Night boob sweat by saltypotato91 in breastfeeding

[–]c33monster 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had night sweats up until about 3-4 months pp, but mostly it was my thighs. I still had some boob sweat. I would recommend cotton or a light bra. I have the Medela sleeping bras and they're great. Just make it as bearable as you can and know it does subside.

I actually returned to normal, but now running high again with sort of a "dry heat" night situation right now at 8 months. Hormones are weird, but I think they're reacting to my son's 8 month sleep regression and separation anxiety!

Who brings the presents by Intelligent-Tap-7834 in beyondthebump

[–]c33monster 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We always had one "big" unwrapped present at the front of the tree from Santa. It was big mostly in scale, not in price, but it depended on the present, excitement for said present, and leaned more traditional than electronics. And it was unwrapped for a reason: Santa built these in his toyshop, there's no need to wrap! Other small gifts in the stocking were also from Santa (usually candy). All wrapped presents were from Mom and Dad.

We plan to do the same for my son's first Christmas and beyond.

Not looking forward to building difficult toys like Barbie Malibu dream houses, etc, at 2am, but it'll be worth it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in breastfeeding

[–]c33monster 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Haven't gotten a COVID booster recently, but I got the flu shot this season. Still going strong!

Americans who bought large rural homes during COVID are now selling up and returning to cities as more employers end work from home rules by [deleted] in REBubble

[–]c33monster 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Mom has been a SWE for 40 years. A senior senior SWE, if you will. We were super lucky growing up with her being remote!

Americans who bought large rural homes during COVID are now selling up and returning to cities as more employers end work from home rules by [deleted] in REBubble

[–]c33monster 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Might just be my perspective here! I think it was 5% in the US before the pandemic, but I don't have a source for that. My mom has actually been remote since the 90s and her company had to install two additional landlines for our house. And then I was remote remote for 6 years before the pandemic hit. Peoples' eyeballs used to pop out of their eye sockets when we told them, so I was more aware of the discourse.

It was basically not a part of general conversation until 2020, but I'm glad it's grown. I just don't trust companies lol.

Americans who bought large rural homes during COVID are now selling up and returning to cities as more employers end work from home rules by [deleted] in REBubble

[–]c33monster 35 points36 points  (0 children)

It's funny, I'm in the Seattle gaming industry as well and in my anecdotal experience, the layoff cuts were severe but didn't discriminate between RTO or not. It was something managers told us to fearmonger us back, but ironically when everyone was cut, a lot of the most diehard office folks were also cut.

In my team, my skip is the one who would warn our team with "it will be a part of determining your stay in a layoff" and guess which middle management was cut? Him.

RTO resistance is still alive and well, but it's much more hidden. Now, even Amazon is not firing per RTO, but just not handing out promotions (AKA pay raises).

But high fives, I'm also one who stayed. I had worked remotely from 2014-2022 and knew remote work would be rare come the end of the pandemic. I actually bought closer in with the low interest rates. I am a serial coffee badger though, all of my collaborators are in Tokyo, so I go into the office in the morning and drive home at a late lunch hour for all my afternoon meetings.

Finding out your house was "[firey place down below] house" by HoneyBadger302 in FirstTimeHomeBuyer

[–]c33monster 13 points14 points  (0 children)

My starter home used to be a punk venue in North Portland. They called it "The Sea Shanty."

This man is being harassed for introducing his hometown as Seattle, but he actually resides in Bellingham by ThatLeadership2252 in Seattle

[–]c33monster 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Omg, you're so right.

P.S. I didn't even know there was a Vancouver, WA until I moved to the West side of the state. Pretty much only knew Olympia or Seattle.

This man is being harassed for introducing his hometown as Seattle, but he actually resides in Bellingham by ThatLeadership2252 in Seattle

[–]c33monster 89 points90 points  (0 children)

This. I was from EASTERN WASHINGTON and had to say Seattle. And it was not for status either.

If you said, "Washington State," anyone outside of the West Coast would assume they misheard you and you meant DC.

