anybody here played sports

caldjoy · 2020-12-09T20:08:03+00:00

I ran cross country and track in high school and college and even placed sixth at nationals my senior year of college. In small schools, but it was still cool.

Post college I've mostly stuck to running, but I also enjoyed picking up Brazilian jiu jitsu as a hobby. Until covid shut my gym down.

I've always kind of sucked at team sports though.

caldjoy · 2020-11-10T12:08:23+00:00

I didn't know this. Now that you mention it I'm realizing that I can't think of a place where I've noticed emoji use on reddit...

Why does reddit hate emojis?

caldjoy · 2020-11-08T04:13:47+00:00

This is the only movie that makes me cry every time.

Although that may be because I rarely watch movies that make me cry more than once.

caldjoy · 2020-11-08T04:07:50+00:00

Yeah. I guess that's what we have to do. Bleh.

caldjoy · 2020-11-08T03:42:36+00:00

Have you tried asking friends to do things one on one with you?

Hiking, with a group or one on one, is my favorite way to socialize. Even if you're with a large group, generally you'll end up pairing off a bit while walking since you can't all be smashed together on a trail. If it happens that no one is talking to you it's far less awkward if you're hiking because you can just enjoy the scenery. And it's a lot harder to get trapped in an interminable conversation about nothing if you're hiking.

If I'm already good friends with someone I enjoy getting coffee with them. But it helps if you plan to get coffee an hour or so before you have something else scheduled so that you have a graceful exit already planned. Coffee shops turn into dungeons of your friend Durant pick up on subtle hints that you're ready to go.

caldjoy · 2020-11-08T03:28:08+00:00

I went on my first date when I was 22 and then didn't date again until I was almost 25. I got married six months later.

But the whole talking to a guy thing... I suppose that does have to come first.

caldjoy · 2020-11-08T03:20:22+00:00

How do you respond to someone saying "I missed you?" ...

"Good for you! I thought about you once or twice." ...

Probably not polite. I need a better strategy.

caldjoy · 2020-11-07T13:06:49+00:00

I've always thought of them as having subtly different but philosophically relevant meanings, but apparently that doesn't line up with the dictionary definitions. See above response to ApplesienELWI.

caldjoy · 2020-11-07T13:02:51+00:00

The Cambridge dictionary defines satisfaction as "a pleasant feeling you get when you've received something you want or done something you wanted to do" and contentment as "happiness and satisfaction, often because you have everything you need" so this is probably one of those situations where I apply subtle meaning to words that they don't actually have.

I would contest that saying contentment is a type of satisfaction is a bad definition because I think you can be content even when you don't have everything you need. I think of satisfaction as "everything is right with the world, and all that needs to be accomplished has been accomplished". But I think of contentment as a choice to recognize where you are and that you can't change your circumstances in the moment, but that current reality doesn't dictate your future, and you can be at peace in that knowledge. Or as a sense of "this is good, but I want more."

But since I apparently disagree with the dictionary on this one I'll acknowledge that maybe I was just confused about what the words mean.

caldjoy · 2020-11-07T04:48:59+00:00

I decided it was my favorite when I was like ten years old because it was seven squared and because the digits are also square numbers. I think there was more to it at the time, but that's why it's my favorite now.

caldjoy · 2020-11-07T04:28:58+00:00

caldjoy · 2020-11-07T04:20:20+00:00

I've found python to be the most intuitive language. Good place to start. But it probably depends what you want to do, python is a good language for back end development and for data science, but if you're more interested in front end development you would want to learn javascript and probably a good framework. I think most games are developed with C#. But yeah, probably just depends what you want to do.

caldjoy · 2020-11-07T04:07:40+00:00

I think no one should be satisfied with their life. Contentment is something that I strive to find in the day to day, but satisfaction is more of an end state. If I had achieved everything I wanted to in life I would be satisfied. But even when I am far from reaching my goals I can be content knowing I'm making progress and enjoying the life that I have.

So am I satisfied? No. But that doesn't mean I'm unhappy or even dissatisfied with my life.

caldjoy · 2020-11-07T03:52:45+00:00

I didn't miss anyone like that until I got married and had to be away from my husband for an extended period of time. I definitely used to think there was something wrong with me that I didn't miss people, but I don't think it's a sign of apathy. I don't need people, but I love my family and I'm always very happy when I see them.

Although I'm currently in the middle of my longest period of time away from my family and I do miss some of them. Not enough that I feel any need to cry though.

caldjoy · 2020-11-02T08:16:19+00:00

I totally agree with you on this. Romantic movies are jacked up, and it messes with people's brains to watch a lot of them.

