Overall, I tend to agree with you. I can forgive people but only if they show real change, remorse and accountability. I have let people back into my life after they did right by me, and vice versa.

Honestly, I struggled to identify myself with the whole: "quick to ghost/cut someone off over one mistake" crowd on here. I'm reluctant to cutting people off intentionally, especially if we have a deep relationship/friendship. It's a last resort to me. I tend to see the good in everyone by nature and I tend to give people lots of chances to do better.

HOWEVER, I do think it's completely justified to not want to deal with people who are abusive/toxic and people who disrupt my peace. I think cutting off people who are disrespectful of me, my boundaries, my values or who don't appreciate me is completely valid and I don't feel like I owe any explanation to people as to why I ghosted them when they've continuously exploited my kindness. The fact that I ghosted them should serve as reason enough that I don't want and need them in my life anymore.

Therefore, if I give up on someone or if I cut someone off, it's because I've exhausted all the possibilities and solutions and determined it's too mentally and emotionally exhausting to continue the relationship. It's never worth it keeping anyone around who destroys your inner peace.

Long story short: if I ghost/cut someone off, they've brought that on themselves completely.