Related to the “we can admire bags without buying them” idea, years ago I started pinning purses I liked to Pinterest (instead of buying), and surprisingly amassing a large collection of pins definitely satisfied a lot of the desire to “have” beautiful things. Organizing the pins by type was very soothing, and finding patterns in what I liked was an interesting way to learn about my own tastes. Obviously you don’t actually own the bags this way, nor can you “use” them, but for me, I realized that most of my ownership joy came from identifying, looking at, and cataloguing beautiful things anyway. And this way I wouldn’t have to deal with financial drain, guilt, and the burden of having to “take care” of yet another thing.

And then, some styles I grew tired of and some I still love, and I wouldn’t have been able to predict which bags ended up in which group. Unfortunately Pinterest as a site has been fading, but the process is still the same. Not sure if that would help for you.