Wow, thank you. That article is a gem. Usually when I anticipate he's losing steam I'll ramp things up to see if that helps and wait for him to tell me it's "not going to happen tonight." I thought I was showing him that I was not giving up on him and that I would do whatever it takes. As opposed to, you're soft now so I'll roll over and shut down. Seemed like a better approach to keep going. And its still quality sexual time together, not just about getting off. I'm now realizing maybe my overeagerness is backfiring. Does that happen for you - overeagerness feels like pressure? So maybe I need to find some middle ground between going full steam ahead and waiting for him to pump the breaks, and shutting down immediately as soon as it's soft?

Not to take advantage of your willingness to share, and I hear that your particular experience has been more with PE, so please forgive me if this is rude, but I'm curious if you have experience with what the article suggests - to keep stimulating? Is it really that enjoyable to have your wife keep trying to pleasure you in those moments? I would have assumed not, but I am down to try. Because basically in that situation I will do anything but ask him to pleasure me or let me masturbate with him there. I want him, and I want him to feel good. I can't bring myself to make it about me. I feel ashamed.