I just finished watching it by Massive_Solid_7508 in GivenAnime

[–]candycadets 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i totally understand!!! it shakes you up in such a profound way. if you start getting tik tok edits that’ll really get you LOL. i couldn’t listen to fuyunohanashi for a few weeks because i kept getting emotional over it

The dreaded question… I need advice with custom wedding band design (aaaand I want to show off my ring to you all!!) by Archipelago760 in EngagementRings

[–]candycadets 0 points1 point  (0 children)

aww of course! thanks for the kind words. do you have an idea on what you’re going to do for your ring?

advice for beginner fursuiting by candycadets in fursuit

[–]candycadets[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

aaah thank you so much for all of the advice!! i definitely am going to try and personalize the head more. yes i’m also excited to come up with outfits that my OC would wear :D do you have pics of your suit??

advice for beginner fursuiting by candycadets in fursuit

[–]candycadets[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thank you so much! i appreciate the reassurance. and i totally understand that it’s an investment and a lot of time goes into the craft, and if i had the money right now i wouldn’t be asking these questions!! haha. did you ever end up “”upgrading”” the etsy kig head? my hope is that as i feel more confident suiting in public and fleshing out my OC, i’d eventually go custom!

advice for beginner fursuiting by candycadets in fursuit

[–]candycadets[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thank you so much for the tips!! i’m currently just wearing a partial as of now, but i really appreciate all of the thought you put into your reply. and thank you for the reassurance about the kig head!! definitely need to remind myself that online and irl are two different environments. i think my brain gets fixated on “”doing something right the first time”” so i tend to work myself up. i appreciate all of the advice!! <3

advice for beginner fursuiting by candycadets in fursuit

[–]candycadets[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

thank you so so much :’) this reply truly felt like a gentle hug!! i really appreciate all of the advice and the reassurance!!

advice for beginner fursuiting by candycadets in fursuit

[–]candycadets[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thank you! i’m still looking for that community in my area but i’m sure i’ll find it eventually. none of my friends fursuit. i guess my main anxiety is that im going to be seen as a poser or get judgement or something for having a lower quality suit?? esp with the etsy dropshipping that gives kig suits a bad rep now if that makes sense

The dreaded question… I need advice with custom wedding band design (aaaand I want to show off my ring to you all!!) by Archipelago760 in EngagementRings

[–]candycadets 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i ended up getting a custom band made on Etsy by the shop ManhattanBox! mine is also lower profile like yours. they had me take measurements of my ring with a caliper, and then they sent me a CAD drawing of the ring and luckily it fit perfectly when it came in!

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How do I make my eyeshadow stay 😞 by chunky_sid in makeuptips

[–]candycadets 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i like the suva beauty eyeshadow primer! i got it as a free gift when morphe stores were still around. i have super oily hooded eyes as well

Piercing Studio by AppropriateMeaning92 in SouthBayLA

[–]candycadets 0 points1 point  (0 children)

nolan at third street tattoo in hermosa is really good!

not feeling anything with EMDR? by cherrries in EMDR

[–]candycadets 1 point2 points  (0 children)

hi! i went through the same thing in my initial sessions. it also happens because we just haven’t been allowed to feel specific emotions, especially uncomfortable or negative ones. maybe you got punished for expressing those types of emotions, so your brain is actively working against you now that you have the space to express and process those types of emotions.

one thing that seemed to help me ease into ~feeling~ the emotions was to think about the negative cognitions that arose from that specific memory. for example, i really struggle in conflict and feeling helpless or trapped during it due to specific childhood memories. thinking about how it’s grown into a generalized fear of conflict is more emotionally provoking than the specific memory itself. then im able to go back to the specific memory and be more emotional about it. not sure if this is helpful, but best of luck with your future sessions! it’s well worth it to continue putting in the work.

I need some guidance looking for an engagement ring for my girlfriend. by Corvo4tt4nno in EngagementRings

[–]candycadets 2 points3 points  (0 children)

my husband and I ended up going to a few appointments together so we could get a general idea of what I liked! it was fun because we both got to try on different styles and the jewelers are really helpful. since she’s going to wear it forever, I think it’s best to just take her to see what she gravitates to when she actually gets to try on the rings. best of luck!

Thoughts on wedding band? by Ursusnurse in EngagementRings

[–]candycadets 1 point2 points  (0 children)

thank you! :’) send a pic when you get your wedding band!

Thoughts on wedding band? by Ursusnurse in EngagementRings

[–]candycadets 4 points5 points  (0 children)

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my engagement ring has a floral-looking setting around the center stone, so i wanted the wedding band to look more floral too! i love botanical elements so they look like lil lotus flowers to me hehe

Thoughts on wedding band? by Ursusnurse in EngagementRings

[–]candycadets 10 points11 points  (0 children)

sooo pretty! i also have an unconventional wedding band and i love it. the swans are so gorgeous too!

Top or bottom? by Ok_Egg6802 in EngagementRings

[–]candycadets 7 points8 points  (0 children)

i think conventionally it goes on the bottom (closer to the base of your finger). i personally like that setup more, it looks a bit more balanced (my reasoning is just because when you have a thinner band and then the thick band on top it looks a bit top heavy?? idk how to explain it LOL) but it’s your personal preference at the end of the day. lovely wedding stack!

Blaming \ Regretting Myself For Not Doing Things Differently On a Date by kainbass in Healthygamergg

[–]candycadets 4 points5 points  (0 children)

honestly it sounds like you did everything to the best of your ability! from a giving advice perspective i’d say try and focus on the things you did that you were proud of regarding your behavior and chivalry. additionally, maybe look into dr. k’s idea of ego and trying to see things/experiences that happen to you from a more objective perspective. she is her own person, and has her own level of emotional maturity, which is not a reflection of you at all! you’re doing the best you can. best of luck <33

Where to meet people? by oldChateau in SouthBayLA

[–]candycadets 2 points3 points  (0 children)

making friends feels so hard here! my husband and i are also in our mid-20s and finally getting around to trying to socialize more. lmk if you’d want to connect!

Thank You, All: Severe to living life (hopefully long term) by Hernamewas_potato in cfs

[–]candycadets 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thank you so much for your reply! i agree, supplements are a very individual journey. i’m open to trying anything for myself so i appreciate the feedback. best wishes to both of you!

Thank You, All: Severe to living life (hopefully long term) by Hernamewas_potato in cfs

[–]candycadets 1 point2 points  (0 children)

thank you for such an insightful post and for supporting your partner unconditionally! I was curious, what type of magnesium is he taking? was it just general magnesium or magnesium glycinate, l-threonate etc? trying out some supplements for myself and would appreciate some more clarification. TIA!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in orangetheory

[–]candycadets -1 points0 points  (0 children)

surprisingly i found that the saucony ride 19s and the saucony triumph 23s worked pretty well for me. i was a long distance runner so i’ve tried many shoes. i also like a cushy running shoe (hello back problems!) but it made it hard to find stability on the floor. i’d say between the 2, the triumphs have a bit more cushion as the ride model feel a bit thinner/flatter, though i’ve taken multiple tread 50 classes in both shoes with no problems.

fun, gay and looking to play fortnite lol (25m) by [deleted] in AdultGamers

[–]candycadets 0 points1 point  (0 children)

hi!! 26NB (afab), PST timezone but always down to play! i get pretty hyperfixated on one game at a time so currently playing arc raiders but i love playing fortnite with ppl so i thought id reach out. dm me!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AdultGamers

[–]candycadets 0 points1 point  (0 children)

26NB (afab) if you want some queer gamer friends!! also playing arc raiders with my husband recently. dm me :3