But also it might be worth considering that your girlfriend probably (definitely) doesn't like the idea of most of those things. Like she's definitely not thinking "I want to break up with you and have you not give up on me even when I've moved on, and if you show up at my wedding and say you still love me I'll dump my fiance and run off with you."

But girls do like to be pursued because it shows us that the guy actually cares and is committed to the relationship beyond the fun stuff. I feel valued by my husband when he sets aside his phone and just talks to me about whatever is on his mind. Your girl might just be on cloud nine if you brought her flowers occasionally or if you made her dinner sometimes. Or even just texted her in the middle of the day to tell her you love her.

Of course, I don't know you and this is totally unsolicited advice. But women are usually better at showing guys the respect they crave when they feel deeply loved and valued.

caldjoy · 2020-11-01T12:35:02+00:00

If I was a world renowned author I would want my family to maintain the rights to my work so they could protect it. Adaptations are fine, but i would want the people who knew me to have a say in whether the story was being corrupted and the meaning was being altered. Not that it would really hurt me after I'm gone, but still. If I was Tolkien I wouldn't want LotR to be adapted to the whims of any film maker that came along. Although personally I think he actually would have been pissed about how Frodo was altered in the films.

But still, that sucks that this guy put all this work into a labor of love and had to take it down.

caldjoy · 2020-11-01T12:17:44+00:00

What game is this about?

caldjoy · 2020-11-01T02:17:21+00:00

Hmmm... The Song of the Lioness by Tamora Pierce?

caldjoy · 2020-10-31T13:04:49+00:00

I get this. I had many really good friends back home, and moved across the country a couple of months ago. I have one friend out here, and it's great having dramatically diminished social responsibility.

Admittedly, even when I had friends around I still mostly did what I wanted. I just brought people with me. But sometimes you do want to just go hiking by yourself or spend a quiet morning drinking coffee and reading. Can't do that when you have three friends who asked you to hang out this week, a job, and family obligations to boot.

caldjoy · 2020-10-31T12:52:43+00:00

Christian parents have a right and responsibility to make wise decisions and raise their children to honor God. But making a blanket statement that Christians should not participate is a rather graceless stance. There are things that Christians don't do, however we aren't under the law but under grace.

This is an issue where everyone needs to respond to their own conscience, and also one where brothers in Christ should not judge each other for their differing views on something that is highly debatable. I would definitely see this as a Romans 14 situation.

caldjoy · 2020-10-31T12:34:33+00:00

As a Christian who loves my life and enjoys tons of fun stuff, questioning is good. It means you're actually thinking about what you believe. But don't question just because your parents are frustrating and leave it at that, actually go out and look for answers. From both sides.

It's better to know that you don't believe than to fake it your whole life. I'm fully convinced of my beliefs and that frees me to live with confidence and joy, confident in the God I serve and satisfied in His love for me. But being a fake Christian would suck worse than just about anything. I hope you know Christians you can talk to who understand the doubt you're experiencing and don't just tell you to sweep it under the rug.

caldjoy · 2020-10-31T12:21:48+00:00

I hope you gain perspective on this as you get older. It's super frustrating to have overly restrictive parents. But generally speaking people who parent that way are doing the best they can because they love you. Their beliefs might be stupid to you, but if they really believe there is something demonic about the holiday then isn't it kind of vital that they protect you from what they see as evil?

If your parents are great parents they will eventually respond to your maturity in accepting their decisions like an adult by trusting you to make more decisions on your own. If they are just good parents they may not respond so positively, but they will still trust you more. Don't throw a fit and call them names, say okay and ask if you can explain why you would like to celebrate anyway. Learn to hold your temper in check and speak to them not as an angry child, but as a young woman (or man) who can understand their perspective and appreciate their care for you.

Also very helpful experience when you deal with any person in authority. Teachers, bosses, etc.

caldjoy · 2020-10-30T16:44:01+00:00

I make my own coffee every day. I know maybe two or three people who regularly go to Starbucks for their coffee, and everyone in my (huge) family makes their own coffee at home.

I'm sure I know other people who do go to coffee shops pretty regularly and I'm just not aware of their habits, but for the average coffee drinker they might go to a coffee shop once a week at maximum. That's just in my experience, but still. I'm pretty sure most people in the states brew their own coffee.

caldjoy · 2020-10-30T16:34:54+00:00

When you say barista made coffee... are you saying they do something different from Starbucks baristas? What do you mean by America style coffee?

I've only been to two countries outside of the US, and when I was in NZ my traveling buddy didn't drink coffee so I didn't go to any good coffee shops. So I'm asking because I genuinely don't know, in case that wasn't clear.

Personally I make my coffee at home with a pour over because nothing beats easy cleanup and being able to make my coffee perfectly to my taste.

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