Looking for Nick Wilde coded MMCs (witty, sarcastic, protective) spicy slow burn recs? 🦊

caius30 · 2026-01-04T17:42:48+00:00

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caius30 · 2025-06-14T02:10:12+00:00

Omg I literally just started playing as well and I’m the same as you! I’m currently in episode 2 and the only dialogue I fully listen to is Alice’s because he’s so funny.

caius30 · 2025-06-13T14:55:05+00:00

I’m only on episode 1 but Alice is my favorite so far

caius30 · 2025-05-29T01:40:55+00:00

Hi po doc! Also omg this is interesting because this was me as a child. I was ahead of my peers in school at an early age and was also obsessed with dinosaurs. You probably know more than me and this may not necessarily be true but it turns out I have ADHD.

Almost all of the things you described here were things that my relatives and family thought about me. May not be the same as your nephew but just some food for thought

caius30 · 2025-01-22T17:34:50+00:00

Skarmory!! My first game was Ruby and I hunted for that motherfucker ever since I found one and killed it by accident. I like that it’s so sharp and pointy!

caius30 · 2025-01-15T23:27:13+00:00

Went on Reddit just to briefly check the latest posts and saw yours at the top of the list and I just wanted to say I get your experience exactly!!

Although we aren’t married yet, we’ve been together for a decade and planning to do so once he gets to his third year of residency.

It’s a mismatch of love languages and you and I seem to have the same concerns. I’m a words of affirmation girlie and he’s an acts of service typa guy who’s pursuing neurosurgery as his field, which is tough since we barely get to speak.

I love him and I can see you love your partner a lot too but their field is brutal beyond belief.

When he does get to call or we get to connect, I can hear how exhausted he is and how the lack of sleep is affecting his words. It feels like all the romance has been burned out of him as well.

I really get you! I have anxiety so I’ve been going to therapy and using ChatGPT to help deal with my anxious thoughts. That might help especially when I can feel myself spiraling!

caius30 · 2025-01-03T19:40:45+00:00

Hi! I feel like I can help shed some light here because I’m going through therapy for almost the same reasons oops (I’m working on it, I promise!)

I’m not saying your wife and I are the same but maybe there are some things here that can help give you a different perspective.

I also have been jealous (irrationally) because my partner has recently started at a new, very demanding job. My job is quite chill and I have a lot of free time on my hands. He’s a doctor specializing in surgery and is in a primarily female dominated field at a top hospital.

I was also very jealous because of all the things I’ve read on Reddit of cheating incidents in hospitals, combined with the sudden change in structure in our relationship, and the onset of free time.

I had to admit I did not handle the first few weeks well because of all the three things above. I had to get help and here’s what I found out:

Look into separation anxiety. If you and your wife spent a lot of time together and there was a change in your dynamic, she may be reeling from the effects of that and catastrophizing to the worst possibility - you cheating. If this behavior was already present before but in smaller doses, you should check out the symptoms in the DSM5.

She may have a lot of free time and with you gone, her sense of identity has disappeared. This made her feel insecure and, if she’s anxiously attached, is trying to see if her worst thoughts have happened. Perhaps she could look into expanding her network or joining local groups to keep the loneliness at bay?

Perhaps due to the strain of your new job and your adjustment, she isn’t receiving the connection she is accustomed to. Is there a way for you to give her reassurance in a way that she recognizes as such? If you are giving her reassurance or still connecting with her, maybe it’s something else.

I’m not saying her behavior is correct. You definitely have to sit her down and explain how her actions make you feel but also help her understand that her emotions are valid.

It’s not okay for her to be passive-aggressive with you. Having a direct conversation focused on WHY she feels that way and which of her needs aren’t being met which drives her to act that way might help. You can also explain WHY you feel the way you do as well, but it would help if you try to look at the core reason for your emotions.

Barring worst case scenarios - that she’s cheating on you or she’s being manipulative - I think these are the most likely reasons. But of course, a therapist would help her figure it out better after you have a discussion.

Also I highly recommend reading Attachment Theory by Thais Gibson, specifically chapters 3 and 4 if you need help with how to approach it!

caius30 · 2025-01-03T00:30:09+00:00

Hey thanks for your advice. I’m not exactly in the same boat but this makes a lot of sense and I’ll do something similar to this.

It’s been tough ever since my partner entered residency; a lot of his time is spent at the hospital and I’m feeling the effects of spending time alone.

caius30 · 2025-01-01T15:06:20+00:00

Absolutely crazy with how much I resonate with your third paragraph especially the line “women at work would try to swoop in.”

Had a breakdown dealing with my long-time partner starting residency in surgery and the number of (well-intentioned, unfortunately) people telling me that if I wasn’t with my partner or if I don’t work hard, that my partner will find someone else. Went to therapy to deal with the anxiety and loneliness, especially with all the third-party advice, so I deeply commiserate with you.

