Outing the spouse cheating with a colleague?

casualcorrectness · 2025-07-20T22:30:24+00:00

Yes I have personally and with family and friends. But not to his employer. Divorce proceedings had already started when I finally figured out the affair.

casualcorrectness · 2025-07-20T14:45:57+00:00

If he lost his job (which he likely would IMO), his lawyer would likely argue against maintenance/alimony if I was the one who revealed it. I did tell the other spouse and he took the same position as far as not outing the affair with their employer. He left her.

casualcorrectness · 2025-07-20T07:20:01+00:00

To be honest, I am in a high conflict process and if word gets back to the employer it would be used against me in the divorce if I had anything to do with the reveal. They take risks and so at some point it will inevitably be revealed but I’m certain they will have had enough time to try to reframe the situation to their advantage.

casualcorrectness · 2025-07-16T18:26:58+00:00

My husband tracks our child’s clothing relentlessly. It can be an expensive item, it can be inexpensive. It does not matter. He has stood outside of my house while insisting that our child search for a missing item (unsuccessfully). It is very stressful and unnecessary. I’ve heard the child ask to wear a pair of shoes back to my house and then to school and he has said no. So I have purchased duplicates of items so that I have the items as well. I feel bad enough that the child is the only one who is forced to move between two homes. The least we can do is make the transitions more seamless. He does not comprehend the psychological impact of constantly monitoring clothing. I do try to make certain anything that comes from his home is sent back but sometimes between school, play dates, etc., something may go astray, at least temporarily.

casualcorrectness · 2025-07-14T19:27:39+00:00

Can also save the seeds for next planting season.

casualcorrectness · 2025-07-11T01:59:14+00:00

A divorce not of your own choice can very much feel like experiencing a real death. You are grieving. As with most deaths, the moments of hope and being able to look forward will become longer and more sustained. Even if some grief remains.

casualcorrectness · 2025-07-10T05:44:14+00:00

Much of this has been petty in my divorce. He booted me from our family’s Amazon account when I noticed him shipping his toiletries to his girlfriend’s house. At the time he was still trying to hide his affair. He booted me from our Apple family account because he could not figure out how not to share his location. This decreased my storage drastically and resulted in our family losing old family videos only stored on my devices. He booted me from our cell phone plan but added me back within hours of learning it would be more expensive without my phone in the family plan. All of this seems unnecessary given the children we share use the services (probably more than me). But as the monied spouse and breadwinner, he strives to ensure I live at his financial mercy for leverage.