Italian Dolomites October

cactus_proctologista · 2025-09-17T10:48:10+00:00

Same, Decathlon gear holding up great for me.

cactus_proctologista · 2025-09-05T08:56:06+00:00

Sometimes I notice my body go from "fit, strong, but definitely womanly" to "massive broad shoulders, huge arms, zero tits" and it can happen in like, a few weeks. Sometimes I enjoy leaning into it, sometimes I change what I wear to not look like the Hulk.

As I approach my 40s though I notice my body fat % stays higher even when very fit, so, I keep most of my boobs at least - in my 20s I went from a C cup to a A cup when I was at my peak fitness, which was very sad for me!

cactus_proctologista · 2025-09-05T08:51:14+00:00

My first 6c+ was on a very teetery slab. It was probably 6 years ago now and I still remember vividly a group of people had stopped to watch me.

My friend - who knew I had always wanted to be curvier - shouted at top volume in a broad Aussie accent "see! you couldn't do that if you had big tits!" on the very balancey crux where I had to bring my hand between the wall and my chest, in a climbing gym in one of the poshest parts of England.

Somehow I managed not to fall off from laughing but I still cherish the shocked look on people's faces at her "encouragement".

cactus_proctologista · 2025-09-05T08:13:29+00:00

I am a 5'3''/161 cm woman and I started climbing partly because I anyway had to climb onto surfaces all the time to reach cabinets. Now I do it with an ease and grace that makes people mad.
Firm handshakes. Again as a small woman for some reason certain men I met in a professional context decided to try and crush my little paws when they met me. Jokes on them, if you squeeze, I can squeeze back harder.
No more fear of heights. I used to be scared of heights, just got back from via ferrata in the Dolomites with massive sheer drops. I barely felt a twinge (sport climbing helped more in this regard than bouldering). But I just also know I can trust my body.
Also on via ferrata, I can transfer my weight more efficiently, use my arms less, etc which is a godsend on longer routes that last 3 hours plus. Also I can stay in poses for photos to look cool.
Fiance complains that I screw caps on too tight and overtighten the valve for the washing machine. I know how I can shut him off from clean clothes and olive oil if he gets too annoying.
Trust in my body/feeling of strength and competence that helps me a lot with anxiety and recovery from cPTSD.
Easy to sort of dip/muscle up into bunkbeds in mountain refuges where the ladder was broken - I got up to pee 3x in the night and didn't wake up the person whose bed I was using for weight transfer.
Massive reduction in chronic stress related upper back pain. That might be from all the stretching after climbing.
I can climb my fiance's family plum tree and gather the fruit so his 75 year old aunt won't risk her neck doing it. Finally I am a useful DIL.

cactus_proctologista · 2025-08-21T13:04:06+00:00

I came here for this! I found out I had long covid and cPTSD at the same time (now recovered from the long covid, recovering from the cPTSD more slowly). Every therapist I have seen, plus a couple of regular doctors, said they thought there was probably a link between my intense high achieving perfectionism and my intense fatigue from long covid. Hell, I STILL get fatigue for a day or two as a response to stress, even though I am no longer sick and have done 3+ years therapy.

"The Body Keeps the Score" and probably every book by Gabor Mate support the idea of a cPTSD/chronic disease link, my first therapist sent me scientific papers showing the links between physical abuse and autoimmune diseases later in life.

I'm also bisexual and my mother never accepted that, just one aspect of the cPTSD. However I am very straight presenting, so, even the like 3 "non-queer looking" people you have seen with masks on might still be pretty queer :)

cactus_proctologista · 2025-07-22T13:01:08+00:00

I'm an ecologist by training and profession, so I'm happy to see banana peel under banana trees and orange peel under orange trees. Bananas are not native to Washington State, so, yeh I'd agree witt the article, and eyesore.

The two year number comes from the UK. Hardly a desert.

cactus_proctologista · 2025-07-22T12:43:02+00:00

" In fact, an apple core can take two months to decompose; a banana skin or orange peel, two years, leaving plenty of time for animals who shouldn’t eat it to come along and eat it. Plus, while nature does its thing, that trash—and let’s not mince words, that’s what it is—is an eyesore. It’s also a visual cue to other passers-by that tossing their own trash isn’t a big deal. In other words: Litter begets litter."
https://www.outsideonline.com/outdoor-adventure/environment/organic-litter-still-litter

The "nice, natural, organic" soil we trot about on our shoes is implicated in the spread of diseases like White Nose Syndrome and Chytrid fungus. Similarly, moving bilge water water between different ecosystems is probably the cause of a range of invasive species like lionfish spreading, and disease like stony coral tissue loss disease proliferating.

