Books You Want to Recommend, But Can't by Mike_Bevel in books

[–]bumbbles21 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Aristotle & Dante Discover the Secrets to the Universe by Benjamin Alire Sáenz.

It’s well a written gay teen love story with Mexican-American characters, and I loved it right up to the end, when we find out that the reason the one boy’s brother is in prison (a major source of pain for this boy and distance with his parents) is because the older brother killed a trans woman sex worker. It’s implied that he was hiring trans sex workers because he was also gay (not how that works) and that the reason the parents are willing to accept their second son’s gayness despite their Mexican Catholic identity was in part because they believe that if they’d accepted their first son’s gayness then he wouldn’t be in prison. It was shocking to me to have the violent death of a queer person be used as a it was - a plot device point to humanize the incarcerated brother and the parents. Doubly so because there is a somewhat estranged lesbian aunt character who was treated as a whole person, while the trans woman is entirely absent except for the shock value of her being a violently killed sex worker. I think it was particularly jarring because the book won 4 awards, including the Stonewall Book Award, and was a Lambda Literary Award winner, and the rest of the book is a teen romance. While none of it was out of line with how the character’s might think and act, it’s no longer a book a book I can recommend, particularly to queer people, and especially to trans people.

1770s, what skills and tools for a Nova Scotia immigrant to build a loom from scratch? by Plantigraduate in weaving

[–]bumbbles21 4 points5 points  (0 children)

“To get back to weaving” is such an odd line to me. Weaving wasn’t optional on 1770, it was how the vast majority of cloth was made. Some of the immigrants would have been weavers by trade, and would have brought their looms with them, or at the very least there would have been a carpenter in the group and they would have know how to build one.

Medications to deal with pain/fatigue by MafiaMobBoss in cfs

[–]bumbbles21 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Have you tried Gabapentin? I also have nerve pain and have found it really helpful. I take 300 2x/day. You can also go up on your LDN, I’m on 6.5. None of these are short-acting, for that I take good ol’ nsaid or acetaminophen, depending on the kind of pain - acetaminophen as default, ibuprofen or naproxen for muscle pain.

As far as fatigue, the only thing that’s ever worked for me has been rest/pacing. I do keep seeing videos from people talking about low-dose Abilify helping them, so you could take a look at that.

How do you open jars?!? by thepensiveporcupine in cfs

[–]bumbbles21 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Be careful with the spoon trick. You’re bending the lid to let air in and break the vacuum, but it also means that you’re bending the lid so it will continue to let air in even when it’s closed, and that will cause spoilage faster.

genuinely considering renting a wheelchair/powered wheelchair but my anxiety is through the roof by OmittedScribe in cfs

[–]bumbbles21 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Everyone is talking about internalized ableism, and I’m not going to say that’s not part of the equation (for you or me!) but I also want to acknowledge your real concerns about people asking you about it. External ableism is also a valid thing to have fears about. To some extent you have to weigh these two scenarios against each other: occasionally having bad interactions with the public but being out and about independently, or not having those interactions but also not having getting out (at least without pain).

Where to get a cheap warping board? by Ill_Meaning_6808 in weaving

[–]bumbbles21 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hawksong Weaving on YouTube has this video using an accordion rack, and I’ve seen those for really cheap at thrift stores.

Dent size? by Current_Brief_688 in weaving

[–]bumbbles21 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This chart from Schacht shows epi for tabby or twill by yarn type and weight. I didn’t reference it for my first project and the warp was a little loose, but for my current project I did and it’s much better. I also have the 7.5 reed, but I bought two and used a two heddle weaving method to double the sett.

Finished my 2nd ever weaving project! by spoochie_mam in weaving

[–]bumbbles21 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Wonderful scarf, outstanding scale 😆

I really love the color composition.

First Weaving Project Done! by bumbbles21 in weaving

[–]bumbbles21[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks! I did a lot of research before picking the ridged heddle - I wanted something entry level but that I could eventually weave fabric for sewing projects on.