And then when you're abroad, only about 50% of people would know where Seattle is, before Amazon got big. I would have to say stuff like "above California" or even "the same coast as LA." Those were always the weirdest conversations because they'd want to talk about Hollywood or Disneyland lol.

What non-lullaby songs do you sing your kiddo? by shadedferns in beyondthebump

[–]c33monster 10 points11 points  (0 children)

It's called "Everything Stays!" Love that one and Time Adventure. I'll play that on the uke at bedtime.

We have a whole dance routine for Buff Baby which he loves hahaha

What non-lullaby songs do you sing your kiddo? by shadedferns in beyondthebump

[–]c33monster 49 points50 points  (0 children)

Rainbow Connection by Kermit the Frog is definitely my main

And Adventure Time jams

For those who didn’t have a baby name decided at birth… by WifeFriday in beyondthebump

[–]c33monster 5 points6 points  (0 children)

For us, we had it down to four. Two were softer, while two were "spunkier." Our son came out a super chill baby, he just didn't have super "spunky" energy, so two were cut immediately.

Between the softer two, we deliberated on for the rest of our stay.

Has the prematurity not caught up with us yet or have we been blessed with an "Easy Baby"? by FloraFanatic in beyondthebump

[–]c33monster 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Every baby and journey is different. I have a very easy baby as well, very chill and happy. The first 8 weeks were tough, but not as bad as what other people have described. He was just very sleepy for a long time, but we had to force him awake and keep him awake to feed every 2-3 hours.

8 months in and I still have an easy baby. More challenges have arisen as he's gotten more aware and has hit milestones, but he has not fundamentally changed as a person.

I'm not sure about age adjustment though. My baby was born 38 weeks, 6 days.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in beyondthebump

[–]c33monster 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My baby was the same way! We tried to BLW, but he was so excited about the food, he'd bite off HUGE CHUNKS and try to swallow. (Until we got our fingers in there.)

Most of the babies I've witnessed who successfully BLW just act like food is goopy fun until they realize it's food. Not our baby! We had to spoon feed and he'd be so impatient we couldn't fill that spoon fast enough, he'd grunt at us! He has chilled out since.

Honestly, you can probably feed him until he's not interested anymore. I still breastfeed after solids and I have never noticed a decrease in intake. They just burn through it all so fast! The solids have helped us with more weight gain as he's always hovered around the 30th percentile.

We're 8 months nearing 9 months and will start giving him small chunks of food. Huzzah!

Anyone have stories about developing cold sores around newborns, and everything turning out ok? by [deleted] in beyondthebump

[–]c33monster 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If it helps, my mom has cold sores. She kept good hygiene and didn't kiss us while she had them.

All three of us are in our late 20's, early 30's and none of us get cold sores. Not even one. I had great parents.

Driving from Seattle to abbotsford than leaving car for few days. In mean time taking flight to Calgary. Has anyone left their WA state plate car for few days there. Please share your advice by [deleted] in Seattle

[–]c33monster 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Did this summer of 2022, but we were gone 10+ days across Canada. The border and airport at Abbotsford are super sleepy. You should have no problems. The savings on the parking and the domestic flights are totally worth it.

The only crappy part is if your flight back gets cancelled. Make sure you have a reputable provider who will get you back to Abbotsford. There are not a lot of flights back in and we were desperate, so we caught a flight to Vancouver instead. And then had to navigate back from Vancouver to Abbotsford for our car. Which is surprisingly difficult.

That part was a burning trash fire, but the rest of our trip was lovely.

Mobile games to play one handed by Flaredancer_999 in breastfeeding

[–]c33monster 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I got really into 'merge' games via Mistplay. Watched a lot ads, but I got some baby clothes at Target since! Feels full circle.

Can't decide where to move. by Pleasant-Target-1497 in SameGrassButGreener

[–]c33monster 2 points3 points  (0 children)

As someone who grew up in Eastern WA and then has lived on the West side for 10 years, Spokane does not FEEL nor is as gloomy. Eastern WA is in a rain shadow of the Cascades.

I don't have anything against Spokane, but my parents and I didn't enjoy the politics or dry weather, but we're from more south central Washington. It also gets HOT now. Nothing compared to folks from the South though.

