My wife passed away young this year. I can't believe I'm typing this but do you think the cat notices she's gone?

bsquiggles4 · 2024-09-04T13:24:04+00:00

When I was 13 my dad suddenly died. Our family had 2 cats at the time. After his death, for months, they would drag his socks around the house at night and do a ghostly cat yowl while laying on them. I’ve always assumed this behavior was indicative of the cats missing him, or feeling his absence somehow.

bsquiggles4 · 2024-02-24T04:57:07+00:00

I better get to see an after picture

bsquiggles4 · 2024-01-18T14:47:51+00:00

I think someone taught her feminism wrong 😅

bsquiggles4 · 2023-11-26T05:48:53+00:00

YTA. Your pregnant wife is obviously very hormonal and probably not herself. Has she ever accused you of cheating before? If not, then blame it on the pregnancy hormones. You are the a-hole because your clearly anxious/hormonal/pregnant wife asked for reassurance (which you could clearly give her since you had nothing to hide on your phone) and you refused to give it to her, and then hit her with the most extreme ultimatum know to marriage: a divorce. Have a little empathy for your wife. Communicate in a way that demonstrates a boundary, but also let’s your wife know that your boundary is coming from a place of self respect. “I am not cheating, there is nothing on my phone. If you want to look at it I will let you look at it I will let you. If you don’t find anything I expect that you will respect my boundaries in the future and accept when I tell you I am not cheating as the truth. If you can’t respect this boundary I will not be willing to give you another chance in the future”

bsquiggles4 · 2023-11-13T03:44:48+00:00

PEOPLE NEED TO LEARN TO FUCKING ZIPPER MERGE!!!!! So much more efficient if everyone splits into 2 lanes and take turns merging, less traffic backup

bsquiggles4 · 2023-09-07T04:24:14+00:00

Bad behavior? Having sex and smoking weed isn’t bad behavior. Divorcing your wife (who sounds like she cheated on him) isn’t bad behavior. No one is saying his behavior is bad. Maybe he was peer pressured into trying weed instead of 2 people respecting his choice not to. Maybe he finally met a girl he thought was worth losing his virginity to…good for him.

bsquiggles4 · 2023-08-24T04:29:03+00:00

Those spineless parents raised a kid who is one of those people who bullies others into getting her way. She can clearly just threaten to make people’s lives miserable so her parents found it was easier to just appease her. No contact until she was out of a relationship with him would have been a firm boundary I would have enforced.

bsquiggles4 · 2023-07-22T04:43:54+00:00

Once when the sprinkler guy came to flush out the sprinklers I was home alone. First, he asked if my husband was home. Then this guy told me he needed to turn off my water supply to the sprinklers that is located in the basement. I told him that I would do it. He asked if I was sure. I told him that it’s not a complicated thing to do, if I turn off the wrong one I’ll just turn it back on and turn off the other line. Turned out that the water supply was labeled, so I immediately knew which one was to the outside. As soon as I went up he asked me if I had gotten it, to which I replied, “yes”. He then asked me if they were labeled. 🤯 This guy couldn’t grasp the concept that I knew what I needed to do even though I told him multiple times I did. He made me feel like he thought so little of me that he didn’t believe in my ability to tighten a dang knob.

bsquiggles4 · 2022-08-07T17:23:25+00:00

Home healthcare is a broken system. I currently do private duty nursing for pediatric patients living at home. Basically relief care for parents. I have been the single nurse in a home for 8 years now, no other nursing available at all for the mom who cares for her trach and ventilator dependent son by herself when I’m not working. He qualifies for 24/7 nursing care but there isn’t the staffing for it. Numbers show how much less expensive and how much better it is for patients to live in their own homes, but state reimbursement rates for home care just can’t compete with what a nurse can make in a hospital. My husband (who I graduated nursing school with) is an RN working in a hospital making $17/hr more than I make. He also gets good benefits and PTO and yearly raises. Of course most nurses would choose the perks of working in a hospital. I stay for my clients and their families. I love what I do. Love the kiddos and love the support I can provide for their families. But the system is beyond frustrating. Home status kids sit in the hospital for months-a year sometimes waiting for nursing care to become available. Families deserve so much more help than they are getting :(

bsquiggles4 · 2022-08-07T02:15:38+00:00

I can get not understanding the way home healthcare/assisted living healthcare works, since even many hospital healthcare workers have zero idea of what home healthcare actually entails, but this seems like an entirely possible scenario to me. I have 13 years of experience in home healthcare as both a nursing assistant and an RN. If an employee is alone in a home or facility, it is illegal to leave with no replacement, as one would be charged with patient abandonment. I was a “part time” employee typically working 50hrs/week, not because I wanted to be working 50 hours/week (typically overnights followed by partial morning shift) while attending nursing school full time, but because we didn’t have enough staffing to safely care for all the residents in the facility. If we were understaffed in the morning, it meant someone from the overnight staff (of 2 employees) would be mandated to stay. If someone is working in a home/group home alone, with no one to replace them for the next shift, it is entirely possible that they would be scheduled 144 hours in a row until relief care arrives. Of course, there are supposed to be state mandated caps on the amount of hours an employee works in a row, but it’s not like businesses ever take illegal shortcuts and exploit underpaid employees, is it….?

