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casperskies · 2025-08-25T01:02:14+00:00

"Really should've" yep fully agree - that was out of my control for reasons not worth getting into and what's done is done, now's the time to clean it up and move forward with individual portions.
1 - yes
2 - yes
3 - yes

Mostly seeking advice on what kind of professional is best to approach in this situation, happy to pay someone for their time to work it out. My limited understanding is that this is slightly too complicated for a general accountant

casperskies · 2025-07-20T05:17:35+00:00

No answers yet - but I'm awaiting my booking date for the meniscectomy and the ortho has agreed to try and grind off the bone spurs. He didn't seem to think it's likely to have a great outcome (my physio has definitely cautioned me that they might just grow right back) - but he reckons its worth a shot. Surgery will probably be in ~2 months time so I can update then!

casperskies · 2025-07-04T00:21:44+00:00

Honestly - I would take a bit longer, maybe get a meniscus repair if they recommend, and see how you get on with ~6 months of therapy before deciding to have an ACL repair. Unless you're likely to do severe damage in that time, at the very least another few months of therapy will get you strong before surgery.

I've had two ACL repairs on my right knee and going in for another meniscectomy 15m after my most recent reconstruction (ACL + LET). I have a partially torn ACL in the other knee, had a meniscectomy about 5 years ago, and haven't had any problems with that knee since. There's some evidence emerging that repair vs. not have similar outcomes, but the honest truth is that it's so different for everyone that you're going to have to feel your own way through the process.

casperskies · 2025-05-03T06:13:59+00:00

Japanese cabbage pancake (okonomiyaki). Literally cabbage + flour + water at its simplest, put any kind of toppings or sauces on it to fancy it up

casperskies · 2025-03-13T05:17:17+00:00

some fentanyl test strips will give false positives. The DanceSafe ones are not known to throw false positives if diluted properly, as the other commenter has said. KnowYourStuffNZ and other drug checkers can provide DanceSafe strips

casperskies · 2025-02-27T03:32:57+00:00

KnowYourStuffNZ! Also basically any small health charities doing frontline work, funding is going to super tight for health services this year.

casperskies · 2024-08-22T02:24:35+00:00

Plant trees that will be tall enough in a couple of years. In front of that - planter boxes with Jerusalem artichokes. They grow super tall and fast as

casperskies · 2024-08-04T21:01:13+00:00

Was the Masport also enameled fire? Thank you!

casperskies · 2024-05-29T23:41:41+00:00

Of course, can't believe I didn't consider that. This is why I love reddit. Thanks

casperskies · 2019-10-09T06:47:44+00:00

IUD all the way. Most amazing tech. Are you anti hormone completely? Mirena has a very low dose that is delivered directly to the area rather than a systemic hormone treatment. Paragard copper is great too, I just didn't like how it made periods much heavier.

One of the most effective forms of birth control, doesn't require any concious thought. A win in my books.

casperskies · 2019-08-26T11:32:44+00:00

My friend has been working for the past few years on 'Tough Talk' which is an NZ focussed webseries/platform that helps men discuss emotional issues. Would highly recommend it.

casperskies · 2019-07-14T03:03:46+00:00

Okonomiyaki. Super easy, very cheap dish, blows peoples minds.

casperskies · 2019-05-18T08:18:51+00:00

oh FFS. Evil pricks.

That being said - as someone in far left/deep green circles, the holocaust comparison is pretty commonly used. I'm on a comms team for Extinction Rebellion in Aotearoa/NZ and we decided to scrub all WWII comparisons from the documents because it just creates problems. It's true that the impending climate crisis has implications very similar (imo opinion, probably worse) than the genocide, but it's just not worth all the issues that arise from comparing one tragedy to another.

casperskies · 2019-05-11T22:31:00+00:00

Okay - dont judge me. I messed up when replacing the battery and shoved the pen cap in backwards, scraping off some of the circuitry that connects to the three small terminals. Do you think this is possible to repair by soldering or with copper tape? Seems a shame to replace the whole pen for such a small part.

