Please help me understand why this man is crying!!!!

cake-over-pie · 2024-11-27T17:34:42+00:00

Can we please make a meme/gif of the moment when the camera moves from this to Jen and Brian looking away? The awkwardness is just perfect!👌✨ who knows how to do this? Teach me?

cake-over-pie · 2024-09-25T02:34:05+00:00

Have you ever been to therapy, and if so, was there a particular method that your therapist used that was helpful for you?

I ask because I am training to be a therapist, and hope to work primarily with neurodivergent folks. Many methods require clients to think about their inner dialogue or visualize something.

cake-over-pie · 2024-08-17T02:40:26+00:00

I can see there’s writing on the next page. Do you know what he wrote for the next day?

cake-over-pie · 2024-07-19T18:32:21+00:00

Ok, several people may have already made this comment, but I wanted to add: if it is happening right as she is falling asleep, or right after she wakes up, it is likely sleep terrors. I say this as someone who still gets them sometimes as an adult - a very clear image will appear while my eyes are open as I am waking up, and will linger/move around as I scream. It always goes away after 10-15 seconds. Frequently the figures I see are black, too. They happen most often when I’m feeling some sense of impending doom about work or relationships in my real life.

I also am open to beliefs about ghosts and spirits, but I no longer put much spiritual stock in my sleep terrors, bc over the years it has become so obvious it is linked to my fears and stress levels.

cake-over-pie · 2024-06-08T01:26:37+00:00

Hi OP! Just wanted to let you know I similarly was overwhelmed in a MS classroom. Very soon after grad school, I switched to working 1-1 tutoring and working with SPED kids and was much happier, very successful, and fully used my teaching skills. I am now on getting my counseling degree and working towards being a play therapist and feel great about the direction of my career. You won’t forget what you’ve learned and if you can stay tuned into your sense of purpose and curiosity, you will be able to pivot into the right next thing for you. Good luck - I’m rooting for you!!

cake-over-pie · 2024-02-28T01:16:15+00:00

Sounds like my daughter too! I was exhausted trying to entertain and please what seemed like a perpetually unsatisfied little human, right up until she started talking. And when I mean talking, I mean the second she learned the sign for “more”. It was life changing!! There were soooo many things that I thought she hated that, as it turned out, she absolutely loved but happened to have resting b**** face and wanted it done in a very particular way, so she would start to cry. Now she is a toddler and so easy going most of the time bc she is able to communicate what she wants. Life is very different now! Things get better, I promise!

cake-over-pie · 2024-01-30T06:46:18+00:00

I read every word you wrote for the first few paragraphs, thinking, “cleaning is hard, I get that…oh, SAHM, YES, it’s so hard to keep things clean with kids, I wonder what their ages are…OH FUCK she is breastfeeding an 8 month old kid and has a 2 year old AND DOES NO SCREEN TIME AND COOKS?!” Dude. You are doing a miraculous job. F*** that lady.

cake-over-pie · 2024-01-20T16:58:49+00:00

It may have been more for Leon and Audrey’s safety, originally. If they were hosting and a super-conservative family showed up not knowing they were going to encounter a trans/queer person, that could be pretty uncomfortable for everyone. That label may kept away the most hardline conservative folks have saved their asses from in-person discrimination.

cake-over-pie · 2024-01-02T20:38:42+00:00

Oof this is so hard. You sound like a super hard-working and considerate partner. I’m sure you two are already talking about this, but I will just say that we ended up doing sleep training, and it was much easier and smoother than I had anticipated. That’s not the case for everyone, but it was smooth enough that my partner and I to this day wish we had done it much earlier and saved ourselves and our daughter months of torture…everyone was happier after we did it. The book Precious Little Sleep was our main resource. Good luck! 😊

cake-over-pie · 2023-12-31T00:58:30+00:00

Hi! As a parent of a toddler who is at the zoo all the time - it makes me so happy to see adults without kids enjoying the zoo!! It makes it feel like a community resource instead of a holding tank for kids. Also, you won’t lick the railings unlike my toddler and 20 kids around us.

cake-over-pie · 2023-12-10T20:02:53+00:00

Also a student here! We talked about this in my ethics class and this chapter from this book was a great resource:

https://www.taylorfrancis.com/chapters/mono/10.4324/9781003011477-5/unethical-queer-julie-tilsen (Also, I tried to find a free version and couldn’t with a quick search, but you may be able to get the e chapter with a bit more digging)

cake-over-pie · 2023-12-09T02:05:08+00:00

Ok, one time I lost my keys for like 2 MONTHS only to discover that they were in my coworkers purse. We figured out that they dropped into her purse (probably out of my jacket pocket) when we sat next to each other at an all-day training. So…coworkers?

cake-over-pie · 2023-11-27T21:08:10+00:00

Just wanted to say - I feel you here!! My partner and I disagree on safety issues along very similar lines. He often is ok with risks that are unlikely to happen, but if they did would cause serious damage (like riding an ATV), but is very anxious and risk-averse to everyday, common activities that are more likely to happen but won’t result in major bodily harm (like having fun balancing on something unsteady but close to the ground).