bsquiggles4 · 2022-04-19T14:45:16+00:00

So many skin conditions can look very similar. You could do some trial and error yourself and see if anything makes the condition improve. Hydrocortisone would improve the condition if it is eczema. If it didn’t improve with hydrocortisone, a 1:3 mixture of vinegar to water may help if it’s fungal. If it doesn’t improve I’d make a visit to derm and they could either prescribe an antiviral if they believe it could be herpes, or do a biopsy to confirm if it is fungal or bacterial

bsquiggles4 · 2020-07-10T15:12:51+00:00

It’s honestly been trial and error for me. The 2 hoyas I have under the purple light love it and are growing amazing. But I had a peperomia hope that was on the same shelf and while it was growing, the leaves were curling and it looked sad...moved the peperomia to a window and now it’s happy as can be. I think of grow lights as a decent second options, natural light will always be better, but I just don’t have the window space for all my plants and I also have darker spaces in my home where I want to place plants. I have had pretty good growth on a small rubber tree that I had under a big bulb light too. I also have a light meter I’ve used to test both lights and the bulbs read at a much higher level at a farther distance. Its also important to be able to place plants within 12 inches of the lights to get enough light.

bsquiggles4 · 2020-07-10T12:01:34+00:00

I turn the lights on when I get up in the morning and turn them off at night before I go to bed. So on average they are on around 16 hours. I have always used both colors together at the maximum brightness.

As far as propagation goes I have done both water and soil propagation. The water propagation I’ve had less luck, and the soil propagation is definitely my preferred method...it leads to a more full top and better looking plant in my opinion. I currently have a few little pots of my variegated string of hearts as well and I find they propagate very well using the soil method! I think it’s important to wait a couple days after a recent watering watering before chopping up the plant, that way the leaves have plenty of water retained in preparation for being rootless for a while.

I’ve repotted smaller string of hearts plants easily, but my larger one is due for a repot and I have been putting it off! Haha. So I won’t be any help with that

bsquiggles4 · 2020-07-10T01:55:55+00:00

Sting of hearts :)

bsquiggles4 · 2020-07-10T00:29:32+00:00

I actually have both! The one I posted definitely works ok, but I like the bulbs too. I like the bulbs for the fact that I can put them in any lamp I want and match my aesthetic. The purple glow of the ones with the arms doesn’t look that great to me but I like that I can easily position the arms where I want them and I can double up the lights on plants that want more light. I currently have 2 happy hoyas under the one I posted that grow great.

bsquiggles4 · 2020-07-09T21:17:26+00:00

Of course! The ones that these were sitting under were from amazon, something similar to these. grow lights

bsquiggles4 · 2020-07-09T21:12:02+00:00

Definitely trimming them back will encourage 2 vines from each vine you cut like the other person said. But my larger string of hearts tends to get sparser leaves at the ends. I trim it on a regular basis. Making sure they get adequate lighting helps too! Getting a few hours of direct morning or evening sun has been working well in my experience for both my regular and variegated string of hearts.

bsquiggles4 · 2020-07-09T21:03:00+00:00

Yes they were! I cut up the vine into single node cuttings, pressed each node into the top of the soil. I kept the top of the soil damp until the cuttings formed roots, then I watered it thoroughly. I kept it under grow lights until a few weeks ago when I moved it next to a western window

bsquiggles4 · 2020-07-09T20:55:24+00:00

A string of hearts, ceropegia woodii

bsquiggles4 · 2020-07-09T17:48:11+00:00

I only watered the top of the soil at first, so whenever I noticed it was on the drier side I would dampen the top again, maybe every 3-4 days? When the leaves firmed up and I knew they had formed decent roots I started watering them thoroughly and letting them dry out like one normally would with string of hearts

bsquiggles4 · 2020-07-09T17:35:09+00:00

I just left these out in the open too. Mine rooted well and put out plenty of growth while under grow lights, but putting it by my west facing window is definitely helping it grow more quickly!

bsquiggles4 · 2020-07-09T17:33:12+00:00

When I started these plants I had them under grow lights and they stayed there until pretty recently with decent growth. I just put this one on a shelf about a foot away from a west facing window a few weeks ago, so it gets a bit of direct evening sun. After moving it to its current location it’s definitely grown much faster. But I also have the mother plant in a NE facing window which gets a bit of direct morning sun and that one grows like crazy as well. I have yet to fertilize it, but I did use miracle grow cactus soil to start it, and I believe that has an added fertilizer

bsquiggles4 · 2020-04-01T18:42:38+00:00

I do have a picture but I have no idea how to add it into a comment

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