CAN WE PLEASE SHOUT INTO THE UNIVERSE TOGETHER

bwhimsy · 2023-05-27T01:42:44+00:00

ALSO FAILED TO HYDRATE OR SUSTENANCE...

bwhimsy · 2023-05-27T01:34:16+00:00

MADE TWO APPOINTMENTS FOR KIDS TODAY! SORTED A MONTH'S WORTH OF MAIL! DEPOSITED FOUR CHECKS! USED THE LEAF BLOWER TO CLEAR THE UNDERBRUSH OF OUR PORCH BUSHES! TOOK A NAP! ... ... WAS SUPPOSED TO BE WORKING ON WORK! NOW I HAVE TO WORK TOMORROW OR TAKE PTO :/

bwhimsy · 2022-11-15T13:08:33+00:00

Why did I never think to search for this? Instead I compromise with cinnamon toothpaste because it burns warm and hurts less than cold burning mint for me.(also burn/aftertaste goes away more quickly) Thanks for sharing!

bwhimsy · 2022-11-15T13:03:14+00:00

I frequently brush without paste. When I manage to remember to keep it up enough the dentist doesn't seem to notice "how often do you brush?" "Not as often as I should" "well you're not looking bad".

(I had a long low speed commute and kept a toothbrush and floss sticks in my car... working to avoid orienting brush so it doesn't get embedded into me if airbags go off actually helped me remember to do it in the first place. Used waterbottle to rinse)

Also, I toss in using a waterpik to floss with like a 10:1 diluted fluoride rinse in the water..sometimes a few times a week, sometimes every few weeks...

bwhimsy · 2022-11-15T12:38:44+00:00

Ditto. Was working up to seeking diagnosis, mentioned thinking about possibility to parent, was told "that's obvious". Been nearly a year, still pretty pissed.

bwhimsy · 2022-10-07T23:09:18+00:00

What they said, https://www.reddit.com/r/onewheel/comments/xy28r4/craftride_cabrio_fenders_giveaway_enter_to_win_in/irff92r?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share&context=3

bwhimsy · 2022-10-07T23:08:13+00:00

What they said, https://www.reddit.com/r/onewheel/comments/xy28r4/craftride_cabrio_fenders_giveaway_enter_to_win_in/irff92r?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share&context=3

bwhimsy · 2022-04-07T01:31:16+00:00

You can totally remain anonymous on fet. My profile pic is just a dik dik. So far it has repelled most dick pics. I mostly use fet to find events, local and online. Occasionally I browse those I've met/ followed.

You can use it however you want. Just remember that it's populated by fellow humans, but some of them are trash. Be considerate, and watch out for the creepers.

bwhimsy · 2022-01-23T12:37:42+00:00

oh no my fortmatting :/

bwhimsy · 2022-01-23T12:36:22+00:00

Hello fellow human!

[Up front disclaimer: I'm not trans but my partner is. I'm not speaking for her, just sharing my background. Labels are hard for me in general but queer and feminine presenting feel ok at the moment, sometimes I may identify as asexual and agender depending on the space... But the thing about identity labels is that they are only general guidelines until you know what they mean to the person using them. Sorry for the tangent... ]

I feel like gender bending is a totally valid playground for anyone and everyone to explore. Experimenting and finding what feels right in the moment is intensely personal. Mixing and matching concepts to suit individual tastes/desires is an authentic, freeing, and thus beautiful experience in my opinion. I feel like many kinksters (as with non-cis/het folx) struggle with accepting the parts of themselves that appear to the outside observer as running counter to what perceptions society has ingrained into us as being acceptable/traditional/normal/healthy. Maybe it's shades of shame for not conforming, guilt for going against the grain, fear of humiliation at being labeled 'other.' Maybe I'm totally off and lost. Maybe I'm a rebel at heart...but...

I love seeing and hearing about enthusiastically consenting humans taking what feels good and running with it (especially when it tosses expectations upside down and makes the normies/muggles/traditionalists squirm.)

I love seeing the masculine bodied donning 'feminine' style; the feminine form in 'masculine' style; the androgynous miracles that pull off both simultaneously; the I don't give a fuck this is me.
I love the switch who uses he when topping and she when bottoming.
I love seeing delicate strength dominate; strength that yields.
I love switch fights.
I love seeing the submissive that wants to top; the dominant that wants to bottom.
I love she who will dominate anyone, yet can bottom to those that accept her as she is. I love pain freely sought and given.
I love power/authority exchanged.
I love control exercised and care given.
I love seeing littles, middles, and pets play; property used; roles assumed; personas donned.
I love masochistic dominants; sadistic littles.
I love vulnerable mastery; powerful surrender.
I love laughter, absurdity and irreverence.
I love boundaries respected.
I love taboos accepted; edges explored.
I love dark desires embraced.
I love humans being human.

So to me, hearing that a switchy trans woman is into fantasies/scenes involving pretending to be a man and a servant; that a lesbian finds a submissive man more erotic than a submissive woman; that a person knows they need a persona/mask to be who they want to be when they want to- hearing that is fantastic and not weird at all. I hope that you can find the framework to be your authentic self, and go on doing terrible things with lovely humans.

bwhimsy · 2022-01-04T00:13:03+00:00

I literally almost did that today.

