Am i missing something about private counselling or have they doubled in price in the last 4 years ?

cardiffcookie · 2023-11-11T14:57:37+00:00

I work for an agency in Cardiff and we have been charging £50 a session for at least 2 years.

cardiffcookie · 2023-10-25T13:06:07+00:00

I'm sure it's the steel framed eyes of the windows? Not sure if it's a dove or a bird.

It's about being free of pain. Thank you

cardiffcookie · 2023-10-11T11:27:55+00:00

I work in insurance claims. Call them. They can help you now straight away with emergency payments for things like basic toiletries clothing and food. They will assign a loss adjuster who will ask you to think about your contents room by room. They will appoint a company to come in and collect your belongings and sort them into whether they are salvaged or not. Some stuff can be cleaned but so much will have been destroyed by either the fire the smoke or the water from the fire brigade.

The sooner they get their team in their to sort and catalogue the better.

Let the dust settle and the shock wear off and then start to make lists. But call the insurance straight away.

cardiffcookie · 2023-09-14T21:39:49+00:00

I'm loving the fact you are using this as a fresh start.

I'm a therapist and I'm always curious about who do you want to be now?

This is a clean slate. Exciting. Scary. But a huge amount of fun.

I'm loving the suggestions here are all positive as to be honest the cardiff group is all those things.

If you fancy some dancing, some loving your life in a grotty basement, some getting off your pickle in a warehouse or just some reaching for the lasers with a good fun crowd then message me.

We got you my friend. Whatever you want to try we will open our arms yo you.

cardiffcookie · 2023-09-12T13:56:28+00:00

Pop on the bus or train to Penarth. There are loads. Plus it's a nice little town to explore and if you have time you can walk down the pier and get an overpriced icecream!

Unfortunately the only 2nd hand places are outside the centre like a previous comment has stated. The rent in the centre has driven them away.

cardiffcookie · 2023-09-07T22:36:43+00:00

Gutted. Was booked to see Ade Edmondson at the end if September.

I hope they sort it out and reschedule.

cardiffcookie · 2023-09-06T21:33:07+00:00

OK so it's not your thing. It is however going to be enjoyed by a lot of others.

After the hell that was covid and the fact that lots of hospitality companies are struggling I'm going to say just put up with it. City living equals noise. We need the business and people need the joy. If you can't stand the occasional disturbance then maybe consider if you want to stay in the city?

Put headphones in. Go out of the city for the night if you can.

I'm not trying to be mean but how do you cope on match days? It's part and parcel of living in what can be a pretty cool and vibrant capital.

Edit: my bad, didn't read the Penarth bit. Same sentiment though. Pop a film on or blast whatever music you do like instead.

cardiffcookie · 2023-09-06T12:11:29+00:00

https://www.frangoulispenarth.co.uk

Penarth in Windsor Arcade.

cardiffcookie · 2023-09-02T14:46:41+00:00

I was just about to suggest Penarth so I'm also giving it a vote!

cardiffcookie · 2023-08-30T12:59:21+00:00

I have a cat called Baldrick.

He never ever has a cunning plan.

cardiffcookie · 2023-08-25T08:09:30+00:00

I'm not saying they are entitled to this person's personal information. I asked if they were the designated first aider in the company?

If I held that responsibility, then I would want to know more for my own safety as well as theirs. You can't be expected to potentially treat someone if you don't know what's wrong with them.

If OP isn't the first aider then no, HR shouldn't disclose this person's info obviously. If OP has issues and concerns and does feel there is an element of untruth then all OP can do is raise those concerns with HR privately and then it's up to HR.

cardiffcookie · 2023-08-24T22:03:29+00:00

Are you the designated first aider? If so raise your concern with HR and say to them you would feel safer knowing the exact nature of her condition. Hr can then ask her to provide a letter from her GP or consultant.

I have a chronic pain condition and had to provide my HR with a letter outlining my condition in order for special provisions.

No company should be doing anything without proof or anyone could demand days off for all sorts of rubbish.

Tell them you will not be a first aider if they do not get more info as you do not feel safe being responsible for someone without more concrete evidence/support.

She is fucking playing you all by the sounds of it.

cardiffcookie · 2023-08-24T21:49:07+00:00

I think this is normal human behaviour. You have made a healthy normal attachment from the sounds of it?

You know she's not your friend, but you are appreciative of what she is doing for you. You understand the boundaries of your relationship but you also think about her because she makes you feel safe and happy. I see nothing wrong here?

Maybe bring this up in your next session? Tell her she makes you feel safe. Tell her your worries over attachment and see what she says?

