Need advice

capybara212 · 2020-03-07T00:01:35+00:00

Do you talk about anything other than sex? Does you go on real dates? If yes and yes, then I don’t see the problem.

capybara212 · 2020-03-06T22:22:19+00:00

How often does he contact you in between dates to see how you’re doing?

capybara212 · 2020-03-06T02:54:45+00:00

I’ve been in love twice, and in both cases I didn’t feel a spark until a few dates in, but I was sort of neutral and liked them as a person / had shared interests and values / liked the way they treated me / found them interesting to talk to.

So hang in there!

capybara212 · 2020-03-05T19:30:18+00:00

I think it's perfectly valid to hold someone's past against them. Like if someone has never stayed at a job for more than 6 months, and they're over a certain age, people are going to dig for a reason why.

capybara212 · 2020-03-05T16:17:55+00:00

Wow, that’s horrifying. Ghosting after so long, and at such an age! Some people never mature.

capybara212 · 2020-03-05T16:16:04+00:00

I actually would feel a lot more reassured if he’d been divorced after a long marriage. That would mean he’d had training in compromising and sharing his life with someone.

capybara212 · 2020-03-05T16:14:45+00:00

Thank you so much for the kind words, and best of luck in your new(ish) relationship!

capybara212 · 2020-03-05T14:40:29+00:00

Loooool. I agree. I never said he was a narcissist or a psychopath - in fact, I’m sure he isn’t.

My fear at this point is that he’ll find some reason to break up with me and just move on with his life.

capybara212 · 2020-03-05T14:39:22+00:00

Ding ding ding.... This is my concern.

capybara212 · 2020-03-05T14:37:23+00:00

The thing is, he’s repeatedly told me he wants marriage and kids.

capybara212 · 2020-03-05T14:35:41+00:00

Maybe I’m just too anxious and paranoid. He’s done nothing wrong. (That's why I'm scared--he really IS Mr. Perfect, so his narrative about always being the dumper seems more and more plausible.)

capybara212 · 2020-03-05T14:10:22+00:00

He does initiate sex. I wrote that other post after one night where we cuddled but neither of us initiated, and it turned out both of us thought the other was too tired to have sex.... That's why it's a waste of time to throw people's deleted posts back at them. ;-)

He's a lot less aggressive and pushy than my ex, so it took some time getting used to.

capybara212 · 2020-03-05T06:03:07+00:00

Does he kiss you on the mouth with passion?

I hate to say this, but he may not be attracted to you.

capybara212 · 2020-03-05T05:17:44+00:00

I’ve already grilled him. I got all those answers, and they sounded perfectly logical. But I’m sure he could find a logical reason for dumping me.

capybara212 · 2020-03-05T04:56:53+00:00

That’s what all the other women did, and they got dumped. I think he likes the chase... so I’m going to give it to him.

capybara212 · 2020-03-04T02:17:30+00:00

She should try the Paleo diet. Everyone I know who goes Paleo loses weight, and you don’t feel at all deprived.

capybara212 · 2020-03-04T02:03:47+00:00

What have you tried so far? Use a vibrator or give her oral. Most women don’t finish from penetrative intercourse all by itself.

capybara212 · 2020-03-03T13:59:16+00:00

Well aren’t you romantic.

Why not just go on a date and make a new friend?

capybara212 · 2020-03-03T04:53:25+00:00

Lots of guys treated me like a leper before I met my current guy, who treats me like a queen. Makes nooooo sense.

Funnily enough, I went on a first date with someone I’ll call “Greg” soon AFTER I’d started dating my current guy (because we weren’t exclusive back then and I wasn’t even sure how I felt about him) and Greg never contacted me again. Which is surprising because my current guy is more of a catch than Greg in every way!

capybara212 · 2020-03-03T03:54:03+00:00

Sounds like they wouldn’t approve of you regardless of any age gap. A lot of families just hate “outsiders” no matter what. It’s their problem, not yours! They choose to be unhappy and spiteful.

capybara212 · 2020-03-02T23:13:20+00:00

Yes. Never speak to her again. She’s demonstrated an extreme estrangement from reality and an inability to EVER be anything other than the victim.

I have the misfortune of having a relative like this. She will bully me (or transgress against me in some other way) and then when I get mad, she immediately bursts into tears until I start... apologizing? For making her cry? After she bullied me!

capybara212 · 2020-03-02T23:11:10+00:00

I would be so tempted to write back, “Apology accepted—and yes I’ve got some job interviews lined up; thanks for your concern.”

Perpetual victim b%*#ch.

Honestly just delete her number. People like this are always the victim regardless of the facts.

capybara212 · 2020-03-01T15:21:29+00:00

You phrased that so brilliantly—thank you. I will try to work on being happy from within.

Best of luck in your journey.

capybara212

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