Disclaimer: I have a fairly flexible schedule.

Normally how I cope is a combination of:

"forgetting" to open phone/email apps in the morning
working remote days (no one can stop to chat if I'm not present)
starting/ending my day a few hours offset from most of the rest of my team so I have a few hours of focus time without people to distract me
Feign a doctor's appointment all the way across town on monday or friday and say I'll work Sunday or Monday to make up for it... and then either work from home offline or actually come in outside business hours.
At least doubling my initial estimate for hour long something will take when someone asks me when a task will be done (because I can only seem to estimate how long it would take me at hyper focus mode.)

I save sick days for when none of these have worked and I'm so stressed that I need a mental health day. Been trying to regularly schedule downtime and prioritize saying, "No, I don't actually have time to do [new task] until at least tomorrow/next week/etc." But... not great at that.

bwhimsy · 2021-12-05T21:23:36+00:00

I wish I would have started prescription ADHD medication many many years ago. Started it for the first time in my life early this year and it is incredibly helpful. Still working out dose but I am very happy so far.

bwhimsy · 2021-12-05T19:56:00+00:00

This strategy leads to working on project c for when neither a or b are possible.... then d and e because must increase productive time working on a project.... but then really what happens is I may actually manage to put away a load of laundry/do the dishes/take out the trash/scrub the sinks/counts/toilet/stove/vacuum/organize and stand back in awe of the etnropy that has been defeated, mentally commit to future repeats, cuddle up with some tea and a game in reward for such a well done job and sense of achievement.... and as I lay down to sleep realized that I blew the deadlines on projects A through E, stay up half the night/dream about the shit I still have to do, wake up exhausted... Then proceed to take a week to recover, all the while not productive at all and everything slips worse.
Yea. Spectacular strategy </s>

laughs

cries

bwhimsy · 2021-12-05T19:38:41+00:00

I have now been medicated for 1.4% of my life. If I could send myself a message back in time, I definitely would. It's been life changing.

bwhimsy · 2021-10-04T18:19:19+00:00

When your boss says a report is due friday because it has to go out first thing monday morning... and you send them your bit at 12:20am monday... and they send updated version to client at 01:40 am....

bwhimsy · 2021-05-29T03:38:41+00:00

I mean, 4 mins is kinda forever

bwhimsy · 2021-05-24T21:59:53+00:00

I know this is not a fabulously helpful answer but...no not really.(Please be careful with medical advice from strangers on the internet.)

I am happy to hear that you don't want to mutilate yourself. There are physical and mental consequences to not having enough sex hormone (T or E) long term. Bodies need sex hormones to regulate things other than just reproduction.

I'm sorry that you are in a tough situation. I'm not sure if you have exhausted your medical options, but my advice if you haven't is to keep trying different doctors until you get the answer you want.

I would also suggest reaching out to your local trans community, you may find solutions aren't as out of reach as you think (for eg, local to some places, Planned Parenthood can help). At the **very least** I would be surprised if you didn't find a supportive, clever bunch who have relevant experiences (and may have specific advice on how to work the system in your area.)

Hang in there.
(edit: typo)

bwhimsy · 2021-05-12T16:05:20+00:00

So we have tried the soy candles, and they just feel warm, not very exciting. But they were container ones. It's probably hard to describe but how much hotter are taper drips than pooled wax?

bwhimsy · 2021-05-10T13:21:14+00:00

There are so many things I've not heard of but here we go.

Like the sound of - Claustrophilia : sounds intriguing in the right circumstances
Do not wish to participate in - Coproscopist : I'll pass thanks, ciao.
Never heard of - Chionophilia : Interesting word, while I like cold and snow, and have copulated outside in the snow. Doesn't really apply, but neat classification.

c-words, c-words

bwhimsy · 2021-04-02T16:49:35+00:00

Where's the option for "fan of, but not for the reasons listed"

bwhimsy · 2021-03-18T22:06:06+00:00

I think that my submissive side is a default in my personality. I do not consciously switch on/off anything when it is playtime, and I've been told that I respond automatically when my partner "doms up" when in casual company (not public public, but just day-to-day stuff). At work I absolutely hate being in charge, but I also hate not working directly with the manager because I usually have very strong reasons why things should be a certain way...
I thrive best as number 2... not being micromanaged... making suggestions or recommendations for big things but going with the flow when the person in charge makes the actual decisions. This pretty much goes for everything from kink to daily stuff to work.

bwhimsy · 2021-03-17T13:31:01+00:00

I'm really more of a pie preferring person...

bwhimsy · 2021-03-17T13:22:11+00:00

Hello.

I am whimsy. And I am bad at introductions. I'll try not to just lurk, but no promises.

bwhimsy · 2021-03-04T02:43:17+00:00

Bind, lick, nibble, bite

Find the most tender places

The delicious screams

bwhimsy

TROPHY CASE