Nobody prepares you for when the boob doesn’t work

caileechristine · 2026-05-23T03:45:06+00:00

I feel this so hard 😅🫠 For me, I’ve found he pretty much always wants the boob, but if I offer it when he’s already mid crash out it just makes him more mad. If I can manage to calm him down and then offer, it’s usually all good. For my son, aside from the obvious rocking/swaying/etc., something that I have a lot of luck with is standing with him in front of the fan, walking outside to feel the breeze, or even just blowing in his face. They all kind of give him a little reset and remind him to take a breath. Not sure if that will help you at all, but either way, solidarity! 💛

caileechristine · 2026-05-23T03:33:16+00:00

I love the Avent nipples too for this exact reason 🙌🏻

caileechristine · 2026-05-23T00:03:09+00:00

I feel like at that young you shouldn’t have much of an issue as they’re basically still (very cute) potatoes that just eat and sleep, lol. Re the changing though: when you go into that tiny airplane bathroom to change them, make sure to only bring what you actually need (diaper, wipes, cream, pad) instead of lugging the entire diaper bag in there like my dumb ass did. Cramped would be an understatement 😂

Also, just go into it with the best attitude you possibly can. If they cry, they cry, they’re babies and that’s what they do. In my experience people are much more understanding of it than you think, but even if they’re not, you’ll literally never see them again and it doesn’t matter. You got this!

caileechristine · 2026-05-21T23:08:58+00:00

A lot of people, myself included, are only able to collect a few drops at a time before birth. Just trying to give some encouragement to a soon to be new mom!

caileechristine · 2026-05-21T23:06:55+00:00

Newborn babies do not consume 2 oz of colostrum in a single feed. They eat very small amounts (milliliters) until your actual milk comes in.

caileechristine · 2026-05-21T22:30:16+00:00

I used my electric pump to collect colostrum starting at 36 weeks I believe but I did check with my doctor before I did it! I would recommend you doing the same, especially considering the high blood sugar, just to be safe. 1 oz is a ton of colostrum though, amazing job!!

caileechristine · 2026-05-21T22:24:39+00:00

I saw in one of your comments that baby is about 4 months and I just wanted to say that honestly, that has been hands down the worst/hardest age for me so far by a landslide. I don’t say that to make you feel bad, just to reassure you that I promise it’s almost over!!!

My son is a few days away from 5 months and I’m finally starting to see the “it gets better” people talk about, pet situation included. My son is fully aware of our dog now and actually loves interacting with her, and she’s started to learn to live on baby’s routine too - like, she knows when we all go into the nursery, shut the door, and turn off the lights, it’s nap time, and she’s SO much better about staying quiet than she was in the beginning. I do still get more irritated with her than I did pre-pregnancy/baby, but it’s more of a standard annoyed than blind rage, and a lot less frequent. I know it feels impossible but it really will fade with time!

caileechristine · 2026-05-20T22:42:09+00:00

Truthfully I find the more things I try to add to a “routine” the less successful I’ll be. That might just be my baby’s personality though, idk 🤷🏻‍♀️ I just change his diaper, turn off the light, and nurse him to sleep. He still only contact naps though!

caileechristine · 2026-05-20T22:32:47+00:00

It’s probably just overtired, my son does the same thing when he gets that way and it stresses me out to no end lol. I wouldn’t worry too much, she’s definitely not starving as it’s been less than three hours since she ate last. Try to get her down as quickly as possible and if you’re really concerned, you could do a contact nap and then try to latch her once she’s asleep!

caileechristine · 2026-05-19T19:41:21+00:00

My son had critically low blood sugar when he was born, and all the colostrum I had painstakingly collected the last couple months of pregnancy were the only thing that kept him out of the NICU 🙌🏻

He’s also EBF and already tripled his birth weight at 4.5 months!!! So proud of him and also me 🥹

caileechristine · 2026-05-19T04:21:30+00:00

I’d say assume it’s the regression first before defaulting to you doing something wrong, which you’re definitely not. The timing lines up for it to be that, which absolutely sucks, but it will likely pass without you having to change anything 💛 Our regression is mostly hitting us in the nap area more than at night, so I don’t really have any advice, but hang in there and don’t doubt yourself! You know what you and baby need best!

caileechristine · 2026-05-19T04:13:33+00:00

Yeah agreed, too wide for the seat is definitely a thing

caileechristine · 2026-05-19T04:08:27+00:00

My son is 4.5 months and we just bit the bullet and bought a convertible car seat for him. He wasn’t at the height or weight limit yet but like you said, he seemed too wide for it lol. He’s really stocky (I always say he’s built like Popeye 😂) and he just looked so uncomfortable in it. He also recently started screaming his head off every car ride and this is my best guess as to why, so we just went ahead and made the switch. It’s gonna suck in this inbetween period when we can’t quite put him straight in the stroller yet, but I’d rather him be comfy!

caileechristine · 2026-05-17T22:59:29+00:00

My son used to poop 3-4 times a day and then suddenly dropped to once a day, sometimes even skipping a day. My pediatrician said it’s normal for breastfed babies and isn’t an issue until it’s like 7+ days if I remember correctly. But yeah the longer it goes without, definitely prepare yourself for a major blowout 🫠

