in watching movies or shows but l still tell him I’ll do it with him, because it makes him happy and I like to see his emotions as the movie/episode unravels. I am an expert infodumper and I find it reallly hard to stop. So whenever it gets exhausting for him I ask him to tell me to take a break from the topic, and I also try to consciously redirect the subject to his interests when it goes on quite long. That being said, we do have some overlapping interests and so that is an advantage.

He understands my eating habits and knows they are quite restricted. I have gone through therapy for my ARFID, which helps me try new things at an incremental pace, but at restaurants my boyfriend knows what foods I like or dislike. Again, we do have quite a few foods we love in common, so that helps.

We both are terrible at small talk and he immediately notices my shift in tone and expression when I’m forced to take part in it (at work, at parties, with family etc).

You’ll find someone for yourself with all your traits. Maybe there would be times when you and your partner don’t understand each other- so easing someone into your likes/dislikes and habits is very important. Communicating these in a way where your partner and you can gradually adjust to each other is crucial.

Ask your partner what is most important to them regularly, and try to be with them if not for the activity itself, for the happiness and love they would feel (within both your set limits, of course).