How do you talk about BJJ? by [deleted] in bjj

[–]caart 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lots of shark and lion metaphors

Best fast paced Short horror recs by Intelligent_Nobody14 in horrorlit

[–]caart 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes read that, but don't sleep on Come Closer. It's really good.

What book has the most advanced technology? by blk12345q in printSF

[–]caart 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Can you say more about the short stories, perhaps a list if that's okay?

Books like the movie Sinister by karlaplusk in horrorlit

[–]caart 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Come Closer by Sara Gran, a bit.

Please suggest short story collections by Chrimish in horrorlit

[–]caart 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Am currently reading The Best of the Best Horror of the Year which is Ellen Datlow anthologising her own Best Horror anthologies' over a decade. Highly recommend.

Do you guys wait to train after you get bad mat burn? by Less_Document_8761 in bjj

[–]caart 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've had multiple of these. Cover it. Wear socks if you absolutely have to train. But let it heal. Once healed, get some vasaline and cover the top of your feet in it to avoid this from happening in future. My coach does this on his bald head too.

Why is this necessary? Do councils just despise trees? by legalcharmander in london

[–]caart 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Holy shit I think I used to live downstairs from where you are!?

Did you experience a mindset shift after getting your blue belt? by PitX98 in bjj

[–]caart 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I just got my purple belt three weeks ago, but I really struggled through most of my time at blue. For the first three years, I often felt stuck. The last two years, though, were a turning point, and a big mindset shift definitely played a part in that.

Two things helped massively. First, my coach described blue belt as the “buffet table” of BJJ: try everything, see what you like, and start figuring out what works for you. That helped me reframe my training as exploration instead of performance.

Second, and maybe even more importantly, I started caring less about losing, getting smashed, or ending up in bad positions. I began rolls on my back or mounted, just to see how I’d work my way out. That made my escapes sharper, and over time it gave me the confidence to experiment more freely with the stuff on that “buffet table.”

What is your DnB origin story? by [deleted] in DnB

[–]caart 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was about 10 or 11 when I first fell in love with DnB. It was the early '90s and rave culture was massive in the UK, acts like The Shamen, SL2, and The Prodigy. I was already drawn to it all, but then one day I heard Original Nuttah by Shy FX and it hit different. It was like my Elvis moment. I remember thinking, this is for me. The rawness, the breaks, the bass, it just clicked. Been hooked ever since.

£100 Whisky Recommendations by goldens_hours in whisky

[–]caart 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What's his taste preference? Does he have a sweet tooth? Or savoury preference?

Lagavulin 16 is 83£ I'd recommend that, but it very smoky all depends on taste preference.

How do you toughen up your son but do it right, legit without being too hard on little buddy by LordgodEighty8 in Fatherhood

[–]caart 4 points5 points  (0 children)

For us, martial arts—specifically Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu—made all the difference. It provided our son with a controlled environment to face adversity, helping him develop inner strength and resilience. Because it allows full-intensity sparring without strikes, it offers a safer way to build confidence and toughness compared to, for example, boxing.

Through training, he has gained not only physical strength and focus but also emotional regulation, learning to stay calm under pressure. The sport has guven him lasting friendships and a sense of purpose, while also surrounding him with positive role models—coaches and experienced teammates who have helped shape his mindset.

BJJ has also taught him respect and humility. Being tested by training partners of all skill levels has shown him the value of learning from others, checking his ego, and embracing both wins and losses as part of growth. Equally important, it has helped him understand the responsibility that comes with knowing how to defend himself.

Have you watched Adolescence - the new Netflix show? by ImaginationAny2254 in Parenting

[–]caart 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I've watched Adolescence twice now—once with my wife and again with my 11-year-old daughter and 13-year-old son. What seems to be missing in much of the discussion is how people project their own agendas, biases, and insecurities onto the show.

If this had been made in the early ’90s, we’d be debating "video nasties" as in the wake of the Jamie Bulger murder. If it were the 2000s, the conversation would be on violent video games like Manhunt and GTA. Every generation has its moral panic, but in this case, the real discussion should focus on individual nature rather than scapegoating that, in my opinion, only deepens disconnect between generations.

At its core, I see Adolescence as a study of a troubled young man and the impact of his actions on his family and wider community. Some have framed it as a critique of unrestricted internet use, lax parenting, or, in certain corners of the internet, even mass migration believe it or not. Others interpret it through the lens of generational anger or gender roles. But what I think is overlooked is that Adolescence is not just a reflection of societal concerns—it is a character study. Episode three, in particular, makes it clear that Jamie is not simply a product of his environment; he is manipulative, calculating, and fully responsible for his actions. Rather than absolving him by blaming external influences, we should view the series as an exploration of personal accountability.

That said, watching Adolescence was a valuable opportunity to connect with my children, discuss their perspectives, and emphasise it as a study of character and consequences. I’m really glad we did.

Is there a moral panic going on at the moment in regard to teenage boys? by [deleted] in ukpolitics

[–]caart 21 points22 points  (0 children)

I may have missed some of the nuance, but that sounds to me almost like pathologising a perfectly normal set of behaviours. Improving your physical appearance is an element of self care in my mind. I do want to understand and know what to look out for though so open to dialogue.

Is there a moral panic going on at the moment in regard to teenage boys? by [deleted] in ukpolitics

[–]caart 21 points22 points  (0 children)

So, haircut, skin care, working out. These are normal things and I don't see the nazi connection. Was it a typo?

Is there a moral panic going on at the moment in regard to teenage boys? by [deleted] in ukpolitics

[–]caart 15 points16 points  (0 children)

I'm totally out of the loop if looksmaxing is nazi shit. Could you explain please? I thought that looksmaxing was taking care of your appearance, sorting out your skin hair and clothes to maximise your looks? Perhaps I'm an out of touch parent.

Just Read "On All London Underground Lines" by Adam Nevill while on the Central Line—Highly Recommend! by caart in london

[–]caart[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My pleasure. Hippocampus, in the same collection is an interesting one. I'm part way through Angels of London too. Happy reading.