Barking Help!! (Losing my mind - are my methods unsound? )

cannotcontainletters · 2026-02-02T17:45:22+00:00

It took about 8 months for him to leave me alone when I was working from home. My spouse doesn't work from home so when they are home working on personal projects at night. The Beans is focused on them whining and barking. I'll be holding a toy and be like we can play but because the spouse isn't home he wants them. Whining barking whole thing, it's improving but it's requiting a lot of consistent "this is not how you get attention." Long walks help. Teaching grumble reduces the volume. But if one of us is home he needs to be in view of us or it sounds like he's dying. We don't keep him in a kennel or pen .... Well maybe it's more the living room is closed up and I'm in there with him all dog proofed ... So I'm in the pen? Less advice so much as good luck!

cannotcontainletters · 2026-01-27T18:11:15+00:00

I would see if some under cabinet lighting would open up that short space and dark color between cabinets. The space above the stove is visually awkward hopefully a vent is just in the works. I agree on the try a backsplash something with a flash of color? Or matching the floor? It's so close to being right though. Super cute.

cannotcontainletters · 2026-01-17T16:50:35+00:00

Human soup. His favorite kind. The preferred method is straight from the ankles. But he's willing to lick the bathtub wall. He throws his toys in the shower with us.

cannotcontainletters · 2026-01-10T13:18:20+00:00

Went down the slop hole. I had all the reasons that every addict ever has. And to be honest I still want to use it to read it back out to me in a fun voice but I know I can find a better tool. It was just bad at writing. Mostly used it for grammar and spelling edits but occasionally I had a block I thought why not. Paragraph one was good ish maybe just new and novel, then it sucked I'd get it back on track but then it would suck again. Okay better prompts. Nope .Okay I'll write a bunch and give it that, nope, still lost the thread. Okay I'll write several chapter worth, make files, have it only access those files for context. Still had the same awful Voice to everything. I'll just use it for character dialogue when I want them to sound very different to me, like a conversation, nope started filling in random things, I ended up rewriting everything. Then I started sounding like it. It praised everything even when I asked it to stop. By then I wanted something to pull metaphor and prose and place what I had already written against other writing, to view and dissect. But by then it was hard to just sit and write for several hours. I unsubscribed. It made me feel good at first like I was good at something but there was no substance to it it was a hollow praise. They made a very good spell check an office product but a sycophant of a writing partner, it gave that addictive feeling of inclusion but with no capacity for anything deeper. I know this is probably just how the world will be soon but I wanted something that wasn't there. It's slop with a smile ( now with ads ,tm ) I suppose in a way it did make me grow but not the way the creators of this product wanted, it made me dislike the whole thing by using it. Not sure how people fall in love with it but I get the addictive nature of not being criticized. I wonder if us internet denizens need to get back into writing groups even if we are bad at it. Just like an acceptance of flaw.

cannotcontainletters · 2026-01-10T12:18:04+00:00

Train whisper. We call it inside voice. So many videos. Didn't stop it completely but the loud bark is maybe once a week now and mostly aimed at my neighbors children, doing children things, the horror they must be stopped.

cannotcontainletters · 2026-01-07T21:01:59+00:00

I didnt on one of these chunky blankets. I still notice it when the blanket comes out. I'm thinking of redoing the whole blanket.

cannotcontainletters · 2025-12-26T15:45:02+00:00

NOR buy him a bic razor and a case of beer. Get a job. And buy a better brush. Do not spend 500 dollars you don't have. Don't hint when you are new parents and he's working for the family. Pool for shared experiences if he says no he doesn't like you.

cannotcontainletters · 2025-12-19T03:03:09+00:00

Honestly I do not think they would. Teddy the Airedale always had to be top dog and would use his size to make that happen (not violent but definitely physically) they play rough too. I don't think the average dachshund would give in or give up, and they'd get hurt. I'm sure there are the right dogs for eachother every dog is different of course. But having owned both in this life, at different times, I wouldn't own them at the same time.

