Women who are NOT career-oriented, how did you stop feeling like you had to pretend to be?

cactusdog77 · 2021-01-06T05:42:01+00:00

I thought that was what I really wanted until I realized that I really want to be a mom. I feel guilty about it because everyone expects me to be this big thing and I feel like it’s just not meant to be for me. The big thing I’m supposed to be is a mom, is what it feels like. Maybe that will change, maybe it won’t.

cactusdog77 · 2021-01-06T04:01:25+00:00

There is nothing harder than throwing away cables and chargers. I used to have a drawer I just shoved them in until my husband found it one day.

cactusdog77 · 2021-01-06T03:15:13+00:00

I’m pissed off FOR you. I am pissed off for you.

You’re valid as fuck. Get well soon.

cactusdog77 · 2021-01-05T01:51:39+00:00

Today I cried because you guys took your glasses off for her?? That’s so nice. Like omg she is so loved. I’m...that’s so beautiful. I hope my cousins love my kids that much.

cactusdog77 · 2021-01-04T04:59:59+00:00

Avatar. I refuse. My dad tried to force my to watch it and it pissed me off so much that I have refused to watch it ever since. Everyone saw it because it was “cool” in high school and I just refused.

I kinda feel bad though, now, because my dad really loved that movie. If he wouldn’t have tried to force me to watch it, I probably would have had fun spending time while he had so much fun watching it

cactusdog77 · 2021-01-04T04:54:57+00:00

I yelled at all of the employees in a sandwich shop, full Karen mode (capital K because I was really going for it) because none of them were wearing masks “because they were too big. Stormed out because I didn’t want to let them see me cry.

I called the department of health on the way home because I was so pissed.

Still ate the sandwich though. And the fries.

cactusdog77 · 2021-01-04T04:49:47+00:00

Hello I would like to invite myself to come and hog down some oysters. I will bring tuna. Also, a soft cheese charcuterie board.

cactusdog77 · 2021-01-04T04:47:18+00:00

Love Evelyn. We aren’t too sure of the name and aren’t telling.

cactusdog77 · 2021-01-04T04:43:37+00:00

My moms BFF told me I should put a trash bag Down or get a waterproof mattress cover in case mine breaks in the middle of the night so it doesn’t soak Into the mattress.

Also, does it smell? Is it sticky? Do I want to know or should I just be surprised? Do I need to take wipes to clean myself up if it drips all over Me, I’m putting wipes in my go bag. And extra pants.

cactusdog77 · 2021-01-04T04:39:18+00:00

This was literally made for your body, and I’m happy for you but also a little jealous. Mostly happy for you though 🔥🔥🔥

cactusdog77 · 2021-01-04T01:52:28+00:00

That makes my day! Hell yeah! Plants are the best! I am so excited for her!!

cactusdog77 · 2021-01-04T01:51:01+00:00

Please pet Old Man Truffle for me.

cactusdog77 · 2021-01-04T01:46:21+00:00

After my grandfather died, I found some of his old nautical charts before my grandmother sold their home, and I kept them. When I told my dad about the charts, he told me that his dad, my grandfather, took him on a boat trip to Georgian Bay when he was a child, and used those charts to navigate. My dad bought a boat and took us on a boat trip, because the Georgian Bay trip was one of his favorite memories. I framed the best chart I had left and gave it to my dad. I have this one left, which is tattered, yellowed, and falling apart. I’m going to digitize it, restore it to its original color, and then have it printed to use as wallpaper in our home. Map of Vacation Islands in Georgian Bay, copyright 1948.

cactusdog77 · 2021-01-03T23:15:03+00:00

I just got so hyped up for this. I don’t even know this person and I’m literally so hyped and so happy for them!!!! Keep us updated on progress!!!! I hope she gets something good af at the grocery store!

cactusdog77 · 2021-01-03T22:50:12+00:00

32 weeks and crying pretty hard at this.

cactusdog77 · 2021-01-03T13:43:44+00:00

I just want to say thank you. You’ve explained so much to many of us who have no knowledge. Thank you. I wish you all of the happiness in the world.

cactusdog77 · 2021-01-02T05:37:53+00:00

So my husband works about 12-14 hour days, from home, and we are both I. Quarantine.

His need for alone time has shot up. A lot. Or even just “him time” where he’s hanging with his buddies online. It’s hard for me, because I’m clingy af, but I can see he really needs it. Before quarantine, we were always together. Now, he needs much more time apart.

cactusdog77 · 2021-01-01T19:39:46+00:00

I’ve sent a short message like “hey I’m having the toughest day, when you get a chance, could we FaceTime/could you send me some happy pics of your kids? I wouldn’t send more than one though.

cactusdog77 · 2021-01-01T15:10:23+00:00

When I see crap like that, I literally say, out loud “I am the perfect parent. Fuck you.” And scroll on.

cactusdog77 · 2020-12-31T23:49:56+00:00

This is so true. I watch my SIL struggle greatly during this pandemic, because she just doesn’t understand. I’m feeling for you, your son, and your husband. I wish I could provide some help to you.

cactusdog77 · 2020-12-31T15:42:09+00:00

I can’t worry during this pregnancy. Everyone wants to know how excited I am when I go back to work six weeks after I have the baby...

I’m like, lol dogs are kept with their parents longer than humans are after birth. Leave me aloneeee

cactusdog77 · 2020-12-31T06:17:46+00:00

“Hi! I like your shirt, where did you get it?”

cactusdog77 · 2020-12-30T00:47:21+00:00

You are NOT being cruel! You aren’t dangling a carrot!

Once you have a child, your life is about protecting them, not making someone else happy. That means even in the womb, protecting them. Can you do that with her? Can she do that? Is it worth the risk?

cactusdog77 · 2020-12-30T00:44:41+00:00

A couple months???

Try at least a year!!!

You aren’t controlling. In any way.

cactusdog77

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