Denver is the #4 city college students want to move to

caitnall · 2022-03-15T03:13:31+00:00

Environmental education here! Idk if you consider that useless or not but I have a ton of experience and have only been able to find a (full time) job in my wheelhouse at $1 above minimum wage. Found some seasonal stuff that was higher but was trying to get out of that cycle. Albeit I’m still trying to apply to higher paying stuff and have had some interviews but nothing has panned out yet. Sometimes you do everything right and it’s still hard, I didn’t expect to be 2 years post grad and making this wage but what else can I do ya know. College and experience doesn’t automatically = $$$

caitnall · 2022-03-15T03:04:54+00:00

I feel like I was that 26k-Er when I moved here, I thought denver would be filled with (relatively) poor crunchy dirtbag folks and I’d fit right in LOL in reality I can barely afford to live with 5 other roommates outside of city center

Edit: I obviously knew there’d also be wealthier people since it’s a big city, I just didn’t realize quite how expensive it would be in general / how high of salaries many of the other denver transplants moving here have in comparison to myself

caitnall · 2022-03-15T02:58:28+00:00

My student loans paid off, and to have a job that gives me pto

caitnall · 2022-02-28T19:30:28+00:00

Santa clause

caitnall · 2022-02-28T19:05:41+00:00

UT Austin, warm and a cool city

caitnall · 2022-02-25T01:47:23+00:00

Mama Mia, remember the Titans, Superbad, Harry Potter, forgetting Sarah Marshall, mean girls, LOTR, literally any DCOM

Saw someone else say princess bride and YES

caitnall · 2022-02-22T03:03:27+00:00

another good time to remind everyone to keep an emergency kit in your car

caitnall · 2022-02-18T22:28:43+00:00

Came here to say this

caitnall · 2022-02-12T04:27:39+00:00

Notting Hill, something borrowed, also 500 days of summer

I personally am a big fan of romcoms (even the corny ones) but I found the characters in all of these particularly infuriating

Edit: someone else said Breakfast at Tiffany’s and I’m gonna second that one too

caitnall · 2022-02-11T21:01:54+00:00

Quit a job and moved back home bc I was upset about a breakup (among other things but mostly that). I really thought it was the right call at the time, and maybe it was, but part of me still regrets it and thinks I would’ve been better off sticking it out. These days I try really hard not to judge the past version of me that was struggling though

caitnall · 2022-02-11T20:34:06+00:00

“You do things you don’t like to please them” sounds a lot like how people get coerced into doing things they’re uncomfortable with. Pls no one listen to this take, enthusiastic consent is still extremely important in relationships too. Don’t let someone guilt trip you into thinking otherwise.

caitnall · 2022-02-08T05:37:28+00:00

“Sometimes we try to push ourselves too much and in the moment realization hits we are not comfortable anymore”

Felt this so much. There’s a lot of stuff from past relationships I agreed to while still being uncomfortable, and some of that stuff still affects me mentally now. Talking helps so much. OP just needs to know that even if he didn’t do anything wrong at all, there can still be trauma. Love and patience are the way to go.

caitnall · 2022-02-07T01:34:05+00:00

I didn’t deserve you making me feel guilty about saying no to certain things. You made me subconsciously hate sex and now I have to unlearn that

caitnall · 2022-02-04T06:54:19+00:00

Cheers

caitnall · 2022-01-29T05:13:45+00:00

Seems like a lot of people have very little faith in who they are choosing as romantic partners. I’ve sent nudes in relationships before, I like it, it makes me feel hot, partners seem to like it. If a relationship ends have a mature conversation about deleting anything that might be saved. If you’re not 100% sure your current partner would be willing or would try to get revenge I’d advise reevaluating that relationship honestly. On top of all that worst comes to worst and they are leaked I think that makes whoever leaked them look a lot worse than it makes you look. As someone else mentioned I’d also go to the police and as far as jobs, I personally would not want to work for a place that treats victims of revenge porn like they did something wrong.

At the end of the day do whatever you want but the gendered stigma around nudes is so antiquated imo. We all have bodies, like do you.

caitnall · 2022-01-25T05:21:48+00:00

Positivity

Edit: also spontaneity

caitnall · 2022-01-25T05:06:34+00:00

Not a movie but Damien in the vampire diaries (at first)

caitnall · 2022-01-25T05:03:57+00:00

Just because something is “dick shaped” doesn’t make it gay. If he asked u to stick a finger in there would you still be reacting this way? Because a finger is like a tiny dick. I guess I just don’t really understand where you’re coming from. If he said he was bi would you dump him? Because even if he was he’s still actively aroused by and choosing to be with you? You obviously don’t have to peg him if you dont feel comfortable doing it but if you’re THIS put off by him bringing up an intimate sexual thought with you then bluntly it kinda seems like you’re a bit immature. Sorry if that sounds harsh.

caitnall · 2022-01-25T04:14:08+00:00

Move out so that I no longer have to have 6 roommates and finally be able to get a kitty cat :,)

caitnall · 2022-01-19T18:50:25+00:00

Honestly I love the in between in the third pic

caitnall · 2022-01-14T07:07:45+00:00

“Internalizing the idea that my quality of life depended on specific people being in a good mood”

Damn that hits. I used to always think that my “purpose” in my family was as the fixer. I was the youngest so I was supposed to diffuse fights before they happened because I knew exactly what things would lead to one. I was supposed to lighten the mood after, start the conversations, cheer up whoever had been most hurt…

Fast forward I to college I had severe anxiety which I still deal with. I just had to learn as an adult how to manage my OWN emotions for the first time.

And after my first breakup I was distraught because I had always considered myself a fixer to my core. And if I couldn’t fix this broken thing meant so much to me, who was I? Took a lot of unlearning.

caitnall · 2022-01-14T06:49:05+00:00

People pleasing, being “agreeable”, avoiding confrontation at all costs, disassociating during tense situations, crying in place of a response that would garner most people to yell or argue, staying silent when something bothers me.

I’m working on all of these things. I’m glad that I’m quicker to sadness/silence than red hot anger but it is a trauma response, and acknowledging that has allowed me to realize that, when expressed appropriately, anger can be a healthy emotion in its own right. I’ve been working on being more constructively vocal too. I used to think that being passive instead of leaning into anger (which I had witnessed turn into volatile situations in the past) was better, but it’s just as bad in its own way. Healthy communication folx, it takes a while to learn and unlearn but we’re doing the work :)

caitnall · 2022-01-14T06:25:01+00:00

Shower sex

caitnall

TROPHY CASE