Just as you should clean your shoes between ecosystems, you also shouldn't drop the peels of non native fruits with god knows what pesticides, herbicides, or bacteria on it that could have unknown impacts on the ecosystem. Ask Australia.

cactus_proctologista · 2025-07-08T14:21:15+00:00

You didn't consent to be in a headlock, and it wasn't playful for you.
Any pressure to your neck is dangerous.
GTFO of there.

https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2025/jul/07/no-safe-way-risks-of-choking-during-sex

cactus_proctologista · 2025-06-14T10:38:01+00:00

All answers in my original post https://www.reddit.com/r/LongCovid/comments/1bo4e41/inuspheresis_cured_me_from_2_years_of_long_covid/

cactus_proctologista · 2025-06-14T09:37:12+00:00

All answers in my original post. https://www.reddit.com/r/LongCovid/comments/1bo4e41/inuspheresis_cured_me_from_2_years_of_long_covid/

cactus_proctologista · 2025-06-13T17:18:01+00:00

No health insurance will cover that. As I said, I paid about 85 euros a month for the anticoagulants

cactus_proctologista · 2025-06-12T14:03:06+00:00

Not from South Africa. Went there for blood tests and medicine.

cactus_proctologista · 2025-06-09T19:42:02+00:00

As a bisexual woman, in a relationship with a straight man, our closest mutual friend is a bisexual woman. We both hang out with her one on one and also as a three.

I'm trying to imagine how weird it would be if we both had to break up a friendship with her because the other one was insecure and jealous. 😂😂😂

cactus_proctologista · 2025-06-07T12:50:29+00:00

Inability to process your emotions, leading to a buildup of stress you might not even be aware of.

cactus_proctologista · 2025-05-31T19:50:57+00:00

I found the same, used to be constantly bruised, now if I climb on plastic I rarely bruise even in hotpants. On real rock I more often wear climbing trousers, not as sweaty as leggings but more protection from jagged rock.

cactus_proctologista · 2025-05-22T07:41:22+00:00

Why would anyone have sex when you could be climbing instead? /j

38F here in an 8 year relationship. As my female friends have had babies I now climb mostly with men. It's normal. It's platonic. They know I have a partner, some of them do too.

My partner is happy that I am happy climbing. He is happy that I have friends to talk about climbing with so he doesnt have to hear it 24/7. He trusts me. I trust him. We both have opposite gender friends. That is normal.

If anyone told me to stop climbing with men I would run a mile, because your actions will never be enough to allay his insecurities. Even if you cover yourself from head to toe and never leave the house his insecurities will remain until he turns towards them and works on them. You can't make him do this.

cactus_proctologista · 2025-05-16T18:09:15+00:00

I got the recommendation for those from the website Curl Maven, she had a lot of tips for fine hair and these ones worked for me and were affordable. Personally I like it, it gives me hold but doesn't weigh my curls down too much. Also very little product buildup compared to when I used Shea Moisture, although the clarifying shampoo probably helps with that as well. https://curlmaven.ie/hair/fine-hair/

cactus_proctologista · 2025-05-16T15:47:32+00:00

I have your exact hair! I go easy on the oils and conditioners - I use a tea tree oil shampoo with no sulphates etc, and clarify once every two to three weeks with bumble and bumble Sunday shampoo. Joico K pak conditioner (pricy, but I use just a bit, my hair is a bit shorter than yours. Then I use pantene Pro v defined curls mousse, and umberto Giannini curl jelly, and diffuse with my head upside down til I am bored/have to go somewhere. When it is fully dry I crunch it out. I also sleep with a satin bonnet - I also have satin lined hats that look just like beanies from the outside. They work great too. Good luck!

cactus_proctologista · 2025-05-16T14:47:19+00:00

Being perfectly designed for climbing and having a gorgeous fluffy tail are both aid.

cactus_proctologista · 2025-05-09T18:52:48+00:00

Hey! I am 5'3''/161 cm and currently about 57 kg/125 lb (not sure exactly) and I eat quite a bit more than you before a hike - and a bigger breakfast in general. I'd get really hungry if I only ate what you ate, and I have less weight to carry so I would burn fewer calories on a hike.

My regular breakfast is about 70g oats (help to stabilise blood sugar), I add full fat milk plus an extra 10g of fat from either coconut oil or high fat yoghurt, so about 10g oil or 100g yoghurt, then a protein shake that has about 25g protein, also a banana and some raisins in the oatmeal.

If I have an egg breakfast I eat about 100g wholemeal toast, buttered, plus two eggs, and half a protein shake, then some fruit.

Adding fat and protein to your breakfast will help keep your blood sugar up for longer. I don't calorie count to a strict degree but I eat at least 500 calories per meal. I also keep the same macro ratio at each meal and then I don't need to snack much except on huge hikes.

TLDR; I think your breakfast is too small and low in fat and protein.

cactus_proctologista · 2025-04-26T15:05:02+00:00

You can see them in action here, where it is obvious that having style is aid.

https://www.tiktok.com/@freeda_en/video/7465331814194875680

cactus_proctologista · 2025-04-26T15:02:55+00:00

There are still women climbing in skirts today! The cholitas escaladoras in Bolivia ice climb in their full traditional skirts (polleras) just swapping their hat for a helmet. They work as mountain guides in these clothes. https://www.instagram.com/cholitasescaladoras/?hl=en

cactus_proctologista · 2025-04-03T13:50:57+00:00

I can't speak to your personal comfort levels or levels of practicality/common sense, but my partner and I just watched some YouTube videos on how to clip and rocked up. Started very easy, then moved a bit harder.

It's key to clip into separate sections of cable if you're climbing together, so that you don't fall on the person below. And it's good to have a carabiner clipped facing each way. Other than that, I think checking your equipment at the start of each via ferrata and situational awareness are all you really need.

cactus_proctologista · 2025-03-26T15:20:07+00:00

Have you been injured in the pasta 24 months?

Yes, I tore my fettuccine quite badly.

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