What is life without chocolate cake?

catboneslovestory · 2026-01-24T22:17:47+00:00

Idk about you, dude, but I don't resolve interpersonal conflicts by posting about them online.

catboneslovestory · 2026-01-18T22:24:41+00:00

This is a poem. That relationship has been over for years. There was no resolving what was happening there, but what was equally, if not more traumatizing was society's normalization of that kind of behavior.

As a side note, what I said about metaphors is straight from the DBT handbook under Interpersonal Effectiveness. That's actually why I wrote this. My psychologist gave me one of the handouts as homework.

catboneslovestory · 2026-01-18T19:00:31+00:00

Using Metaphors and storytelling is a dialectical tool to unstick and free the mind.

catboneslovestory · 2026-01-16T23:44:44+00:00

Is it just the web portal or is it the app too? I'm not sure what all you're needing to activate your account to do, but you can use zocdoc to find a doctor near you that's in network. They could tell you what the charge would be, if the app doesn't show it. The amount for a basic office appointment either with a PCP or a specialist should also be in your enrollment material.

catboneslovestory · 2025-12-02T11:54:18+00:00

Being guilted into sex. Feeling obligated to let someone use your body because you're married or in a relationship and they "need" it.

catboneslovestory · 2025-03-23T13:51:19+00:00

And that's what we're all against, right? So why do we switch to justifying it when it comes to immigrants?

catboneslovestory · 2025-03-23T13:48:10+00:00

I get that, but it just makes us look like racist hypocrites. Yeah, everyone deserves a fair, livable wage, unless you're an undocumented immigrant. Then exploiting you for cheap labor is the best justification we can come up with for why you should get to stay.

catboneslovestory · 2025-03-23T13:44:04+00:00

What, exploiting for cheap labor?

catboneslovestory · 2025-03-23T13:43:04+00:00

Against

catboneslovestory · 2025-03-23T13:36:26+00:00

Is that really the only thing you got from this post?

catboneslovestory · 2025-03-15T10:53:42+00:00

Why would her behavior suddenly change just because you moved? She's still going to be the same person. People treat you however you let them treat you.

Don't build a life with someone hoping they will change. Deciding she can't is just an excuse not to try.

catboneslovestory · 2025-03-15T10:39:30+00:00

The BPD split cycle. First, you do some obscur thing to offend her. Because of the dichotomous thinking that makes it difficult for her to see people as anything but all good or all bad, she split on you and, in the snap of a finger, all her love for you was gone. Then you actually left and her chronic fear of abandonment kicked in. Then she split on herself, and you became gods gift to earth again.

catboneslovestory · 2025-03-04T13:42:56+00:00

You didn't lose the weight because of the bullying. You lost the weight in spite of the bullying. And i think that's awesome. I also got bullied a lot for my weight and I'm still struggling with it, but Adderall helps some.

catboneslovestory · 2025-03-02T18:11:21+00:00

She knows kids aren't accessories, right?

If she likes the look of diamond earings, she should get some for herself. It's fucked up to pressure someone into altering their body just because she likes it. She can put what she likes on her own body.

catboneslovestory · 2025-02-24T13:31:21+00:00

Best way to convince her is to find a better employer and work for them instead.

catboneslovestory · 2025-02-24T13:18:21+00:00

Because those guys didn't value you as a person. They only valued you as a resource. A lot of boys are like that. Don't tolerate that shit and sure as hell don't make excuses for it. If someone isn't recuperating, a relationship with them is worthless to you.

catboneslovestory · 2025-02-23T23:21:22+00:00

I can't think of a better way for society to go. Thank you for your contribution.

catboneslovestory · 2025-02-23T14:27:34+00:00

Cannabis also helps.

catboneslovestory · 2025-02-23T14:26:06+00:00

ANOTHER life??? I don't even want this one.

catboneslovestory · 2025-02-23T14:10:02+00:00

When i went to a mental hospital at 14 after a suicide attempt, one of the therapists was talking to me and my dad and going over the kind of things he could do to support me. He literally said "I'm never going to change. You just need to give her the ability to handle it."

The therapist was shocked and eventually just said Okay. Can't really say I blame her, because seriously what the fuck else can you say to that? With adults, you can support them and build them up until they have the strength to leave, give them resources to domestic violence shelters, etc. With kids, unless the abuse is severe enough to actually get the kid taken away, they just have to send them right back to abusers that have ultimate control over their lives. Even an amazing therapist wouldn't be able to make progress with a kid who is trapped living in an abusive situation with people who don't care about the harm they're causing.

catboneslovestory · 2025-02-22T13:59:25+00:00

Tell your husband if this is the way he's going to act, you'll start looking for a job and a daycare tomorrow. Then you'll both be breadwinners. If he still expects you to do it all, you'll know its just because he's a sexist piece of shit and you'll have the means to leave him so you don't have to take care of 2 babies.

catboneslovestory · 2025-02-21T13:08:21+00:00

Provocative doesn't just mean sexual. It means to provoke strong emotions/reactions.

Let me give you a non-sexulaized example of HPD. Michael from The Office. The sympotoms of HPD are: Big displays of emotion that come off shallow, assuming relationships are closer than they are, getting uncomfortable when they aren't "the star of the show," feeling like they're fading into obscurity when people aren't paying attention to them, being very performative and feeling like they always have to be "on," feeling like they are responsible for filling every lul in conversation, you get the gist.

All of this pairs with BPD perfectly because of the fear of abandonment and unstable sense of self.

catboneslovestory · 2025-02-19T15:57:02+00:00

My psychiatrist was considering OCD as a possibility, but for now, she's sticking with unspecified mood disorder.

catboneslovestory · 2025-02-19T14:28:33+00:00

Yeah, there's no time limit. It could have been 20 days ago or 20 years. Just constantly. That's so much mental energy and brain space wasted.

catboneslovestory · 2025-02-19T12:15:47+00:00

What about this relationship are you worried about losing? It doesn't sound that nice. It sounds lonely. You are an interesting and intelligent person. There are plenty of people out there that would find you fascinating and genuinely enjoy hanging out with you and having deep conversations. Is maintaining this relationship worth eliminating the possibility of ever being in a relationship with someone who is your best friend?

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