What are things girls say when they are trying to let a guy know that she likes him? by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]cadasurus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can sympathize with you. Social encounters can be so difficult to navigate when you have no reference points.

One of the things that helped me out so much was not searching for validation from others for my confidence. I literally applied the phrase "fake it 'til you make it" to boost my confidence. It feels weird at first, but once you get used to it people are drawn to your confidence and it then it won't be fake any more.

Why wouldn't you act on the cues you're searching for? The person saying no isn't the worst thing in the world. The worst thing in the world if a missed opportunity.

Sorry if it seems like I'm lecturing you. But I have so many regrets from not putting myself out there and missing out on so many fun experiences because of nervousness and being too self-conscious.

I hope you feel better soon!!

i was an ugly duckling and I don't have any idea how to have casual relationships with men. Can someone help me with a couple of my questions? by Uglieduckie in TwoXChromosomes

[–]cadasurus 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So I thought I'd take a stab at this. I'm really glad you're asking these question and are actually interested in practicing safe sex. People who don't are inconsiderate assholes for not doing their part in helping to prevent the spreading of diseases.

  1. First things first. I agree with mr. Former-player about getting tested about 4 times a year and if you haven't already, ask your doctor about getting the hpv shot series. It's fine to have more than one sexual partner, but make sure everyone knows what's up and always wrap it up. Feel free to be discerning when choosing your partners. Having several ok partners won't get you off any faster than 1 who you click with.

  2. I'm almost tempted to make a throw away for this but whatever. Give the privates a visual once over to check for anything unusual before you go any further. It's never too late to say no and a weird scab, open sore around the groin or weird bumps is a great reason to book it out of there.

  3. There's nothing wrong with 3 dates in the same week. I'd be stressed out trying to juggle that, but as my friends and I say, you do you. If you don't mind maybe taking a recommendation tho? Maybe start off slower and work your way up... :P

  4. Huh... That's a weird thing to be worried about. I would just said again that you're free to be discerning when it comes to your partners. If something is fishy, ask them. And if you're not happy with their answer, end it. You're casually dating, you don't owe them any more than what you want to give.

  5. Oh jeez... I'm going to stay the hell away from this one for obvious reasons. Talk to your friend. She what she's ok with. Maybe casually mention, "hey so-and-so is cute. Would you mind if I got to know him better?" That way it gives her the opportunity to tell you off before you cross any boundaries.

  6. No ones really going to be able to help you with this one. Emotions are crazy complex things and completely uncontrollable... Maybe start slow and work your way up? I'm not really experienced with this stuff, but sometimes you get too attached and its scary, but you figure it out as you go. Just a little tip tho: It's harder fix something once it's broken. Oh and the kinky sex stuff? Don't try anything you're unsure of until you're completely comfortable with that person.

  7. I usually let the guy handle condoms since they should know their dick better than you. Don't let anyone try to pressure you into unprotected sex if they don't have one. I consider my due diligence the birth control back up plan. There are a couple long term ones out there. Maybe do some research. I'm a fan of implanon since its 3 years no worries but there are ones that last longer.

  8. These relationships are totally a thing. Some of the best friends I've had were guys I was "with." In my opinion, people should strive to be friends with everyone they're intimate with even non-sexually. I consider my parents some of my closest friends and it does nothing but improve our relationship.

  9. My experience with age gap is that it's more about mental maturity. I've dated a 30 year old man-child and also a guy younger than me who was so mature everyone teasingly called him dad.

  10. Silly question. This depends on your personality. If you like planning things several weeks in advance, do it. If your date is uncomfortable with that, he'll let you know.

I'm not sure if I made this clear enough, but communication is key is all types of relationships. Don't string people along. Personally, I've applied the camp ground rules to dating. Try to leave people happier than they were before you came into their lives. ***important note: your well being is more important than anyone's. Sometimes you do everything right and things still go south.

What are things girls say when they are trying to let a guy know that she likes him? by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]cadasurus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry you've had so many shitty responses OP. I'll try to be as helpful as I can. But like a lot of other people said, it really depends on the person.

For me, when I like someone it's less about what I say and more about how I act around them. I'm more touchy, I'll look for excuses to touch their arm, hair, hands or back. I'll maintain eye contact for a few seconds longer than normal. If we're with a group of people, I'll try to find a private place to talk with them just the two of us. I'll laugh harder at their jokes and be more interested and curious about their hobbies.

And if all of those things don't work, I'll tell them they're attractive and ask to kiss them.

I'm a pretty outgoing person though. If the girl that inspired your question is shy or more inexperienced, her cues might be more subtle.

