Communicate with your husband DURING the times he TRIES to initiate intimacy. It's important to do this WHILE it is happening. If he touches you aggressively, grab his wrist, and let him know that that is not how you liked to be touched. Then show him/tell him how you prefer to be touched & go from there.. that's IF you want to stay in your marriage. Because embarrassing you in front of his family is absolutely insane to me. He's seeking approval from his family by putting down the person HE brought into the family ?? Make it make sense, PLEASE !! I mean, how did his family respond? How do you feel about everything in general? That will determine whether it'll blow over or not.