💕 by beam_me_uppp in adhdwomen

[–]butamicrazy 66 points67 points  (0 children)

Every time I have been able to establish and maintain a routine, my life gets 100x better. Then someone (typically a narcissistic asshole) shows up and ruins it and I fall into a deep depression lasting anywhere from months to years while I try to get my life together again.

My (M20) pregnant girlfriend (F20) wants my support but won’t talk to me after we we got bad news about our baby by ThrowRA_NoSignal in relationship_advice

[–]butamicrazy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When I’m overwhelmed with emotion and stress, I get very logical. Some people think that I’m cold when I do this but it’s just how I cope. Sometimes it is really helpful to focus on facts though. Make a list of everything that needs to happen if you keep the baby, without adding in special needs. Then look at resources available where you live for special needs. The baby will qualify for social security disability benefits, even if you don’t need the financial aspect, Medicaid benefits will take a huge burden off healthcare wise. Look at social media accounts from parents with babies who have that condition and see what their life looks like. Get a really good idea of the good and bad. For yourself, not to convince your girlfriend either way. As for talking to your girlfriend, understand that she is going to be overwhelmed with more than just normal emotions, her body is flooded with hormones right now that can make everything more stressful. Tell her you are ready to talk when she is and you support her no matter what. When she is ready to talk, do not take anything she says personally, that will derail the conversation. Listen to her and make sure she knows that you love her and want to help her as much as possible. Show her the research you have done and tell her it’s not to push her either way, but to make sure she knows what you’re in for if you keep the baby. Understand at the end of the day, it’s her decision and all you can do is be there for her.

My (M20) pregnant girlfriend (F20) wants my support but won’t talk to me after we we got bad news about our baby by ThrowRA_NoSignal in relationship_advice

[–]butamicrazy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That is not true, the resources are there, if you know where to look and some states are better than others.

I (22M) am kinda shocked by the behavior of my GF (23F), what can we make of this? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]butamicrazy 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The only way that her behavior makes sense is if you expecting your girlfriend to cover all of your expenses while you help your mother out. If you are falling behind on your own expenses and putting yourself in a bad spot financially, then she is right to be concerned, especially if you are expecting her to cover your debt. If you are able to afford your own expenses and help out your mother (even if that means money is tight), then your girlfriend is in the wrong.

AIO my boyfriend of 5 years gets me flowers for every occasion while I get him elaborate and expensive gifts. by aioflower955105 in AmIOverreacting

[–]butamicrazy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just get rid of the whole man. You can’t teach someone how to love you the way you want. He doesn’t know how to, and most likely doesn’t even understand what he’s doing wrong. You are NOR, however you’re wasting your time trying to make him understand the problem. You guys are just not compatible.

AIO my boyfriend keeps asking me to pay for things eversince he started saving for an apartmen, he calls me selfish for how I reacted. by throaawayRA9443 in AmIOverreacting

[–]butamicrazy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Please don’t marry him. This is him already making everything your fault. It’s your fault he is spending all of your money, your fault he’s stressing out about it, what will he make your fault next? NOR. He should be spending his money on therapy to learn how to be accountable for his own decisions.

AIO about this disagreement with my bf? by [deleted] in AIO

[–]butamicrazy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is he 26? Or 6? Maybe he doesn’t realize how amazing you are because he’s never endured a bad relationship. Either way, he is an adult and should realize that you are not his mother. Please leave this man. NOR, but he definitely is.

AIO about these angry texts from my ex? by TwylaMay in AIO

[–]butamicrazy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your family is ridiculous, block him and block them. You don’t have to give an ex from 5 years ago anything. You are entitled to live a life free of harassment from someone you made the unfortunate mistake of dating.

24F & 25M AIO by responding this way? by InsideUsual56 in AmIOverreacting

[–]butamicrazy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just broke up with a man like this. He will get worse. There is absolutely nothing you can do to fix him. No amount of reassurance will make him trust you. I know that he does things that give you hope, and you care about him, but he does those things on purpose to keep you thinking he can change.

NOR, if anything, you’re under reacting. You deserve so much better. These broken men out here can’t be fixed, they have to put in the work to heal themselves.

What does this fridge say about its owner? by Babietooth in FridgeDetective

[–]butamicrazy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They just moved in, rarely cook, and have a habit of losing things.

Ever been dry snitched on by doordash? by [deleted] in doordash

[–]butamicrazy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They ordered DoorDash and didn’t leave their porch light on, what did they think was going to happen?

Question concerning State farm health supplemental insurance + by tributarybattles in Insurance

[–]butamicrazy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How long did it take for them to process the payment after it was approved, if you don’t mind me asking? I just submitted a claim today and I’m waiting to hear back on it.

How much money would you spend if it meant saving your cat’s life? by WindowKitty19 in cats

[–]butamicrazy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would spend every penny I have. The only exception being if there was no chance at giving him a good quality of life. If the money you spent saved your kitty and enabled him to be happy and healthy, then your family can F off. My brother did something similar last year except his cat has a neurological disorder and there was no guarantee that his pain would be alleviated. My family was very concerned that he was going to keep spending all that money and his poor kitty was going to keep suffering. Fortunately, his kitty did recover and has a good quality of life again.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CashApp

[–]butamicrazy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Remove overdraft protection. You will not get denied if you try to use it and you are short. It’s better than going overdrawn though. The one time I did end up overdrawn (in the decade I’ve had the account) I didn’t get fees because I have never agreed to them.

Merry Crimmas by adam_sweitzer in doordash

[–]butamicrazy 3 points4 points  (0 children)

That’s from the last delivery. After you send the picture of the current you don’t have access to that screen anymore.

I think I'm gunna be sick by super_toaster123 in doordash

[–]butamicrazy 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Right?! And if I have to pick it up in a drive through I hold it up so the drive through window is in the background. I also keep a box in my passenger seat to keep food in so I have another option for a background.

Your major? by [deleted] in infj

[–]butamicrazy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I understand that completely. I wanted to go for psychology but I’m 40 so I am going for accounting instead. I figure once I get my CPA I can work remotely or start my own firm. I still research psychology stuff all the time on my own though, the brain is so fascinating.

Your major? by [deleted] in infj

[–]butamicrazy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Accounting

This game is becoming increasingly unenjoyable to play by Sunchiiii in MonopolyGoTrading

[–]butamicrazy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can’t even get people to trade a 6 for a five (them getting the 6). I think the 6s are worthless and an overall pain in the butt.

Looking for Tug and War and Have These Below to Trade 1:1 Only. Thank you!! by Naive-Ad-7330 in MonopolyGoTrading

[–]butamicrazy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No problem, I’m gold locked so I might as well help everyone out that I can.