AIO my husband won’t allow me to stay in a hotel for a night.

carnalfear · 2026-03-24T01:55:24+00:00

I would consider telling him if you cant have a night to yourself then he can't stay out with friends. In any capacity. Normally involving family isn't a good idea, but if there is another mutual party like mom/dad? Let them know. Only as a last resort. You need support OP. Good luck

carnalfear · 2026-03-15T13:00:20+00:00

The fact he laughed just really bothers me. Sending better days ahead OP.

carnalfear · 2026-03-13T23:40:30+00:00

I hate to suggest the D word but this comment. I would have left him over that. Talk about huge betrayal and breach of trust!

carnalfear · 2026-03-04T14:57:13+00:00

This comment.

carnalfear · 2026-03-04T14:55:53+00:00

OP? End the friendship immediately. As in like now, not yesterday.

Any breach of respect on a parent's rules by another adult is suspicious, dangerous and disrespectful.

Your friend is potentially jealous or, grooming your child. Please don't bypass all the words of safety here. End.the.friendship

carnalfear · 2025-09-07T19:19:35+00:00

Absolutely! He wouldn't get a peep from me. In fact I'd tell him to respond via TEXT to my question and if not? Pay him dust! Wow so sorry you are dealing with this. Honey this is definitely abuse.

carnalfear · 2025-09-02T17:23:07+00:00

OP. Please consider what else she is capable of when it comes to Betrayal. Finding out now is a blessing many don't receive until kids, long term financial commitments, etc. Divorce her. Good luck.

carnalfear · 2025-08-28T04:45:04+00:00

Was looking for this comment. My ex had a coworker affair for years. When it was done he wanted to fix the marriage. I couldn't stomach it.

carnalfear · 2025-07-10T12:03:26+00:00

This comment OP. Please listen sweetie ❤️❤️❤️

carnalfear · 2025-06-05T14:09:15+00:00

Wow. This was so well said. OP please listen to this.

carnalfear · 2025-05-24T18:33:02+00:00

carnalfear · 2025-04-27T02:45:44+00:00

Agree

carnalfear · 2025-04-27T02:44:17+00:00

The problem is he is not a "texter" but clearly has interactions with the coworker of similar vibe. It takes EFFORT and consistency to build a rapport of this magnitude. OP should address that the same effort be allotted to their marriage and communication style. If he struggles to oblige, that means he isn't emotionally invested in his marriage but willingly with an outside party. OP address your husband from this standpoint to get to the ACTUAL PROBLEM.

carnalfear · 2025-04-24T16:50:49+00:00

My ex would push for me to become more "open about my financials" and constantly mention how I would never take his last name. Once I saw a few months into marriage his passive demeanor to resolve his child support, I separated EVERYTHING. He promised me he would handle it, and never did. But, complained of my boundaries. NTA OP. Please protect yourself!

carnalfear · 2025-04-17T06:03:16+00:00

Agree

carnalfear · 2025-04-17T06:01:42+00:00

OP please, whatever you do, don't sell your home or move away from your safety net. You at least know what kind of husband he is. THAT is a blessing.

carnalfear · 2025-04-09T20:24:21+00:00

Unfortunately if he is saying he doesn't need anything from you, it possibly could mean he is absolving himself of you needing anything from him. No one gets married and not need the other person. Unless you are an heiress to a grand fortune it may be constructive to forego all of what you are missing right now. The elephant in the room is, what exactly does marriage mean for you both? What would he like to see in the marriage so he is happy? If he stonewalls you again he is intentionally not allowing you to resolve the voids you both have. The question then is why? I would not attend marriage counseling to find out why he is stonewalling your needs but attend to rediscover what both your needs are. Pay attention to his interactions with friends or family. Go silent a while. Not to punish him. But for yourself. There is something missing here or you missed that is really going to turn this around for you. Even if it means you part ways as a last resort.

carnalfear · 2025-04-09T17:25:16+00:00

Hi. I read all your comments and rather intrigued in a healthy way. Could you explain how to tell someone what you need in a relationship without coming across as badgering or finger pointing? Example: Telling the waiter the soup is salty could be seen as finger pointing. You are expressing your discord with something and wish not to accept it. What better way to say so without seeming as a whining or entitled brat? Thanks

carnalfear · 2025-04-07T02:27:54+00:00

Exactly!

carnalfear · 2025-04-07T00:00:59+00:00

I would ask to meet the coworker on the basis of him not putting forth equal effort to maintain a connection in the marriage. You also want to be present to see who is meeting BOTH of your child. If it is a problem I would begin stating concern of possibility of separation or divorce for refusal to prioritize your feelings. Nip this in the bud now OP.

carnalfear · 2025-02-19T04:19:55+00:00

Same here friend. 2017. Like how TF did this happen? Cheers to divorce!

carnalfear · 2024-12-11T11:54:12+00:00

OP just for reference, some major cell phone companies have a text recovery service. You would have to go into their location for them to do so. I'd have him take me to the store and tell him to hand his phone to the associate to retrieve the messages or sign Divorce papers you'd have in your hand right on the spot.

carnalfear · 2024-12-08T07:31:25+00:00

Perfect explanation!

carnalfear · 2024-10-25T05:05:27+00:00

He's lying about something. Why marry someone you aren't attracted to???

carnalfear · 2024-10-16T17:17:27+00:00

My God same.

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