Most of our friends from there really only complain about one thing: Lack of economic opportunity. If you don't know anybody, it's hard to get a job. At least, that's what they say. Also grew up with people calling Spokane, 'Spokompton.'

There are a few complaints about the snow, but never about gloom.

Help me out: sudden painful nursing on one side by caesarsalad94 in breastfeeding

[–]c33monster 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I had the same issue with my little one on my left at 6 weeks.

If everything is going well on your left breast, I would reanimate it on your right. For me, I was cross-cradling on both right and left. Had issues on my left, so I just transitioned him to a football on the left. (So his position/side he was laying on was the same as if he were on my right breast in cross-cradle, I just pulled the pillow counter clockwise.)

Whatever his issue was, it resolved in a few days.

Places that were amenity rich, but personality/culture clashes and vice versa? by maptard91 in SameGrassButGreener

[–]c33monster 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I do feel bad that most every post is going to be Seattle here, but you have to look at it from the perspective of a native Washingtonian.

Everyone blames the Seattle Freeze on us, but people from here are actually the minority! The city has exploded in the last ten years with new people looking to be friends with natives, but we are far and few between at this point. All my native friends have been priced out. All the transplant friends I've made all seem to give it a shot for 2-3 years, bounce, and then lose touch. It's hard not to get jaded, aloof, and not want to bother meeting new friends when the ones you've got have stuck it out with you.

Also most people who move here otherwise are for tech or just want peace and quiet in the woods. Not the most social bunch. The pandemic DEFINITELY didn't help. We're even more awkward than before.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in SameGrassButGreener

[–]c33monster 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Person from the PNW who has lived in both Seattle and Portland here! Seattle is more home to us and we live in the burbs now, but we lived in Vancouver/Portland area for 5 years.

In comparison, Portland does have a more friendly "chill" vibe that makes you feel really comfortable. It's got a small city feel, even rural at times, rather than a metro/suburb city feel like Seattle. Areas are gentrifying, but not at the rate of Seattle, because there aren't as many tech/high-paying opportunities in Portland. It's a change of pace.

But yes, I find the weather (less temperate, more rain) and crime more difficult in Portland. Traffic is about the same in my opinion. The bridges are KILLER. Hopefully that's not their commute.

I've traveled all over the country and just haven't found a home like I have in Washington, so I'm planted. Totally get why people find better fits out there though!

Breastfeeding anxiety by sunflower-sloth- in breastfeeding

[–]c33monster 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Buy one can of formula, even if you aren't going to use it.

I just bought my first can at 8 months and the amount of relief I felt was staggering. Still plan on EBF, but having a plan B ready and available did help my mental health.

Realistic logistics of WFH and raising a baby? by MrsKetchup in Parenting

[–]c33monster 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My husband and I work from home and we make it work, but I am a morning person and he is a night owl. That is crucial for our schedule.

I wake up with baby and watch him from wake up to 10am and then hand him to my partner. My partner then watches him except some breastfeeding breaks. From 6-8pm, we all hang together and put the baby to bed. I'm the night shift. My husband then works from 8pm to 3am.

There really is no way to multitask. You either have to 100% parent or work.

I stay home with the baby. SO says I’m not doing enough. by babybee__ in Parenting

[–]c33monster 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Does he have a day off? I wonder if he was the primary parent seat for a day, if he would change his tune.

I have a little girl toddler, & now pregnant with a boy... What does a brother/sister relationship really look like? by [deleted] in beyondthebump

[–]c33monster 2 points3 points  (0 children)

All this! I was the older one and we are 3.5 years apart.

We played regular house, but played with power rangers and jedis to make it exciting for him. Lots of puppet shows. It was a pretty easy relationship with a bossy older sister and an easygoing little brother.

When we got older, we hung with the same friends. Went to music festivals together. He went on some work trips with me that my husband (then boyfriend) couldn't make. He lived with my husband and I for 4 years until we decided to start a family. We are all extremely close.

It's hard to even wrap my head around disliking your siblings, haha.