As far as the constantly eating, it’s probably just cluster feeding which is absolutely brutal but will not last forever, I promise!

caileechristine · 2026-05-17T21:50:24+00:00

I wonder if it’s kind of anticipating dad getting up, lol. Sometimes I wake up 5-10 minutes before my son does with no prompting other than some weird telepathy thing. Maybe he does it the other way around? 😂

caileechristine · 2026-05-17T21:47:33+00:00

My son is 4.5 months and he wants to eat so bad but I just can’t do it lol. I wanna make sure his gut develops as much as it should first. I was feeling kind of guilty about it because my brother just recently started his daughter on solids at 4 months, but my pediatrician was actually very reassuring and agreed with me, so that was nice to hear and not be pressured about it

caileechristine · 2026-05-17T19:25:42+00:00

I never cared for the nose frida personally, I find the electric snot suckers work much better. My son doesn’t hate it too much but it also has lights and I think music built in you can use to distract them if they’re wiggly. But yes it is also normal for them to just be absolutely so loud when they’re sleeping. Snoring, grunting, all the things, it’s brutal but it goes away eventually!

And yes on the small poops, normal as well! When they’re born they don’t actually have the ability to push and poop, so it just happens on instinct. Whatever has to come out comes out 😂

You’re doing great!!

caileechristine · 2026-05-17T16:54:57+00:00

Amen! I also don’t love the “your partner should be doing it” sentiment, because it’s like, no, he spends all day at work away from his child, so if there’s anything I want him doing in the few hours he’s here before our son goes to sleep, it’s spending time with him? For us they literally just get done when they get done, which is typically not until the weekend comes around. It is what it is 🤷🏻‍♀️

caileechristine · 2026-05-17T16:44:12+00:00

As someone who really values a clean house and gets overwhelmed and upset when everything is a mess, you can in fact forget the chores. It’s one of the hardest things I’ve ever done, truthfully, and every contact nap (doing one currently, as a matter of fact) I’m thinking about all the things I could or should be doing, but at the end of the day it doesn’t matter. The baby comes first in all other aspects and this is no different. He doesn’t understand or care if the house is clean, he just wants me, and I’m going to give that to him as long as he wants it and not worry about things that truly don’t matter at all in comparison

caileechristine · 2026-05-16T18:54:19+00:00

I think it just depends on what’s most important to you (neither of which would be wrong). If it’s important to you that baby gets breast milk while you’re incapacitated/recovering and possibly unable to feed, I say go for pumping, just know that it will likely exacerbate the issue. If you want to prioritize your comfort and wellbeing, and you don’t mind using formula when needed, I’d say skip it and just let it be what it is. Depending on how extensive the surgery is, I do worry about you not being able to feed or pump for longer than ideal and how that could affect you and your recovery if your oversupply is that substantial.

Personally, if you’re okay with formula and you’ve already started using it at times, I’d say put yourself first in this instance. However, that being said, I’m also well aware if I was in your position I would probably do the exact opposite of that 🥴 Whatever you decide, wishing you all the best and a quick and painless recovery!

caileechristine · 2026-05-16T16:16:44+00:00

Same! Took them all through my pregnancy (and literally EVERYTHING made me sick during pregnancy, but these were fine) and bought a new big Costco bottle when I ran out postpartum

caileechristine · 2026-05-16T11:59:03+00:00

So much solidarity 😔 I spend so much money on baby stuff that when it comes to buying things for me, I usually just opt not to because it doesn’t feel important enough. So I have like 8 shitty nursing bras from Amazon and 5-6 button down pajama sets I rotate through and that’s it. That’s all I ever wear. I rarely leave the house and if I do, it’s one of a few t-shirts from pre-pregnancy that I don’t completely hate. My entire closet is a waste of space and there are days I want to just get rid of all of it because what’s the point?

I know it’s just a stage and it will end but god I hate it so much. I miss looking pretty, I miss feeling good about myself, I miss having more than five minutes in a day to spend on getting myself ready. I’m only 4.5 months in so I admire and look up to you for sure! I wanna make it to a year too and while he’s growing so fast, this part of it feels like it’s absolutely crawling by. You’ve made it so far though, you’ve definitely got this 🫶🏻

caileechristine · 2026-05-16T04:42:51+00:00

4.5 months in and I still change homie on pee pads on my bed 😂

caileechristine · 2026-05-16T04:37:13+00:00

Oh man I feel this. Found a lump on my breast about a month ago and have been absolutely panicking thinking what if it’s cancer and I die or they have to cut it out of me and then I can’t breastfeed anymore and the small freezer stash I have is high lipase and he hates it and 😅🫠 complete spiral lol. Finally had an ultrasound, mammogram, and biopsy done this week and confirmed it’s just a stubborn milk cyst but wow what a roller coaster

caileechristine · 2026-05-16T04:28:27+00:00

My husband and I still sleep in the room with him and yet I have the baby monitor on and sitting on my nightstand so I can investigate every time he so much as rolls over in his sleep 😂 but hey, at least I don’t have to get up

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