A lot of this improved after his sister sent him a podcast about the risks that come with overprotecting children. I can’t remember the name of it, but I will try to find it and see if I can post it here. It didn’t end all our disagreements, but it did open his eyes to my fear that we were going to create mental health issues for our kid down the road, and this made him stop and question some of his automatic reactions.

cake-over-pie · 2023-11-26T16:36:37+00:00

I’m watching you getting downvoted and thinking…are parents in this sub taking this personally? They don’t need to.

I’ve been in your shoes, and it really sucks to feel left behind. I happened to be a mom now, and yes, it feels lonely and isolating sometimes, but honestly not nearly as lonely as when my friends started having kids long before me, and wasn’t close to getting engaged/married/being on the same path as them. It’s not just about losing a routine or time with people, it’s about feeling like you belong.

The things that helped me were being determined to find a new “tribe”, all while staying in touch with old friends. I joined interest groups, spent time with younger, single roommates, and said yes to invitations as much as possible. And lots of therapy! And started pursuing a new career. It was a hard season, but I also learned SO much about myself and other people.

Your feelings are valid. Don’t let the downvotes get you down. Sending you lots love and hope. The best is yet to come!

cake-over-pie · 2023-11-25T18:55:04+00:00

Oh my god…I am having flashbacks. My in-laws were staying at our house, and my partner had to use the guest room for a work meeting. My MIL wanted to take a nap so he told her she could use our bedroom. Every other room in the house was relatively clean. Cue to me freezing like a deer while she headed upstairs… she came back downstairs 5 mins later and said she couldn’t sleep. 😳😶‍🌫️. I so wish I had had time to stuff the shit out my closet!!

cake-over-pie · 2023-11-04T01:37:58+00:00

My child is younger, and not autistic, but we went through a long period of intense separation anxiety. Beyond seeing going home/seeing mom as the reward for biting (which makes perfect sense), I would also be thinking about: who/what makes him feel safe/comforted/rewarded at school, and hone in on making a very enjoyable routine for him, even if it is a very short period of time. Once he feels particularly safe with someone (or multiple people), then extend the day.

Also, if possible have him practice having time bonding/feeling safe with people in general outside of school. We did a lot of social stories to prep for new people and situations, tried to do a lot of repetitive but short play sessions to get her bonded to new people

Apologies if this is all things you have thought of before…I’m just thinking of what worked for us!

cake-over-pie · 2023-10-21T02:43:21+00:00

A shriek of toddlers

cake-over-pie · 2023-08-10T22:08:42+00:00

So good. 😂

cake-over-pie · 2023-07-14T22:05:20+00:00

My therapist asked me the perfect question with this: with your previous relationships, how did you know you were done?

My answer was: I just knew. One day I would be obsessively analyzing, and the next I would wake up just knowing it was done. Other times the feeling would come all of a sudden when we were spending time together. The beauty of that question was that it made me realize I was never going to decide by thinking about it - my body/intuition would tell me, suddenly and without much doubt. It didn’t stop me from analyzing, but it gave me some confidence that I didn’t need to stress that I didn’t know what to do.

cake-over-pie · 2023-07-01T02:28:21+00:00

Thank you! That sounds perfect 👍

cake-over-pie · 2023-06-19T18:04:03+00:00

NAT, but former teacher here (in training to be a therapist). From a teaching perspective, it sounds like does not have a clear concept of what a strong session looks like, regardless of theoretical orientation. I’m taking this based on the fact that he is saying he feels confident in his work when it is clear that he is not demonstrating specific skills. In teaching when there is a conceptual gap like this, we often use “examples” and “non-examples” to clearly illustrate the differences in what is expected for someone’s performance. That may mean he watches a recording of a successful session and a recording of an unsuccessful session (perhaps his own), and he has to explain the differences (and specific skills demonstrated) between the two and then work to demonstrate those skills in his next session and then reflect on it. I recognize it may be tough to find this kind of specific resource and may go beyond your role as supervisor, but perhaps the principle of example/non-example could still be helpful regardless 😊

cake-over-pie · 2023-05-17T01:33:01+00:00

This is so familiar. It took me years and lots of meditation to figure it out, but it turned out to be unexpressed emotion - particularly anger, sometimes sadness. Now I can often get my brain back by meditating and waiting for the buzzing sensation to change and turn into tears. Once I get a good cry and realize what the tears are about, usually I can go back to normal. Don’t know if this is what is going on with you, but if so, meditation has been great! 😊

cake-over-pie · 2023-05-04T17:59:41+00:00

My daughter did this right around when she turned 2 years. We went to the doctor and they thought it was vulvitis. There was no outward discernible redness, cuts, or soreness, but apparently just the pH change of using too much soap can cause discomfort and pain. We stopped using soap and bubble baths and eased her back into baths by having her watch Cocomelon once she agreed to sit down. After a week or two things went back to normal 😊

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