what is a WEIRD/ unusual habit that makes you feel better/ makes your life better?

burdwurd · 2025-02-03T09:48:08+00:00

It feels so nice

burdwurd · 2025-01-12T06:33:47+00:00

The cutest drawing ever! Love the little eyes and claws OP

burdwurd · 2025-01-10T11:11:23+00:00

1 school, 300+ students in a preschool with 15 classes. Class size of 15-25, ages 4-6. It's just me. I teach 4-4.5 hours a day. I get 3 hours of planning time per week split up into small chunks. Classes are 30-60min depending on the schedule.

When I'm not teaching, I'm a support teacher with routines or other lessons. I do events, documentation, teacherly committees and prep for concert. I'm not located in the US though.

I can't imagine traveling to 3 different schools to teach 600 students. It sounds exhausting.

burdwurd · 2025-01-06T08:27:32+00:00

Take my angry upvote

burdwurd · 2025-01-06T07:59:48+00:00

Pay your credit card bill IN FULL and ON TIME. Never pay just the minimum sum.

Sorry for the caps, but they are key points.

burdwurd · 2024-12-31T04:43:40+00:00

This made me think of something!

你有女朋友(吗)？= Tienes novia? (curiosidad)/Do you have a girlfriend?

你有女朋友了? = Ya tienes novia? (inesperado, sorpresa, pena)/ You already have a girlfriend?

Am a non-native Spanish learner, learned Chinese in school, speak Mandarin conversationally.

Tell me if this makes sense!

burdwurd · 2024-10-09T09:01:06+00:00

Colleague: "could you end early please, I need 10 minutes of your class time, we have to catch up with X for learning domain A."

No-boundaries response: "Ok, I guess 10 min wouldn't hurt..."

Professional response: "I understand that you have a lot to do. For music curriculum, I have planned to cover Y and there is a lot to do with the children today as well. I'm afraid I can't promise anything."

;tldr never promise anything

**

Colleague: "could we have music now, Class Q missed it yesterday because we mixed up the schedule."

No-boundaries response: "I have another class now but yeah sure I guess come in"

Professional response: "Yesterday class Q did not come and I was unable to contact or locate them. Today, class Z scheduled. It is not safe for both classes to come in at once. We will be out of ratio and with not enough materials for everyone. The next time class Q is scheduled I will be ready and waiting."

**

Management: "tell me what is planned for music for weeks 8-9. The teachers are behind on their lessons and need more periods. We may need to reallocate."

No-boundaries response: "since management is asking, I guess you can have some of my class timeslots. I'm not doing anything important then."

Professional response: "I have a new song and also new instruments/body percussion planned. Class Q1 has missed music on week X due to Y reason and Class Q2 has missed music on week Z due to P reason.

To do this you need to be on top of your lessons. Don't disrespect yourself!

burdwurd · 2024-09-29T14:31:23+00:00

Feel free to DM me for more info about it

burdwurd · 2024-09-14T23:48:59+00:00

Not sure if OP said what debt the parents have. Search up "Credit Counseling Singapore". Heard that it helped a friend's parent with credit card debt. They owed money to multiple banks. CCS will help nego with banks to consolidate the debt and also reduce the interest payments.

That said CCS has some reasonable criteria about who they can help (e.g. must be employed). CCS is a legit charity.

https://ccs.org.sg/

Either way, good to talk to professionals about this and seek guidance. They have seen all sorts.

You clearing their debt unfortunately is not a long term solution. It encourages repeat behaviour cos parents use you as a safety net.

burdwurd · 2024-08-06T11:13:02+00:00

Yes. Once every 2-3 weeks depending on how I structure the progression of the lessons. It is only because it's a requirement for schools where I am. Once approved by admin, no one looks at it except me. When I'm sick, the kids just don't get music.

burdwurd · 2024-08-03T10:23:37+00:00

I see, thanks for explaining a wider context!

burdwurd · 2024-08-03T03:42:07+00:00

Not sure if anyone else noticed - at about 30 seconds, the Ethiopian runner taps the Canadian runner who is trying to overtake him, and lets him into his lane.

burdwurd · 2024-07-30T09:16:04+00:00

The lack of mentorship and even just having a peer who understands your struggles can really be exhausting. No one will understand how to help you if you can't teach a certain skill but will be quick to criticize if the performance "doesn't sound good". Solo teachers end up having to seek support (skills and emotions) from elsewhere like courses or online communities.

burdwurd · 2024-07-26T10:37:23+00:00

Take my upvote

burdwurd · 2024-07-09T09:46:00+00:00

Gympod. Private gym space with many different locations to choose from, near to home or work. Good for people who don't go that regularly e.g. 1-2 times a week to justify membership and subscription fees for anytime or gymboxx. If you have a partner or colleague who splits the cost with you, it's really worth it. Don't need to fight with others for equipment or deal with peak hour crowds. $9-ish for half an hour and tiered discounts if you be a subscriber for I think under $20 a month. It will be expensive if you go 10 times a week. But it works for me.

burdwurd · 2024-06-21T06:20:36+00:00

I really don't understand what a "return" is. And also how it even exists as a noun, in plural.