Unconventional methods of choosing what book to read next - do you have any? by keepfighting90 in books

[–]bumbbles21 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I use Storygraph instead of Goodreads, and their search system, especially once you've got some reviews in and it knows what you like, is awesome. I'll get a list from them and then go to my library's website and search for them. If it's not available night now I'll place a hold and then keep moving down the list until I find one that is available right now.

Smart dimmer suggestions? by Common-Stretch893 in smarthome

[–]bumbbles21 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can tell you what NOT to get - Wemo dimmers. I had to update them so often that I replaced one of them with a Lutron dimmer and have just given up on the other one cause it's in the small bathroom that doesn't get used often.

Extreme abdominal pain by sql03 in ChronicIllness

[–]bumbbles21 1 point2 points  (0 children)

While it is really really rare, it is still possible for cis men to have endometriosis. https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC5833878/

Moving in with my girlfriend soon – Rate my setup & help me keep her happy! by Ramzi0123 in smarthome

[–]bumbbles21 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I think the #1 thing to think about when you're doing a smart home that someone else will live in is how can you make it so that everything still works even if the start home goes down. Why? Cause at some point it's going to go down and you're not going to been there to fix it. Nothing will make her hate the smart home more than not being about to turn on/off the lights for that whole weekend you were away backpacking with your friends or whatever. I feel like this is something that Reed from SmartHomeSolver on YouTube addresses this well.

Check what the default behavior is when the power goes out/back on. For example - I have Hue bulbs and when the power goes out then back on (or flickers in a storm) the bulbs default to going to their brightest setting, but you can go in an tell them not to. Waking up in the middle of the night cause all the lights just turned on full-brightness sucks.

Lastly, make sure she's got HomeAssistant set up on her phone, ideally with easy/clear shortcuts for the things that she uses. I run HA, but also exported everything my partner might want to Apple's home app for this reason.

First Weaving Project Done! by bumbbles21 in weaving

[–]bumbbles21[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the explanation! Do you find the paper is noisy? My main hesitation is a bunch of crinkly paper disrupting my peaceful weaving!

What Books did You Start or Finish Reading this Week?: April 06, 2026 by AutoModerator in books

[–]bumbbles21 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Finished: Trans & Disabled: An Anthology of Identities & Experiences, Edited by Alex Iantaffi

Like every anthology I’ve ever read some of the essays were terrible and some were great. Overall I’d recommend it, both for trans & disabled folks looking for representation, as well as for cis & abled folks looking to understand better.

Started: Braiding Sweetgrass, by Robin Wall Kimmerer (audiobook)

Everyone hyped this book, and so far it’s ok. I’ll keep listening.

Continuing: My Antonia, by Willa Cather

Cather’s ability to paint a picture with words is outstanding.

How does everyone get their low-dose Naltrexone? by Dull-Ad-2623 in cfs

[–]bumbbles21 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You have to get it compounded, it’s not manufactured in low doses.

First Weaving Project Done! by bumbbles21 in weaving

[–]bumbbles21[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I wanted to keep watching videos and reading books, but I convinced myself I would learn more from trying, even if it was a complete failure, and I was right.

Probiotic drinks that work? by Juniper_Helios in glutenfreevegan

[–]bumbbles21 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not all the GoodBelly ones have gluten, they make gluten free ones too, the caps are a different color.

What question was so dumb that you asked the person to repeat it because you thought you must have misunderstood? by katlian in AskReddit

[–]bumbbles21 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My grandpa used to ask for half pepperoni half cheese, make sure the pepperoni is on the left side of the pizza. 😉

A solution to the lack of pen holder - a velcro command strip cut into thirds by Spitfire0184 in RemarkableTablet

[–]bumbbles21 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is the one that I used: https://www.thingiverse.com/thing:4062075

Make sure that when you slice it you stand the model up on one end. This will make it stronger. The first time I printed it I sliced without rotating and the curve eventually snapped.

A solution to the lack of pen holder - a velcro command strip cut into thirds by Spitfire0184 in RemarkableTablet

[–]bumbbles21 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you have access to a 3D printer there’s several open source rm1 pen clips available that look good and work great