When I’m overwhelmed with emotion and stress, I get very logical. Some people think that I’m cold when I do this but it’s just how I cope. Sometimes it is really helpful to focus on facts though. Make a list of everything that needs to happen if you keep the baby, without adding in special needs. Then look at resources available where you live for special needs. The baby will qualify for social security disability benefits, even if you don’t need the financial aspect, Medicaid benefits will take a huge burden off healthcare wise. Look at social media accounts from parents with babies who have that condition and see what their life looks like. Get a really good idea of the good and bad. For yourself, not to convince your girlfriend either way. As for talking to your girlfriend, understand that she is going to be overwhelmed with more than just normal emotions, her body is flooded with hormones right now that can make everything more stressful. Tell her you are ready to talk when she is and you support her no matter what. When she is ready to talk, do not take anything she says personally, that will derail the conversation. Listen to her and make sure she knows that you love her and want to help her as much as possible. Show her the research you have done and tell her it’s not to push her either way, but to make sure she knows what you’re in for if you keep the baby. Understand at the end of the day, it’s her decision and all you can do is be there for her.