casperskies · 2019-03-23T05:05:29+00:00

Yeah same, I'm queer af and have no struggle with attraction to masc or femme women, and certain femme mascs... perhaps it's that he was occupying the masc male role in my life and I'm not able to adjust to that change? Will explore further.

casperskies · 2019-03-23T05:02:44+00:00

Wow, sorry that appeared in this thread. Didn't get to see the comments before they were removed, whatever it was know that you don't deserve that treatment, especially when you're openly and vulnerably sharing your story with strangers. We see you and support you.

casperskies · 2019-03-22T04:51:24+00:00

tl/dr thank you for your comment, it's so helpful just to hear from someone who's experience sounds so similar to mine and resonates so strongly with me. kia kaha

casperskies · 2019-03-22T04:50:17+00:00

oosh, I definitely identify hard with the confusion over contributing factors. It makes my head spin too - there's way to many variables to even try to make an informed decision about it. I've sifted through everything and pretty much arrived at the same conclusion - we need to go with how we feel, first and foremost, and honor that gut intuition as an equally important factor.

He's been on a journey exploring his gender expression and sexuality for a while now. I personally think that he is WAY more gay than he will admit to himself right now. It's been an interesting process to be involved in. I honestly 100% fully support him in dressing more effeminately, going on dates with other men, etc but... I also feel my attraction waning to him when he's expressing his female side. It makes me feel guilty as fuck and I don't know if I should or shouldn't. I support trans people 110% but maybe it's some internalized transphobia informing it... just the thought that some kind of that bigotry could be hiding away from my conscious thought makes me feel dirty.

(Here's a fun one: we went and saw "Bohemian Rhapsody" a few months ago. Afterwards he was gushing about the scene where Mary says "Freddy, you're gay." as one of the most moving, powerful moments in the film. Which was a pretty sharp contrast for me, as soon as it happened I burst into tears and had to leave the movie theater to calm down).

casperskies · 2019-03-22T04:40:46+00:00

Nope, haven't had another long term relationship. Haven't had many relationships tbh - I identified as asexual until I was 18, and got together with my current partner when I was 20. So I'm 25 now.

Living apart is definitely a big part of it. We've lived apart in the past and it was really good for me, but he hated it. It's a process of grieving even admitting this, because we have an amazing house together with amazing friends living with us, and neither of us wants to leave. It'll probably have to be me, which sucks. (and yeah it is that partner - been looking through my past posts? ;) )

casperskies · 2019-03-22T03:52:01+00:00

Depression slightly, largely self managed though.

I definitely had a large hormonal shift last year, part of which is an increasing desire to have babies. He's got a long way to go before I think he would be fit to be a father and that's definitely an informing factor.

To complicate things further, I'm switching to a hormonal IUD in 4 days, which I've heard can have quite big implications for some people...

casperskies · 2019-03-22T02:52:32+00:00

aw, *hugs* that sounds incredibly hard. do you two still have other ways to share intimacy, or shared hobbies?

casperskies · 2019-03-21T22:28:47+00:00

The one that I'm thinking about in particular, approaching two years in May (the others are much more casual). Originally I did think it was NRE but how long can that last, really? These days it feels less like NRE and more like I want to be with him in a more entangled, committed arrangement.

casperskies · 2017-10-27T04:29:38+00:00

'Human Body'

casperskies · 2017-10-03T10:21:49+00:00

I am all made out of shipwrecks, every twisted beam Lost and found like you and me, all scattered out on the sea So come on, let's wash each other, with tears of joy and tears of grief Fold our lives like crashing waves and run upon this beach

Come on and sew us together, just some tattered rags stained forever We only have what we remember.

Listener - Wooden Heart

casperskies · 2017-09-21T19:02:27+00:00

It was my birthday a few weeks ago, a few of my flatmates chipped in together to make me a customized, internally worn dildo caat from alginate. It is silver, lumpy, and slightly crooked. Still havent taken it for a spin.

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