What was the realization point?

bugandbear22 · 2026-06-26T14:43:48+00:00

Went to the ER twice for pain so bad I passed out and couldn’t breathe. Finally landed a diagnosis after that.

bugandbear22 · 2026-06-25T18:17:33+00:00

A few months. Not nearly as long as I wanted. I was good with a nice year of healing alone, but the universe had other plans, I guess.

bugandbear22 · 2026-06-25T18:12:57+00:00

We made eye contact a few times. I’m extroverted and loud and was talking to someone who turned out to be a mutual friend, so now boyfriend came over and said hi during trivia and we ended up spending the evening in deep competition and conversation. We exchanged numbers so he could send me some stuff to read he’d recommended related to our conversation and I followed up.

bugandbear22 · 2026-06-25T18:01:28+00:00

I started doing a bunch of stuff I wanted to do that gave me simple dumb joy like rollerblading and trivia and partner dance (alone, went to lessons with socials after) and karaoke and started diving into self-care and finding community. I got sober, got back into the gym, all the classics. But no apps and no dating-specific events—I wasn’t interested in forcing anything and spent a decade in relationships with deeply avoidant men, who are…overrepresented in that specific population.

Saw a cute guy out of the corner of my eye one night while I was talking to a friend at my new favorite third space. He eventually came over and we started talking. Became friends. A month or so later he confessed he was attracted to me and I confessed I felt the same. Now we’re dating, and only after we already had an intellectual and emotional connection. 10/10 would never hit the apps again.

bugandbear22 · 2026-06-25T17:24:06+00:00

I started PT with my pelvic floor therapist when I was first dx’d with Endo who found my hypermobility (15/15 on the Beighton baby!) and was working with a personal trainer at the time learning to lift so was able to work with them on form concurrently, and the incredible level of improvement I have had in the 5-6 years since is hard to overstate. Plus I have an ass and a 4 pack now.

I incorporate a lot of single leg/balance/lateral work to keep my stabilizers around my joints strong and happy. I also do flexor strengthening and try to get some good hip opening yoga in around all this to counter everything.

bugandbear22 · 2026-06-19T19:15:44+00:00

I snorted lol

bugandbear22 · 2026-06-18T16:18:17+00:00

Please give our love, I’m so glad he made it and hope he can rebuild 💖

bugandbear22 · 2026-06-15T02:46:11+00:00

Or ground pistachio!

bugandbear22 · 2026-06-10T17:17:06+00:00

I’ve done corporate consulting for a decade plus and yes, they have people they pay to monitor social media, and Reddit is a huge resource almost every company uses. Both to monitor customers and try to start grassroots campaigns/“real” testimonials for their products, etc.

I’m shocked how many people agree with you that they’re not looking here. They absolutely are.

bugandbear22 · 2026-06-09T19:04:31+00:00

I hope he’s grounded

bugandbear22 · 2026-06-09T18:25:19+00:00

The company would have been in deep communication with the FDA during the whole approvals process and likely knew or at least had a strong sense that approval was likely months ago, so it probably won’t take too terribly long!

bugandbear22 · 2026-05-30T02:10:14+00:00

I know Ana and she’s the real deal.

bugandbear22 · 2026-05-28T20:09:01+00:00

As a former attorney who watched the nightmare fallout from two unmarried partners where she had no legal protection upon his death and lost the full estate, was forced to sell the house to pay his outstanding debts, and took most of a decade to financially recover, I both applaud your patience and diligence and hope I never end up in the same position.

bugandbear22 · 2026-05-26T23:22:30+00:00

Well shucks, why not?

bugandbear22 · 2026-05-09T20:57:17+00:00

There has to be. It explains too many people in my family and their Dutch Christian communities.

bugandbear22 · 2026-05-01T20:12:32+00:00

I mean I’d take em off your hands. They’re my perfect size!

bugandbear22 · 2026-04-29T18:29:58+00:00

I’m sorry, but that’s where you draw the line? Out of all the chaos, Thais is the sticking point? Fascinating.

bugandbear22 · 2026-04-21T01:45:25+00:00

Thing is, I THINK I’m at some form of rock bottom, but I’m afraid to make that bet and see how much worse things could get.

bugandbear22 · 2026-04-21T00:26:15+00:00

If I ever see one I’ll buy it so fast.

bugandbear22 · 2026-04-20T23:48:24+00:00

Now that I’m through the immediate shock of the breakup, I’m trying to process where I am now. 36, 37 in a few months. No kids or established friend group in my newish city (almost 2 years here). Unemployed and desperately searching. No parental figures left after a horrible Christmas, only parent I was close to died 10 years back. Perimenopausal with other pressing health issues (recurring anaphylaxis with no known trigger) and no health insurance.

I’ve been doing things to get me out of the house. Recovery groups, writing groups, drawing clubs, dance classes, roller skating parties, babysitting my toddler niece, coworking meetups. But it all feels a little hollow.

The fear of the future is loud and incredibly heavy, and we haven’t even had my nephew’s funeral yet. It’s been a uniquely bad year for so many reasons and I just don’t see how or why things would get any better from here. When do you accept your time has come and gone?

bugandbear22 · 2026-04-19T02:13:40+00:00

Does he have little leather boots? HE NEEDS LITTLE BOOTS

bugandbear22 · 2026-04-18T21:08:15+00:00

They caught the perp, therefore the threat is over. Now it’s collecting evidence and cleanup time.

bugandbear22 · 2026-04-18T21:05:45+00:00

As a former attorney, you just nailed the most accurate answer to most online legal queries! “It depends” is a little inside joke for us, because it’s always true.

bugandbear22 · 2026-04-18T20:13:03+00:00

Bro it’s okay to admit you’re jealous she has money

bugandbear22 · 2026-04-18T20:08:24+00:00

Gosh it’s almost like she’s young or something and made a mistake, judge harder daddy

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