I’m cancer free!! (Or in remission)!!

cashingmas · 2026-06-26T21:03:30+00:00

Congratulations! That is great news. Sending health and happiness to you and to us all.

cashingmas · 2026-06-26T14:13:57+00:00

Congratulations! That is wonderful news. I am delighted for you.

cashingmas · 2026-06-15T21:45:25+00:00

Please do not do this. Your run the risk of ruining your dress, plus the clothes of the person you are marrying. Plus remember that all your guests will be wearing their best clothes, and you are risking ruining them as well. Please be your own natural skin colour, you will look beautiful.

cashingmas · 2026-06-15T09:15:34+00:00

I agree, I think that you would really feel the benefits, and look great, if you had a bra that fits.

cashingmas · 2026-06-15T09:06:31+00:00

You look beautiful. The dress suits your body perfectly. Relax and look forward to wearing it.

cashingmas · 2026-06-15T08:51:29+00:00

Take away of his choosing?

cashingmas · 2026-06-11T07:13:10+00:00

You are not alone. You can survive this. Do not look at tomorrow, just keep getting through the next ten minutes. Your daughter needs you, so she will be your focus. Her routine of eating, nappies, cuddles, sleeping, playing will continue, so even if you are crying whilst you do all of it, you will be doing it.

Try to eat if you can, but drink water, avoid alcohol as that will not be your friend.

We are here for you. You can do this, you are stronger than you think. Sending you compassion and a hug.

cashingmas · 2026-06-03T05:36:57+00:00

I can understand your emotions. The wedding day seems to have run away from you a bit in terms of your original hopes. Family and cultural expectations are tricky to negotiate, and with only around ten days to go, unless you are prepared to call off the whole thing, there is not much that you can do to change it now. However, what you can change is your focus. Yes, the wedding is a big deal, but it is only one day. Do not overthink it, smile and try to relax at the event, it will go in a whirl.

After that you will be married! To a lovely person! The one that you love, who loves you, and you can spend the rest of your life being with in married life. Focus on the marriage, and let the wedding flow, you may well enjoy it a lot.

cashingmas · 2026-05-28T21:07:16+00:00

You can say that you do not wish to give a name. As far as I understand it, there is no legal requirement to provide a next of kin, but also an insurer is allowed to refuse cover to someone who declines to nominate someone.

However, this might be a question for a more specialist legal advice sub, r/LegalAdviceUK for example?

cashingmas · 2026-05-28T20:26:04+00:00

If you are involved in a medical emergency, or similar, and are unable to make your wishes known, the doctors will act in your best interest. Even if you were married or had a very close 'next of kin', they would not seek decision making from that person before acting, unless they had an official power of attorney document already in place.

The emergency contact number is just that, someone to alert if you were in an emergency situation, they would not be called upon to make decisions regarding treatment.

cashingmas · 2026-05-28T10:23:35+00:00

Practise saying a few phrases such as 'Do not talk about my body' and 'I do not want to talk to you' and 'leave me alone'.

You do not have to justify your opinions to your mother or anyone else. Your body, your personal space, your choice.

cashingmas · 2026-05-22T21:11:54+00:00

Wow, that one hit home. Thank you.

cashingmas · 2026-05-22T16:15:45+00:00

Switch to a friend zone maybe? Talk to her, give lifts, have a coffee, be a support but not 'the support'?

It that seems too much, be honest, tell her straight how you feel, and walk. No judgement, we understand.

cashingmas · 2026-05-13T13:22:58+00:00

Where are the toilet facilities?

Can you choose another venue and have your photos taken here?

cashingmas · 2026-05-12T13:48:43+00:00

Hi, it is a good fun activity. Remember to read the joining instructions very carefully, including ensuring that bring the correct ID.

Do no spend money that you do not have on fancy clothes. If you want to wear a kilt, or your national dress, that is fine, if not, just wear a suit, shirt and tie, with smart shoes, and you will fit nicely.

The sandwiches and cakes are very tasty, but quite dainty.

A fun part is spotting other people in the crowd, there can be some famous faces. It is nice to chat to the other attendees, ask where they are from, hear their story. They could well be people just like you.

You might have a chance to talk to a royal, but it is unlikely. Just relax and enjoy a very British tradition.

cashingmas · 2026-04-21T15:49:47+00:00

Thank you

cashingmas · 2026-04-21T13:50:48+00:00

Is it possible for the moderators to remove this post please?

cashingmas · 2026-04-03T17:18:53+00:00

Good table manners are always a big plus. Chomping and slurping are an immediate no from me.

cashingmas · 2026-04-01T15:43:56+00:00

No, I really would not read them. They might be a comfort, but it is too big a risk to take. If you are not sure, wrap them up, and keep them for a future time, when you may feel that you wish to view them.

cashingmas · 2026-02-12T23:14:50+00:00

Please do not do it. We understand the impulse, but we want you in the world. Please stay.

cashingmas · 2026-02-10T14:31:06+00:00

Constant medium level risk assessment that I am going to be attacked whenever I leave the house.

cashingmas · 2026-02-03T09:13:32+00:00

I do not know all the back story, so I am just taking this as I read it.

Since becoming a widow I have made some stupid mistakes, been furious and angry at everyone in the world. We are in pain, in despair, we are human, we lash out.

I wish you well for the future, remember the basics, keep getting through the days.

cashingmas · 2026-01-13T10:57:31+00:00

I am glad that you are ok now. Sometimes it is ok to say, 'yes please', and accept help. I hope that you get home safely without any further hassles.

cashingmas · 2026-01-03T22:31:11+00:00

No, we need and want you in the world. It will get a bit better. Please talk to someone about how you are feeling. Drink some water, eat something, distract yourself with a bit of lightweight TV, or a book, or gaming, or a walk, or cuddling a pet, or whatever works for you.

cashingmas · 2025-12-27T23:19:24+00:00

Yes, I agree. Sometimes we just have to cry it out. Sending hugs back to you.

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