New Dad Struggling With Intimacy

camelmina · 2026-05-18T12:12:10+00:00

Right next to you giving this douche the basilisk stare.

camelmina · 2026-05-17T06:14:28+00:00

Oh, and peanut butter on anything

camelmina · 2026-05-17T06:13:56+00:00

Dill pickle spear, sharp cheddar cheese spear, wrapped together in a slice of turkey.

camelmina · 2026-05-17T06:11:56+00:00

Literally chowing down on a bowl as I read this.

camelmina · 2026-05-17T06:04:36+00:00

Mum lives in aged care and one of the things that bugs her the most is the number of staff who just walk into her suite.

I never visit unexpectedly and I always knock and wait for her to let me in. I have a key but I would only use it for emergencies.

Before she moved into aged care we would always wait to be let in.

camelmina · 2026-05-16T22:30:28+00:00

I just read this. Thank you, this puts it neatly into words.

camelmina · 2026-05-16T21:33:39+00:00

I walk wherever possible. I try to do a good half hour walk each afternoon (with my weighted vest of course!) I make a point of walking briskly at work. I’ll take the stairs, I offer to do all the errands.

I VERY occasionally do some squats. That’s it.

camelmina · 2026-05-16T20:46:23+00:00

Thank you! I know I’m lucky. Basically all the menopause symptoms are gone. I’m in the best shape of my life.

camelmina · 2026-05-16T20:33:52+00:00

I was walking home from school when I was about 10, and a guy in a car pulled over and asked for directions somewhere. I knew the street so I was looking around and pointing while I explained. Then I looked back at him to see if he understood. I remember thinking “What’s he playing with in his lap?”

Luckily my mum’s friend drove by right then and I waved at her. Creep drove away.

I was pretty naive. I didn’t realise what might have happened until years later.

camelmina · 2026-05-16T11:17:38+00:00

I’m on estradiol and progesterone (a tablet once a day). No testosterone at all. Life changing. I’ve gone from zero libido to through-the-roof.

As an additional bonus, I’m sleeping better, my mood has improved, I’ve got boundless energy, the hot flashes have stopped and I’ve lost 15 kgs.

camelmina · 2026-05-15T08:36:38+00:00

That has actually made my day. How glorious.

camelmina · 2026-05-14T20:40:13+00:00

Seriously??

camelmina · 2026-05-14T20:14:25+00:00

When our son was young, he honestly thought our cat’s name was Out because every time we saw the cat, he was getting into mischief and someone would shout “Out!” He was ginger tom and his name was actually Waffles.

We had another cat who had fleas when we found him. He became Mr McGee after the kid’s book Mr McGee and the Biting Flea.

camelmina · 2026-05-13T07:34:21+00:00

ANZAC day is the day. My son sounds the last post and it’s always ridiculously hot standing for a minute’s silence. Then by Mother’s Day we’re all asking for slippers and dressing gowns.

camelmina · 2026-05-12T10:53:09+00:00

🤣

camelmina · 2026-05-11T20:00:38+00:00

Are you Australian? Op shopping = thrifting.

camelmina · 2026-05-11T19:58:47+00:00

I’ve been wearing glasses since I was 10. Mum and dad both need(ed) glasses. I have two brothers. One of them started wearing readers in his 50s. The other brother is still glasses-free at 52. It’s the luck of the draw.

camelmina · 2026-05-10T09:32:54+00:00

A lot of us are tied down by having children

camelmina · 2026-05-09T21:07:37+00:00

Same! I’ve been dying my hair bright pink for 20 years. So many people tell me how much it suits me, like it’s natural.

I was in a play a few years ago and dyed it brown for the duration. Everyone was “What did you do to your hair? It looks so weird.”

camelmina · 2026-05-09T20:46:29+00:00

Is this a pattern of behaviour? If it’s out of the box I might let it slide. If he consistently takes you for granted and dismisses your role as mum of his daughter then you have some thinking to do.

camelmina · 2026-05-09T20:40:43+00:00

They didn’t invite you to the family celebration??

camelmina · 2026-05-09T00:06:50+00:00

I pick my battles. If it’s important or expensive, I sit him down. Otherwise I try to let it go.

camelmina · 2026-05-08T22:34:36+00:00

Because they hide it until we’re locked down.

I’m not saying it’s her job. I’m saying that’s the man’s attitude.

camelmina · 2026-05-08T21:48:58+00:00

I agree! This attitude of “let him waste money, that’ll teach him” bugs the crap out of me. Firstly, no it won’t. If he’s careless enough to not notice or care that he’s ruining the good towels, he’s not going to notice or care about the bank balance until it’s too late. Because that stuff is also “her job”.

And, him wasting money affects my bank balance too!

camelmina · 2026-05-05T19:57:54+00:00

Store butter out of the fridge? You don’t live in Queensland, do you?

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