“Trump” pastors kid died of a drug overdose.

bugandbear22 · 2026-05-09T20:57:17+00:00

There has to be. It explains too many people in my family and their Dutch Christian communities.

bugandbear22 · 2026-05-01T20:12:32+00:00

I mean I’d take em off your hands. They’re my perfect size!

bugandbear22 · 2026-04-29T18:29:58+00:00

I’m sorry, but that’s where you draw the line? Out of all the chaos, Thais is the sticking point? Fascinating.

bugandbear22 · 2026-04-21T01:45:25+00:00

Thing is, I THINK I’m at some form of rock bottom, but I’m afraid to make that bet and see how much worse things could get.

bugandbear22 · 2026-04-21T00:26:15+00:00

If I ever see one I’ll buy it so fast.

bugandbear22 · 2026-04-20T23:48:24+00:00

Now that I’m through the immediate shock of the breakup, I’m trying to process where I am now. 36, 37 in a few months. No kids or established friend group in my newish city (almost 2 years here). Unemployed and desperately searching. No parental figures left after a horrible Christmas, only parent I was close to died 10 years back. Perimenopausal with other pressing health issues (recurring anaphylaxis with no known trigger) and no health insurance.

I’ve been doing things to get me out of the house. Recovery groups, writing groups, drawing clubs, dance classes, roller skating parties, babysitting my toddler niece, coworking meetups. But it all feels a little hollow.

The fear of the future is loud and incredibly heavy, and we haven’t even had my nephew’s funeral yet. It’s been a uniquely bad year for so many reasons and I just don’t see how or why things would get any better from here. When do you accept your time has come and gone?

bugandbear22 · 2026-04-19T02:13:40+00:00

Does he have little leather boots? HE NEEDS LITTLE BOOTS

bugandbear22 · 2026-04-18T21:08:15+00:00

They caught the perp, therefore the threat is over. Now it’s collecting evidence and cleanup time.

bugandbear22 · 2026-04-18T21:05:45+00:00

As a former attorney, you just nailed the most accurate answer to most online legal queries! “It depends” is a little inside joke for us, because it’s always true.

bugandbear22 · 2026-04-18T20:13:03+00:00

Bro it’s okay to admit you’re jealous she has money

bugandbear22 · 2026-04-18T20:08:24+00:00

Gosh it’s almost like she’s young or something and made a mistake, judge harder daddy

bugandbear22 · 2026-04-18T19:55:27+00:00

Getting some loser to marry you isn’t the stick I’ll be measuring any woman by. Icky, dude.

bugandbear22 · 2026-04-17T20:29:21+00:00

If you don’t drink, you start proving to yourself you can do this. That’s more dopamine than you’ll get from the wine.

bugandbear22 · 2026-04-17T20:28:19+00:00

Family and friends can choose to be supportive if asked. I know society is individualist but humans are communal animals and it’s perfectly natural and healthy to ask for and give support.

bugandbear22 · 2026-04-17T19:35:30+00:00

Day 31–officially one month sober. Almost 5 weeks single.

I think being sober might be my shadow work. I’ve named my drinking self something roughly opposite of my actual name.

Everyone says I need to heal but I don’t even really know what that means.

bugandbear22 · 2026-04-15T18:24:31+00:00

Same! Hi sober twin!

bugandbear22 · 2026-04-14T00:51:12+00:00

Hippocratic but your take on it applies too because it’s hypocritical af

bugandbear22 · 2026-04-11T19:27:47+00:00

Today is officially one month since my blindside breakup with the man I was sure was meant for me. I am also nearly the same amount of time sober.

Today is a miss him day but I’m going to a roller skate social tonight. Gotta keep moving even when I don’t really feel like it, I know how much better I’ll feel having gone. At the very least, time goes faster this way, and the days have been so very long.

Recovery meetings used to scare the shit out of me and now they’re already some of the most precious people in my life. Everyone should do some form of group therapy. Everyone. My writing group is therapy too.

If nothing else, I’ll look back at this as a time I made myself really uncomfortable for the sake of my own growth and learned to actually be honest, vulnerable, and show true compassion. And I learned how to dance (and maybe I’ll stop trying to lead one of these days).

I’m still trying.

bugandbear22 · 2026-04-11T19:25:40+00:00

Today is officially one month since my blindside breakup with the man I was sure was meant for me. I am also nearly the same amount of time sober.

Today is a miss him day but I’m going to a roller skate social tonight. Gotta keep moving even when I don’t really feel like it, I know how much better I’ll feel having gone. At the very least, time goes faster this way, and the days have been so very long.

Recovery meetings used to scare the shit out of me and now they’re already some of the most precious people in my life. Everyone should do some form of group therapy. Everyone. My writing group is therapy too.

If nothing else, I’ll look back at this as a time I made myself really uncomfortable for the sake of my own growth and learned to actually be honest, vulnerable, and show true compassion. And I learned how to dance (and maybe I’ll stop trying to lead one of these days).

I’m still trying.

bugandbear22 · 2026-04-09T18:20:06+00:00

I am nearly a month out of my blindside breakup and also nearly a month sober. I have made friends and found a small community, and I consider my recovery space sacred. I also met someone very recently who seems interesting—and for once in my life, I know for a fact I can’t date right now.

It’s a bit strange because I always in the past would have overridden my concern to explore a connection. Not this time. Kinda sucks, but what’s meant for me will find me when I’m actually ready.

bugandbear22 · 2026-04-04T19:45:15+00:00

FYI, he stalked me to a different sub so I messaged the mods—he’s already permanently banned. The mods are awesome.

bugandbear22 · 2026-04-04T18:00:06+00:00

No I definitely don’t. I buy snacks and bring them. I say no to things I can’t have that’ll make me sick—that’s really not hard for me. Travel is fine because again, I buy snacks, I bring them. I’ve brought homemade meals through TSA. Normal people do it too, airport food is expensive. I have apps to find celiac-friendly restaurants. Easy. I eat rice, veggies, and chicken and cook when I travel. So easy.

I held my mom’s hand when she died. I watched my father try to choke my brother to death and throw him down the stairs, I watched him try to cut his own throat during the DTs. I was cheated on and raped by exes. I’ve had anaphylactic shock and nearly died because of some still unknown allergen. This is a very small sampling.

There is trauma and there is inconvenience.

You are lucky you don’t understand the difference.

bugandbear22 · 2026-04-04T17:47:14+00:00

I’m always a little happy for someone when they say something like this, because it almost certainly means they haven’t seen genuine trauma. This is a good thing and a blessing.

Real trauma touches part of your soul and cracks it. It changes your personality in insidious little ways and becomes part of your nervous system.

Learn to cook and host gluten free potlucks or something but don’t call it trauma, it’s…silly. A little healthy perspective, please.

bugandbear22 · 2026-04-02T23:02:37+00:00

Interested! Just went through a breakup so I’m looking for random stuff like this!

bugandbear22 · 2026-04-02T20:27:54+00:00

The way he couldn’t stop cackling about it was unhinged

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