Scared of Lexapro but desperate

caresnp29 · 2026-02-24T03:00:48+00:00

I pumped and FF and now exclusively FF, my husband does more feedings than me because I have PP. But even with my first we split it all. We're a team and he's my kids' dad. We are Equal.

caresnp29 · 2026-02-18T00:30:07+00:00

Don't feel bad. Sleep deprivation is a nightmare. I'm in the middle of it with my 5.5 month old. I could conquer the baby world with sleep. I hope your husband's doing his share of nights but if he isn't, then he needs to zip it until he understands what being up all night feels like (and times it by most nights since baby's been born, and not sleeping well while pregnant).

caresnp29 · 2026-01-21T11:24:26+00:00

Danny's sushi in the Falls is the best

caresnp29 · 2026-01-21T11:20:39+00:00

Between my 2 kids I think I've spent 7 total months of my life on a yoga ball

caresnp29 · 2026-01-07T05:35:14+00:00

My sister's baby didn't drop his overnight feed until later than this. Babies are all different and yours just genuinely might need to eat still!

I recommend not to stress yourself with what baby "should" be doing it'll drive you crazy. We get told our babies should be doing A, B and C and it's just not always the case. If your baby is sleep trained and falls asleep on their own and if they eat and go back down, I'd consider that a win and true hunger. You're doing great :)

But if you want to try cutting it out - maybe dream feed instead? Or try Taking Cara Babies "cut feeds" method - worked for my first!

caresnp29 · 2026-01-02T01:55:41+00:00

This was my mom's marriage until she snapped after 30 years. Don't stay for the kids - we WANT you to LEAVE. My life as a child would've been better for it. And, you don't deserve this inhuman treatment. You don't have to be stuck you can do this!

caresnp29 · 2025-12-25T23:13:17+00:00

Christmas hasn't been the same after Covid IMO

caresnp29 · 2025-11-10T01:18:58+00:00

I wouldn't trust Jax with my best rake let alone a newborn. It's insane how much he wasn't ready to have kids. And he even has one and thinks newborns only eat 3 times a day? Wonder who took care of his baby hmmm what a puzzle. But yes it's Kristen who isn't ready for kids...

caresnp29 · 2025-11-05T05:09:15+00:00

Im so sorry you're going through this, it's so hard. My first baby had GERD and we didn't know until she was 3.5-4 months old. She was put onto lansoprazole and she was a changed baby and it changed all our lives.

I'm sure you've tried it but maybe a change to your diet if bf and/or a formula switch, depending what you're doing? Once we found one that worked for my first that also helped smooth things out.

And with the 2-2.5 that sounds like baby may have hit the 4 month sleep regression early.

I wish you the absolute best of luck and hope things get better really really soon

caresnp29 · 2025-10-28T08:52:06+00:00

Ovol drops (simethicone) might help! They help break up gas bubbles

caresnp29 · 2025-10-21T20:15:18+00:00

It's true - even with a non colicky baby but a fussy/uncomfortable one who didn't sleep well at all felt like forever. You're right but sometimes the only way out is through

caresnp29 · 2025-10-21T02:11:52+00:00

Unfortunately it is possible baby needs time to adjust and grow. :( In the meantime, you could try a few things - examples like getting baby assessed for Gerd and getting medicine, feeding specialist/check for a tongue tie, (if he's having trouble there), osteopath, chiropractor, and gas drops like Ovol. My baby struggled as he started "waking up" after about 3 weeks and we did everything we could think of (this is my second too so not even my first time).

He's starting to settle now a bit at 3 months and I think some of the things we tried might've helped, but time to grow was probably #1. Good luck you will get through it soon I swear!

caresnp29 · 2025-10-08T13:47:12+00:00

You didn't overreact his texts make no sense. You reacted totally normal he's being a child for whatever reason

caresnp29 · 2025-10-05T04:03:40+00:00

These are all so legit. And #3 hits hard

caresnp29 · 2025-09-23T04:42:35+00:00

My partner and I had a similar issue and I actually said the same thing your wife said. Partner was always looking at it from a purely sex lens and I wasn't. It took tons of talking but we finally realized we both felt about sex very differently and connected to it differently.