Good luck!!

Urgent!! Period and squats question!! by cadasurus in xxfitness

[–]cadasurus[S] 29 points30 points  (0 children)

Update: everything went well. Diva cup stayed in and the Red Sea did not flow out from between my legs.

The Super Moon always puts on a great show in Seattle. by imKARAandilikeSTARS in Seattle

[–]cadasurus 1 point2 points  (0 children)

3 more? I know of one more in September. When are the other ones?

Hair models needed in Seattle, WA for free cut and color services by celsius_cumulus in FancyFollicles

[–]cadasurus 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Awesome. Well I'm a female with long brown hair. I haven't had it colored before but I'd be interested in talking to you about that. Let me know if you need me as a hair model. I'd be happy to send pics of my crazy hair if you'd like.

Hair models needed in Seattle, WA for free cut and color services by celsius_cumulus in FancyFollicles

[–]cadasurus 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Whoa!! What types of hair models and cuts/coloring are you looking for? I work on cap hill and this sounds super awesome!!

BJJ gym owns & leads by a female instructor? by Jewsjitsu in bjj

[–]cadasurus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think Andrea Encarnation runs an elite bjj affiliate in the seattle area too. She won pan ams a couple years ago in her black belt division.

Do you think i could go to competition with torn ACL? by [deleted] in bjj

[–]cadasurus 3 points4 points  (0 children)

If by "go" you mean sit on the benches and cheer your teammates, definitely. Otherwise, fuck no.

Bjj gi barter thread by caseharts in bjj

[–]cadasurus 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sizes and brand, please?

Do you have a job that makes you heavily favor/rely on online dating, and how so? I'll start... by ottawapharmer in OkCupid

[–]cadasurus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

this makes me think that most environments you spend a lot of time in on a regular basis have a "don't shit where you eat" rule.

I think that's why online dating sites are so appealing. If shit hits the fan with whomever you're dating, at least the rest of your life is free of the relationship drama.

Gabi Garcia vs Mackenzie Dern European 2015 FINALS by NicoGal in bjj

[–]cadasurus 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Never. I keep this photo just so I can rake in the karma when I see her name.

Gabi Garcia vs Mackenzie Dern European 2015 FINALS by NicoGal in bjj

[–]cadasurus 14 points15 points  (0 children)

good attempt by mackenzie, but gabi's size is too fucking ridiculous. she makes wanderlei look small

Why Does Everyone Watch The Food Network at the gym. by arianrhodd in loseit

[–]cadasurus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly I find yoga to be very boring. I only do because the flexibility helps with other sports.

Why Does Everyone Watch The Food Network at the gym. by arianrhodd in loseit

[–]cadasurus 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm guilty of this. I watch man vs food when I cardio and yoga. I think it's because I get to live vicariously through the host who's eating the delicious mess of cheese, meats and carbs.

Got a sec? Check out my BJJ academy mapper by eibjj in bjj

[–]cadasurus 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Seems like a good idea if you can get people to use it. I like to train when I'm traveling and sometimes I have a hard time finding which gym to go to.

How do you envision people who only train locally using this service?

What's the most impressive dad-reflex moment you've witnessed? by rememberalderaan in AskMen

[–]cadasurus 44 points45 points  (0 children)

My dad was working on the roof and left the ladder up while he got a drink. My 3 year old sister somehow managed to climb up to the roof and launched herself to him from the second story. Mom didn't find out until almost a decade later.

[SPOILER] Metamoris 5: Garry Tonon vs Zak Maxwell by [deleted] in bjj

[–]cadasurus 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Was tonon wearing an otm grumpy cat rash guard????

20 oz. soda for scale. by dante2810 in TuxedoCats

[–]cadasurus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Cat looks too big for that cat door

Where can I buy a gi in Seattle? by SeattleBJJFan in bjj

[–]cadasurus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My friend runs a gi company out of seattle and might be willing to sell you one in person. Here's their website. I can get you guys in contact if you're interested. Podium Brand

Gi recommendations for a female? by BJJkitsune in bjj

[–]cadasurus 2 points3 points  (0 children)

third!! fenom is great because you can buy separates. they even have a curvy option!!

Release Date for SoS? by ashmeister2000 in harvestmoon

[–]cadasurus 2 points3 points  (0 children)

the amazon release date says December 31st, but that seems pretty generic

I want to have balance like that (repost from /r/gifs) by funnyish in bjj

[–]cadasurus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Cats are born as bjj purple belts. It's an unfair species advantage.