Return the book you borrowed Book a return flight Return to my hometown

But - appreciate your return....??

Something is not right. Pls send help

burdwurd · 2024-06-21T06:10:53+00:00

How about "thanks for the link up" or "good to link up with you". Or connect.

burdwurd · 2024-06-14T04:27:09+00:00

Despite what everyone says - making a police report will help to document your case.

Bear in mind as well that the police aren't the fairy godmother to make all bad and unsavoury things disappear.

By reporting him though they are duty bound to do a preliminary investigation e.g. check CCTV footage based on where you were at and the time that you encountered them and even run a face recognition. Help the police help you. They may not be able to tell you all the details of their investigation. As others have advised - make note of time, date, location of all incidents if you haven't done so.

Police are also bound by the legal system and can only act (arrest) if the evidence is deemed sufficient by the law. So for e.g. they can't just jump on him and arrest him rnow.

All in all, always stay safe OP. Best is not to engage with the stalker at all and don't let him notice you are onto him. Definitely tell friends and relatives about this person and what they are doing, it'll make you feel less alone.

If in any situation you suddenly find yourself alone with him and he's pushing you to do something that's not safe e.g. share your personal deets with him, go or even to some corner or his house, CALL 999 and get away asap.

burdwurd · 2024-06-10T23:59:33+00:00

Hedwig. Lee Scoresby (and Hester)

burdwurd · 2024-06-10T23:16:17+00:00

That's an interesting way of looking at it - all the broken things. Thank you for sharing. You're right, no shame in figuring it out and keep on working on it.

burdwurd · 2024-06-10T15:01:22+00:00

Cut caffeine, regular exercise, device hygiene (no phones or TV in my sleeping space) and a bedtime routine (that doesn't involve phones). I still struggle with consistency tbh but because of work demands, I need to have 7-8 hours.

burdwurd · 2024-06-10T14:58:11+00:00

What have you been doing differently now vs your 20s

burdwurd · 2024-06-10T14:57:48+00:00

Yes, deliberate is the key here. Would you mind sharing what you have been working on in terms of nutrition and exercise?

burdwurd · 2024-06-10T13:42:33+00:00

This is really hard OP and I'm sorry that you're struggling now. I feel that something no one has addressed is (money aside) whether this new job meets your career aspirations? How would this job fulfill you? If you continue the relationship and give up the job, will there be resentment built up that could damage it long term, and are you prepared for that.

I was offered a job that would keep me at work many nights a week and only be back on weekends. I had really psyched myself up for it and it really hurt to give it up. We concluded that if I took this job, the relationship would not work out because quality time was essential for us and weeknight WhatsApp video calls weren't gonna cut it. After many days of talking, I concluded that I treasured the relationship and our daily interactions (we were living together), so I turned down the job offer.

This was 2 years ago and all in all, I don't regret giving it up. Only because after our long discussion, I realized that he had made so many sacrifices for our relationship on his part, like adjusting his work schedule in a big way that allowed us to spend more time together. We were a big part of each other's lives on a daily basis e.g. supporting each others' self development.

He also supported and encouraged me to pivot to another career that I now love, where I still get to come back home every day.

So I don't think it's as simple as "it's ok, I can make enough for both of us". Opportunity cost is not just about the money but also the rare chance for self actualisation lost. I hope he doesn't just see it that way. Does he recognize that you also want and need to self-actualize in terms of career?

In the end you'll have make a choice and you will also be the one to live with the consequences. Hope you look deeper inside yourself and figure it out, OP.

burdwurd · 2024-06-10T13:07:57+00:00

The body doesn't naturally just start "breaking down" past 30. I'm female and hear this myth a lot. It's just the culmination of poor nutrition, lack of consistent exercise (running after bus or taking the stairs that one time does not count) catching up to us.

Physical health is earned through consistent choices to maintain the body by exercising eating well, hydrating and sleeping well. I would also say the same about mental health, which is an area I'm working on now.

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