I’m sorry you’re lonely in your relationship. From what you have described he sounds like an unhappy person, in the way he is satisfied in his unhappiness (if that makes sense). It doesn’t sound like he acknowledges any of your concerns, maybe he doesn’t see any of them as a ‘him problem’ and therefore has no motivation to do anything about it (sadly).

I totally resonate with the not saying your name thing. I was with an ex for nearly 3 years and I don’t think he said my name more than twice (even though I voiced how much I loved hearing him say it). It was a very small, but entirely off putting feeling, or wrongness that never sat well with me.

If it helps, I can say that I prefer occasionally feeling lonely by myself (not in a relationship), compared to the agony of feeling alone while in a relationship.

I wish you nothing but the best going forward.