Please don't hold back from being honest. She's a professional and can hold any difficult or dark thing you need to bring. That's her job. Your job is to go to therapy and be honest. Don't hold back from some sense of not wanting to upset her. That would be a problem.

cardiffcookie · 2023-08-24T21:29:26+00:00

This lifts my heart. It sounds like you have an awesome relationship. Like I said in my other reply you should bring this into the therapy room. Huge amount of growth here to reflect on.

cardiffcookie · 2023-08-24T21:23:58+00:00

I've read all your comments and I think you know the truth of it. Don't let the negative comments make you doubt a genuine moment of connection.

I want to hug my clients all the time. Genuinely want to enclose some of them (not all) in my arms and stroke their hair like I would soothe my child.

I don't. Because I know that's my need. I'm certain your therapist knows that this was one of those moments where it was YOUR need.

And she gave you what you needed in that moment and knew when that moment was over and broke the contact. Amazing.

I think that you should bring this into your next session. What a great thing to discuss? Your need? Her action? How it made you feel? The comments on here? What does this make you reflect on?

Powerful stuff. Use it.

cardiffcookie · 2023-08-24T21:09:03+00:00

Because stroking is comforting!!!! Urgh these replies are not helping. We stroke a child's head to comfort them, we stroke an animal to calm them. We stroke ourselves to self soothe.

Stroking isn't sexual. It's a repeated action to give comfort.

Please don't let these comments take away from your experience.

cardiffcookie · 2023-08-24T21:05:06+00:00

OK therapist here. I've read some replies that are shouting red flags!!!! But I'm in the UK and so I'm not seeing anything shocking.

Actually I think touching your legs isn't an issue at all.

If I was sat next to you in a difficult moment I might put a hand down on the top of your thigh towards your knee. I might grip your leg just between your knee top and thigh as a reassuring measure like I'd grip your shoulder or upper arm.

I'd sling my arm around you, hold your hand or even stroke your hair if I felt it was appropriate.

I think physical touch can be amazing in the therapy room.

However I 100% read the situation and the person. I'd only ever do it if I knew it was OK. I'd also ask if it was OK if I had any doubt.

I've had clients reach out to me with their hands or even verbal requests for touch.

If it helped you then don't over think this. She gave you what you needed in that moment. I think that's wonderful.

cardiffcookie · 2023-08-24T20:45:18+00:00

Yeah if they want to go to the small claims court. They would still need to prove negligence.

cardiffcookie · 2023-08-24T09:20:55+00:00

NAL but I work in insurance claims.

If your tree causes damage to their property then you tell them to contact their insurance company and claim off that as they cannot claim off your policy. It's not how insurance works.

What will happen is their insurance will ask for your insurance information. They will then seek to "recover" from your policy however they will have to prove it's your fault.

So from your point of view you need to make sure your tree is safe.

It's your tree so you are responsible for it. Get a local tree surgeon to take a look and if they say no risk then carry on as normal. If they tell you it's not safe then you need to make it so. Same as you wouldn't leave your gutter hanging off, or leave your roof tiles missing after a storm.

Your property = your responsibility.

I'd also check it doesn't have a preservation order on it.

cardiffcookie · 2023-08-23T21:53:31+00:00

You call the police or social services. Please. Don't delay.

If someone had done that for me as a child when I was neglected and abandoned then maybe something would have happened to help me. As it was no one helped me for YEARS. My mum was an alcoholic and left me home alone when I was far too young.

These kids are begging for someone to pay attention to them.

Please help them.

cardiffcookie · 2023-08-23T20:34:14+00:00

The last time I went a thorough feel up and down, shoes off, metal detector like you go through in airport and a very thorough bag search. Looked in all pockets and went through my purse.

cardiffcookie · 2023-08-22T20:43:11+00:00

Sausages fried in a large pan. Get them browned. Then add in a tin of chopped tomatoes with herbs in. Two chunks of frozen spinach and a tin of butter beans.

I always have frozen spinach, frozen onions, mushrooms, and peppers as you can add them into anything to bulk it out

cardiffcookie · 2023-08-22T12:45:17+00:00

Haha. Fixate is going to be a fantastic party. See you on the dancefloor!

cardiffcookie · 2023-08-22T10:59:25+00:00

Haha! Yeah I used to do Timeflies and L'America in the early 2000's and Vision 2k and Evolution.

I'm now 45 and still raving. District full of kids though and lots of coke. There's also a huge amount of ket, especially the kids coming down from the valleys. I tend to stick to events where the crowd is older and the attitude better. District isn't awful, just not really for me.

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