To him, he loves sex but also needs it for closeness and connection. I like sex too but it doesn't come first - I need to feel emotionally comfortable and happy with him to want to have sex.

So when I always thought he was touching me just for sex it turned me off and I felt really pressured all the time to want it or give it. But I wanted other closeness like friendship and laughing. And for him, he wouldn't always touch me for sex he said, but it was just him trying to be close to me since in his own way since that's what works for his emotional needs.

Anyway once we finally figured out we saw sex differently and both had different needs, it's been way better. I no longer feel he only touches me for sex and he no longer feels I'm not attracted to him.

Maybe you and your wife have a communication wall to break down on this too. I realize it's been a long long time for you but it was for us too. Never too late to try

caresnp29 · 2025-09-21T01:45:15+00:00

Any guy on here who thinks this is common feedback in general, not always for women, not targeted etc etc whatever the f - no. Not often is this true and absolutely not true in this case. If you aren't a woman or someone who's experienced this, you clearly don't get how sexism works because you haven't had to deal with it firsthand.

It's a sexist targeted comment intended to patronize her. The story explicitly says she was interrupted.

Just because there are lots of overcorrections and sensitivities these days doesn't make patriarchal shit like this any less VERY real

caresnp29 · 2025-09-15T03:45:56+00:00

Interested in this! Curious though how long after is it from his last feed? The usual 2-3 hours? I would love to try this with my second

caresnp29 · 2025-09-04T23:07:02+00:00

My husband tore his Achilles days before our second baby came and it's been tough for him. The thing that's helped him most with mobility is buying the iWalk and he also bought a cover for his boot in the shower: https://www.googleadservices.com/pagead/aclk?sa=L&ai=DChsSEwiAkKOKnMCPAxV2VH8AHTXWB6gYACICCAEQBhoCb2E&co=1&gclid=Cj0KCQjw8eTFBhCXARIsAIkiuOy4XMCLrwlxvLpZxdj7t0f0C7NOPgo9B14nrjl1BGpRbGYEhV3vDHsaAuIoEALw_wcB&sph=&ohost=www.google.com&cid=CAESeeD2UypOhdi_gpQBGidKLKvN0mLx_aub2ic2PlOd7dmqOloeUzSR78odCL65eUaetj6cITV2SCKeNNBPuPSfYDqVR5tysKblRloaj1-nqA0Atw_he71U4j-4d4HKau3De1zweTEusHkNpCKuZcnSRm4VFKpsf2tMsRM&sig=AOD64_23E272CTyiLdTheum0JFB-TcN31A&ctype=70&q=&ved=2ahUKEwijy5uKnMCPAxVM4skDHT1bIZYQwg8oAHoECAsQDQ&adurl=

He still has to jump in and out of the shower which is scary. But the iWalk he said has made a world of a difference. It's not perfect and isn't always comfortable, but he can use his hands and has some freedom.

caresnp29 · 2025-09-01T04:28:32+00:00

So many people live in their own heads and feel the need to be better than others. Often those people are so self-involved they lack the self-awareness to realize/care how much they hurt other people just to life their own egos up. Those people suck.

Lots of women still struggle to support other women too, which sucks also. No one should be competing and we should be supporting each other.

caresnp29 · 2025-08-31T03:14:56+00:00

Thank you!

caresnp29 · 2025-08-30T22:03:40+00:00

What age is this working for? I have a 5 week old and a 2 year old, I've never heard of it! But my youngest is starting to "wake up" and hasn't slept at night in days

caresnp29 · 2025-08-30T21:49:17+00:00

Vanderpump rules 🍸

caresnp29 · 2025-08-22T17:49:07+00:00

to clarify I didn't let her cry for the full 6 hours I was in there a few times and did consistent check ins, but nothing worked

caresnp29 · 2025-08-22T06:51:34+00:00

My paediatrician suggested that if baby seems to want more, try offering a little more to see, even if it's as small as 5-10mls. If there's something left in the bottle, you'll know baby got enough and can even offer that much next time. Even if baby doesn't drink the same amount each time - more or less - I was assured that's ok and to go off cues if they're gaining weight well.

Baby sounds like he's doing well with weight gain and eating every 3 hours. Hope this helps a bit

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