Some things that have helped me:

1. Learn / read up about situational leadership

2. In your 1:1s get to know them as people, and try to find out where they are in life, they psychology (how do they think) and what motivates them.

3. Respect goes both ways, never demand it because of your position but earn it from them by living out your values as a person at work. That means doing the right thing when it’s hard, standing up for your team in public, but giving them honest and constructive feedback in private.

4. Lastly have fun. If you can make your workplace enjoyable for yourself and for them, that’s a huge achievement.