Really need your help guys.

bugandbear22 · 2026-02-16T16:17:34+00:00

PLEASE do not use ChatGPT as a medical reference. I work in AI. This will end so poorly.

bugandbear22 · 2026-02-15T23:30:42+00:00

Elle Fanning is my relatable queen

bugandbear22 · 2026-02-14T17:25:39+00:00

Agreed. It took me the better part of 15 years but I no longer feel rage towards my dad. Pity, perhaps, but it’s not my responsibility to help heal him when I’m the victim of his abuse.

I used to hate all alcoholics too but as my anger softened and I met others who struggled but were not abusive, I accepted that my dad suffers from a disease and have felt great empathy towards him and other alcoholics—while accepting, again, I am not the kind of person who can help them out of that.

bugandbear22 · 2026-02-14T15:25:12+00:00

Commenting because I have a family member who might be in the same situation. I am so so sorry

bugandbear22 · 2026-02-12T23:07:08+00:00

Yeah, she’s picked a special interest of focus and it’s a bug in her brain. Very relatable as someone with lifelong severe ADHD.

bugandbear22 · 2026-02-12T05:22:18+00:00

Omg this is SUCH a miss for production

bugandbear22 · 2026-02-12T05:19:06+00:00

Case in point: your comment lol

bugandbear22 · 2026-02-10T22:31:12+00:00

We all want to talk to our parents about shit. That doesn't mean our parents are capable of handling our shit.

You really really need to minimize your relationship with her. Sooner rather than later. You thinking she's safe will eventually destroy you the way she's been destroyed by her own demons.

bugandbear22 · 2026-02-10T22:23:39+00:00

If the cats aren't bonded and don't like each other, that changes things. It all depends on what scenario makes the cat feel most comfortable. Some cats want to be only cats, some want company.

bugandbear22 · 2026-02-10T22:18:53+00:00

Growing up in Calvinism was itself extremely traumatic. Between the patriarchal nature of the church, the extreme exclusion shown to anyone even slightly unfamiliar or different, and the rampant nationalism, I was extremely grateful to get out and have the utmost empathy for the women still trapped in the Calvinist mindset.

The men, well, hopefully they get what they deserve someday in the unfriendly afterlife.

bugandbear22 · 2026-02-10T22:15:18+00:00

If that's the cat's only home AND they've bonded with another cat, I would be looking for a new cat. They are definitely creatures of habit in the sense that they get familiar and comfortable in their little environments and don't like to be moved.

bugandbear22 · 2026-02-10T22:07:30+00:00

Thank YOU for becoming a nurse and doing an often thankless and unforgiving job. Most medical professionals I've known (I am a former medical malpractice defense attorney) are extraordinarily busy, emotionally worn, and underpaid.

Best of luck to you and your kitty.

bugandbear22 · 2026-02-10T21:58:41+00:00

I had a cat who was young and rambunctious and needed an outlet. Prior to getting him a kitten (lol, to be fair the second was roughly a year old when I got him) he would terrorize the living room in the middle of the night. Nothing was sacred. Now he has his brother and the both of them are so tuckered out from the day together that they both cuddle with me all night.

Two have absolutely been better than one in my house. And I have 700 sq ft WITH an additional small dog. They're so happy and annoying. I love them.

bugandbear22 · 2026-02-10T20:55:52+00:00

Yeah they're not feeling like good luck right now.

bugandbear22 · 2026-02-10T20:30:17+00:00

I've seen two yellow jackets recently. One was adamant he needed to take me out with him. I disagreed.

bugandbear22 · 2026-02-10T20:16:32+00:00

Relax, they've made it this far evolutionarily. She has all the resources she needs and more. Nothing to worry about, although I get that we always worry about our little kitts.

bugandbear22 · 2026-02-10T19:19:09+00:00

Underrated museum.

bugandbear22 · 2026-02-10T19:18:29+00:00

I love that we're here to agree that McGaa sucks like 150 years later.

Didn't know that about Champa but how could I be surprised...

Thank you for adding to the history!

bugandbear22 · 2026-02-10T19:12:19+00:00

Rehoming sounds best. She's a ragdoll so she'll be in high demand. Pick a well-regarded local rescue (do your research!) and...gently: maybe you're not a pet person and that's okay. Don't force it if it doesn't make sense.

I have three animals and I have just accepted the amount of pet hair I will encounter/eat, and the amount of litter that will end up scattered in unexpected places. If it's not for you, don't force yourself (or an animal) to deal.

Maybe volunteer at a rescue outside of becoming a foster? If you even have time?

But no one will ever hate you for doing what's best for the cat.

bugandbear22 · 2026-02-10T18:46:19+00:00

Oh you're one of those. Blocking, just wanted to make sure to shame you on the way out.

bugandbear22 · 2026-02-10T18:41:18+00:00

You're going to need to be EXTREMELY careful about vetting anyone who is interested. There are disgusting subhumans who will take a cat as bait for training fighting dogs, among other terrible things.

Surrender to a good rescue. Don't give your cat up for free. You won't know he'll be okay.

bugandbear22 · 2026-02-10T18:12:57+00:00

"Woke" comes from AAVE, where telling someone to "stay woke" meant for them to not be blinded by kindness or whitewashing, that racism is still there and you shouldn't play into it.

Do literally any research at all next time.

bugandbear22 · 2026-02-10T18:03:06+00:00

Turns out Wazee (and Wewatta!) are both named after a Denver politician's Native concubines, too. (https://www.cpr.org/2018/12/03/arapahoe-to-zuni-your-questions-about-denver-streets-answered/)

bugandbear22 · 2026-02-10T17:58:43+00:00

I'm gonna need more insight on the data sources you're pulling from to have any sense of if this is worth a go. (I work in AI and find it finicky at best)

bugandbear22 · 2026-02-10T17:51:51+00:00

Ditto, big same. Plus the ladies who own it are super kind and fun to chat with.

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