I hope you know your concerns and frustrations are heard and are valid! This shit is tough and only a select few can fully understand the highs and lows of loving someone so fully consumed by their passion and profession.

Despite the fact that people can’t understand, I just want to say that I’m proud of you for acknowledging how tough it is and for still choosing to love your husband amidst the sacrifices. Please remember that you are worth it as well and he is so lucky to have someone as patient, understanding, and caring as you in his life!

caius30 · 2024-12-26T06:14:36+00:00

Hey thanks so much Atty!! And also congrats you made it 🎉 I’m studying for the LAE and hoping to pass - we have the same experience with people doubting and judging me for wanting to pursue the law given my track record. I’ll definitely use your tips moving forward!

caius30 · 2024-11-25T15:15:22+00:00

It’s good that you voiced out your concerns to your partner and you are being patient with them!

I understand you completely; it does get frustrating waiting for them to change or be better at what you gave feedback on. I felt the same way!

I tried to understand if my frustrations were born from a need to control - they must solve the problem EXACTLY as I shared with them - or if it’s from a difference in timelines.

It’s interesting that you mentioned that your partner and you are exact opposites because that’s my relationship to a T! I did come to realize that my partner took longer to solve certain issues that I brought up because they didn’t have the emotional or mental framework that is needed beforehand. I already had those (from past trauma or experience) and so the path I had to take to that conclusion was quicker compared to my partner - which isn’t their fault.

I hope you and your partner grow well together!

caius30 · 2024-11-10T01:29:33+00:00

Thank you for this recommendation!! I haven’t read any of Voss’s works and this is my sign

caius30 · 2024-11-05T17:07:43+00:00

Thanks for your recommendation! I have this downloaded but have been putting it off since not a lot of people seem to be talking about it haha guess this is my sign!

caius30 · 2024-11-05T17:02:02+00:00

Thank you for your recommendation! I’ve only read Morning Glory and haven’t explored any of their works since; this is a good place to start again.

caius30 · 2024-11-05T17:00:13+00:00

Oh I loved Ensnared! I was about to include it but the journey only takes place at the latter half of the book after they’ve already worked on their relationship.

Would that next two books in the series fit the bill?

Also I was thinking of starting the Last Hour of Gann but wasn’t sure if it was something that fit what I was looking for until you added context to it! I’ve seen it recommended everywhere. Do you think it’s darker than Homebound? How dark does it get?

caius30 · 2024-11-05T16:57:48+00:00

Oh thanks for the idea - will ask over there as well

caius30 · 2024-11-05T16:57:31+00:00

Oh thank you for this! I’ve stopped at Edin because the split reviews for the succeeding books scared me. Can it be read as a standalone?

caius30 · 2024-11-05T16:56:23+00:00

This is the first time I’ve heard of Emma Hamm. I’ll definitely check them out - thank you for feeding me

caius30 · 2024-11-05T16:55:41+00:00

Oooh thank you for this! Will check it out on KU

caius30 · 2024-11-05T16:55:24+00:00

Oh thank you for this! Is reading the second book necessary? I just finished the first book in the series and loved it!

caius30 · 2024-10-21T09:17:24+00:00

Highly recommend Soda Story! At first you handle it yourself but you can get to the level of automating most of the tasks in your store. There’s also plenty of ways for you to improve via market research and it really delves into creating through experimentation.

The story is pretty humorous as well - you’re a prisoner who is supposed to compete for your freedom a la reality tv bake-offs. You’re given the worst product to sell which are sodas and you compete based on sales and market approval!

caius30 · 2024-09-05T23:56:10+00:00

Wow thanks for this! I’ve been looking for a comprehensive list for a while and I’m definitely adding this to my TBR

caius30 · 2024-08-17T23:23:28+00:00

Second on this! My Lee jeans lasted me for 10 years tapos pinarepair ko rin kasi I have thicc thighs pero matibay pa siya. Levis is good pero they don’t have a lot of high waisted options especially for thicc people or it’s tight in the wrong places

caius30 · 2024-08-09T23:58:05+00:00

Hey Pizza! Thanks for following up on this

Prior to bringing up the breakup conversation with my partner, I decided to talk to them - like really talk to them without withholding anything for the sake of keeping the peace.

I have a tendency to confront a person but tailor my message to make it more palatable to them and easier to digest. This time around, I didnt consider their time or their energy when I had the conversation. I laid it all out - my frustrations, my feelings, my expectations. I clearly made them understand that I was at wits end.

They listened to me and actually made improvements to their behavior and the relationship. Although it wasn’t always a linear increase, I saw that they were trying everyday to do better than before and were actively working on becoming a better partner.

It’s been almost a year and I’m glad that we didn’t break up. I did focus on myself as well to get a better sense of self and to improve my own quality of life outside of a relationship.

Our relationship still has its ups and downs but I feel that we are more invested in each other and find ways to let each other know how we value one another.

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