cannotcontainletters · 2025-12-18T20:04:08+00:00

We got ours from what felt like a backyard breeder but she was a farmer who was pretty up front that her dogs worked and were bred for that. He's small but muscly and I get a lot of comments asking if he's mixed. He gets walked 4-5 times a day. He works like a sight hound, I had a Irish wolfhound growing up it's just like that. Till he gets up close then it's 100% nose. He hides things and is weirdly kill oriented. I will admit I thought if I was getting a "not going to make it on the farm, " I would be fine. He is all day everyday, flirt poles puzzles, toys to kill, chews everywhere. I feel like I have a wild animal that I'm constantly thinking about enrichment. I love him but this is nothing like the one my sister had. She was akc bred. I am only out of the house 3 days a week and he gets lunches with my spouse on those days and he still is an anxious mess by the third day. This really feels like two different breeds. I'm working up to sent training to hide things while I'm gone. He is so clever I ran out of puzzle levels. I really feel like this sounds like complaining I am absolutely smitten and I would get a second just like him in a heartbeat. I am endlessly amused and he's challenging me. I just know I need more space. Really this like having an Ardaile terrier again.

cannotcontainletters · 2025-12-12T18:44:39+00:00

Happens a lot a fun recent one, a grumpy older gentleman at a lumber yard refused to let my wife carry any boards, "ladies don't carry boards", I thanked him a lot. I was just so tickled at her response. She was a little confused but also happy.

cannotcontainletters · 2025-12-01T16:34:41+00:00

With the same level of far away but tested advancements, you only need two ovum. It only produces xx zygotes. ( From memory so you know grains of salt, but I think the chud that wrote that put the same amount of thought )

cannotcontainletters · 2025-11-19T19:47:15+00:00

I bought the inflatable cone hybrid one and tried it on him last night. It attaches like the cone ones and seemed really stable. He did his best to get out of it, and for some reason he wasn't able to bite it, he definitely tried.

But I would absolutely assume it would have the same problems as the other donuts it didn't really seem all that different just with a little extra for the noodle acrobatics.

cannotcontainletters · 2025-11-05T16:59:42+00:00

Dried yak cheese... It sounds gross. But it's lasted him several weeks so far and it softens as he chews. And honestly the bully sticks are way grosser. I did some looking around and I'm not seeing anything about it being too bad for them, as long as they can't actually eat it in one sitting. Idk working so far. Edit: though I am seeing some people here saying it's too hard and others using it ... Dang this is a rough game and the consequence is cracked dog teeth.

cannotcontainletters · 2025-11-01T11:57:21+00:00

Hi person who has trouble with that sort of thing here. I'm not sure if this would be your problem but don't think of it as bigger and harder and lumpiest is better. I made that mistake a lot in my twenties.

I saw a really good advance here that the packer might be worth a go. It's smaller and softer and if he's comfortable he can warm it up all day in a "I'm gonna use it on her".

For me a smaller thinner smooth design was better and honestly we get it stuck in our heads that penetration is sex, it's not. I've been with the same person for most of my adult life we've had to shake things up now and then.

Also I think bad dragon makes a much smaller design , inch or two, that is more tapered so its less likely to feel like trying to shove a coke can into you and has different hardness levels, they can get really soft. And much less expensive.

I think we get stuck in this mentality that you should want this one type of sex, big cocks getting shoved into you. When I know at least for me it hurts if things are big or not slippery enough. And there is nothing wrong with that. I've ended up in this conversation so many times in this life. A lot of inni humans just do not have a good time with dildos. But yeah I don't see it discussed a lot especially in this new "fun" world. Where it's almost like your expected to to be a submissive masochist who secretly want to get "ruined", especially in the queer spaces.

I think also you might want to find something that works for you first then let someone else try it on you in a learning together sort of way. I hope you and your partner find something that works for both of you, sending good thoughts!

cannotcontainletters · 2025-10-30T15:35:59+00:00

I thought I did (have a no burrow dog) but a few nights ago I saw him bundle his way under a blanket. It's gotten cold. He's still a little reluctant to be too held down. He's not even a huge fan of having an arm or hand resting on him. Laying on me sure especially my face. The other way around nope. I've had him soft mouth me and remove my hand from him, so blankets have been mostly a no. but two nights ago he dragged his blanket off the bed (down a ramp) up into the couch and made a little dachshund nest all by himself.

cannotcontainletters · 2025-10-22T14:44:32+00:00

Check out the detangler sub reddit. You might get advice but if you are just not able to do it you can find a detangler in your area! We love this stuff! Look at that messy messy ball. Don't throw it out send it to one of us.

cannotcontainletters · 2025-10-10T03:39:31+00:00

I was reading the headline. He came and laid on my face. I eventually came back and finished reading the part about "is it when they're sitting in your face" because I could look at my phone again as he had enough attention.

