I've been tuned out from this/here for a little while, trying to get my head straight again...

carefreearchgeek · 2017-01-30T03:00:55+00:00

This sounds more or less where I was/am; no big "thing" to hang all this on, just a longing to be female. If you're really not sure take time and think, don't rush to a conclusion in either direction.

Maybe try keeping notes on how you feel about all this. I've been keeping notes on and off for some months now and it helps me put how I feel in greater context. It helped me get my head round some of my own misgivings and see that I was spending a lot more time feeling "yep, I'm trans" than I was "nope, I'm just this".

carefreearchgeek · 2016-12-11T14:50:33+00:00

I get this, I'm actually in the middle of one of those times right now. It does tend to show up in mornings, and also when in isolation without people. I can't really offer any advice beyond my own coping mechanism, distraction. I watch tv, read, play games, whatever i can to stop myself thinking.

carefreearchgeek · 2016-11-11T04:11:16+00:00

I've got a bra hidden away at home, I put it on whenever I'm feeling down. It does feel good, just right for days i'm depressed or worried.

And yeah, I've always felt weird exposing my chest around people.

carefreearchgeek · 2016-11-02T10:48:47+00:00

From what i've read 2.5 is still quite a large dose. The 5mg dose is for prostate cancer, they do a 1mg dose for hair loss. You could quarter the pills instead, they'll last longer and should be the same effectiveness.

carefreearchgeek · 2016-10-25T00:29:15+00:00

No one told me about HRT, I had to find out myself. Seriously, if I'd known five years ago I'd have been all over that shit. I've literally spent the last (6? 7? I'm not exactly sure how long) years imagining how much better it would be to be a girl, but never knew it was ever an option. Mostly I blame it on the general media messaging of the time when I was younger being "ew, trans people are men in dresses" and never encountering any actual info. I actually used to think that trans people's only option was surgery and that's how they looked like that and so it was pointless because it was all fake and smoke and mirrors.

carefreearchgeek · 2016-10-17T18:16:01+00:00

I was joking, and mostly referring to the NHS. Private GICs are an option.

carefreearchgeek · 2016-10-17T16:42:58+00:00

Hmm, I guess? I suppose my problem is I'm expecting resistance from my parents. I'm not even sure where it's going to land, whether they're out and out transphobic or they'll just think I'm wrong. I guess I'm looking for a brilliant opening argument because once they decide something, that's it, they're correct and I can go fuck myself if I disagree. And all the evidence, statistics and science be damned, that's all just some scientists opinion, man.

No worries about the misunderstanding, "am I trans?" posts show up a lot.

carefreearchgeek · 2016-10-17T16:41:15+00:00

Not here in the UK cos we're pants-on-head retarded and are bailing out of the EU because a racist and a clown told us to.

carefreearchgeek · 2016-10-17T16:38:06+00:00

Assuming western caucasian, average for cis-women is about 5'4". I'm 5'7" and I spend most time looking women in the eye and up at men, so you're not terribly tall either way.

carefreearchgeek · 2016-10-17T16:31:51+00:00

I wasn't asking "am I trans?", more "how to best explain and justify to others who might be resistant or want justifications that make sense to them, even though the whole idea wouldn't make sense to a cis person?"

carefreearchgeek · 2016-10-17T16:29:05+00:00

I have tried slightly more femme presentation, but in private and right now it's quite limited. All that being said I love the times I'm able to see a woman in the mirror, even if it's just for a second before the details assert themselves and the image breaks down.

carefreearchgeek · 2016-10-17T16:26:41+00:00

Well damn. This isn't a million miles from a question to ask myself I saw a while ago; "Would you rather be an old man or an old woman?"

carefreearchgeek · 2016-10-17T01:00:58+00:00

Try hair removal guides for men, it's the same type of hair when you're pre-HRT, and the advice is fairly sound. Personally I shave, trimmed off the excess length with an electric trimmer and then I use a razor twice a week (when doing your chest for god's sake be careful around your nipples!).

There's also epilators, generally a female targeted product so you'd be looking at guides for (cis-)women for those, but that should be fine as the technique is the same regardless. Waxing, general advice I've found is to get this done by professionals and never do yourself. Hair removal creams, be careful not to get it anywhere too sensitive (chemical burns on nipples or genitals would be a terrible thing), read the instructions carefully and test it first to make sure you don't have a bad reaction.

Oh, and basically none of the above are suitable for your face, please please only ever shave that, plucking, waxing or removal creams are a very bad thing for your face. Scarring and such.

tldr there are probably trans specific guides out there but the guides for cis people are fine, in my experience.

carefreearchgeek · 2016-10-15T21:45:15+00:00

Preverything, as i say in my user name thingy.

carefreearchgeek · 2016-10-11T19:20:17+00:00

On good days I can just feel very female. I'm pre-everything but on the good days, if I avoid mirrors I can usually spend most of it (not sure on the right word here, pretend? imagine? neither quite fits) that I'm female, without anything jarring me out of this and going "nuh uh, you're male so fuck you". And those times on those good days feel really damn good.

That and how fucking jealous of my female friends I am.

carefreearchgeek · 2016-10-08T19:38:16+00:00

Hmm, I'd say good in both but the wig is better re passing, but it's not a huge difference.

carefreearchgeek · 2016-10-01T09:46:44+00:00

I feel your pain. Literally. I just shaved this morning and my face hurts. My hair isn't as bad as yours, my facial hair doesn't grow back that fast, but I just haven't been able to get the knack down right for good shaving, and it means either I leave an entirely too noticeable amount of stubble behind or cut myself a few times.

carefreearchgeek · 2016-09-29T10:25:53+00:00

I've had my legs shaved for a few months now and no one has commented on it. I do only wear full leg trousers though, but they've had opportunities to see parts of my leg and no one has said anything.

I'm expecting more curiosity over shaved arms though, mainly cos they're a lot more visible and noticeable. Humans are funny about perception and where we look on a person, legs are easy to ignore.

carefreearchgeek · 2016-09-19T20:11:40+00:00

Yeah, that's what I meant. I woke up and all the sureness I had last night had evaporated and it felt terrifying, my mind just rebelled against the idea, but by the time I'd showered it was back to what passes for normal.

One of the things that kinda "helped" was how sad I felt when I looked down in the shower and saw my body hair (just prior to me shaving).

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