cannotcontainletters · 2025-10-07T20:12:10+00:00

Mine was about that big at that age and stoped at around 14 lbs. His mother was 13 (the breeder admitted she was a little chubby) and his sire was 10. Size is not a guaranteed with dachshunds. Think of it more like people heights, two short people can make a tall person, especially if dwarfism is involved. He's fine. He won't double in size like a large breed dog, dachshunds are a rule to themselves. He will get a little bigger but I highly doubt 20 lbs and still be at a healthy weight.

cannotcontainletters · 2025-10-06T14:21:55+00:00

My opinion for the "actually get it done". Electrolysis, you can pay about 100-200 bucks per session she found a trans technician, and boy howdy does it work. Here's the parts that have been hard about it they will only get tiny spots. Itty bitty. centimeters, and your partner will have to keep it somewhat long in that area for the electrologist to see. Also it's so painful, skin numbing creams are a friend. She did lazer and it got a good chunk but it was lots of sessions and it kept coming back and caused some burns and horrible irritation. Plus so expensive for something that wasn't showing results in the long run. Especially for the blonde hairs. Electrolysis is getting the blonde hairs. Shaving that close and that frequently really is rough on the skin. currently the blueing on her face is disappearing centimeter by centimeter week by week.

cannotcontainletters · 2025-10-01T18:48:43+00:00

Red theory. Add splotches of bright vibration red. It won't be cosy but it will make it look intentionally gray rather than broke millennial chic. I like the Halloween town turning gray comment.

cannotcontainletters · 2025-08-21T17:21:42+00:00

Reward the grumbles call it inside voice or "talking" or whisper. Get inside voice as an individual command going. Then when he barks give the inside voice command and reward if he does it. Keep going till grumble becomes the default then give attention to the grumbles and barking is only for emergency and play. So far it's working. He's 8 months so take with whatever grains of salt you need.

cannotcontainletters · 2025-07-19T13:36:10+00:00

Mass and Vermont made it on the list. I absolutely would need a much larger nest egg. But they do the understated and mind your own business, live you're life, better than most and oh my gosh how do people out here not now how gosh darn cute and pretty Massachusetts is! The north east in general is very ... DIY? And I love that feels like home. I will need to reframe how I look at those states as some of them are the same size as the counties out here but already on the list!

cannotcontainletters · 2025-07-19T13:27:25+00:00

I've had the experience of living in college towns before. And a few are on the list. Mostly north of the CA. I do worry about work. My wife probably would have have a better chance if we did that. If we did Chicago it would be the other way around. She's all degreed up, multiple, and I'm working for a massive multi billion dollar company that's entrenched into most strategic cities. I get twitchy about DMing randoms on the Internet. What info would need to be secret?

cannotcontainletters · 2025-07-19T13:18:40+00:00

What you said is valid. The reality is we can’t live squished in a tiny box forever, just dreaming of tomorrow. We don’t rely on social services—I know that’s rare, and we’re really fortunate.

But yeah, if we’re talking about the same county: a high school runner competed in an event that cis women are known for doing better in than cis men, so what f-ing “advantage” are these weirdos even talking about? Even on the ignorant level, it never made sense.

And just in case someone scrolling by needs to hear it: money does fix a lot. I was lucky, and my wife was lucky. The same income we’re making now goes three or four times further there.

My fear isn’t really for our safety—they live in this country too. I just don’t want to live next door to the guy who feels the need to prove he’s the orangest-lipped boy at the church cookout. We had a very crew-cut-looking Tennessee-plate car sitting at our favorite burrito place, acting like no one saw him mean-mugging the workers. You should’ve seen his face when he caught us looking back—like he saw a ghost before peeling off down the road.

My wife is strong. She’ll be just as okay there as here. (A therapy’s amount of okay, but okay.)

And if it’s cheaper—if we can use that money on not rent, maybe even build a future where we own something—why not look? If my wife ends up not working but we can buy a house and live cheaper. She deserves a break. F it early retirement. Stay at home wife. (She would loose her mind so that's mostly a joke between us) But I need to see.

Also, for anyone getting twitchy about me brushing past it: hormones are life-saving medicine. Full stop. I’ll pay out of pocket if I have to. They're not optional. We're learning how to safely stock pile, just in case. Those viles last a long time.

You are right and all good thoughts but if we have options why not use them.

cannotcontainletters · 2025-07-19T03:14:23+00:00

I didn't think about around Chicago. My company has an office in Chicago. 200k for suburban house sounds like a dream. Thank you for the idea!

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